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Diabolical Moeblobbing

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I’m so obsessed over Yussa being revealed as trans immediately after the reveal that he fucked around and got his soul trapped in the astral plane with the sentient mind-eating city. Like he is trans and content in his identity which is fully acknowledged by the world at large! Unfortunately he is also a wizard and there’s not much we can do to help him with that

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sobbing. i love u my jewish learning ♡

[ID: Screenshot of an instagram post. The photo shows a young man dressed in traditional Orthodox Jewish clothing- a black hat, black suit and pants, and white shirt- wraps tefillin around the arms of a person draped in the rainbow pride flag. The person in the pride flag has shoulder length hair and is wearing a large white kipah, a t shirt, and shorts. They are standing outside on pavement. It's captioned "Do a mitzvah." End ID.]

EDIT: Photo is by uri cohn

This is the world I want to live in.

(Context for gentiles: the man on the left is probably a member of Chabad. Chabad is a sort-of-Orthodox-it’s-really-complicated-please-don’t-ask-me-to-elaborate Jewish organization that does outreach involving asking Jews in the wider community if they’d like the chance to complete a mitzvah; for example, at Sukkot they’ll ask if Jews walking by would like to shake the bundle of Four Species, which they might not have the chance to do at home. This probably-a-Chabad-member has identified the queer person in the photo as a Jew and offered them the chance to wrap tefillin, which is a central part of certain Jewish blessings. Basically this very traditional man has walked up to this very untraditional man and said “hey! Have you had the chance to pray today? Would you like to?” Jewish prayer mostly revolves around the saying of blessings, not around requests, so the prayers said with tefillin are basically “it’s an awesome day and I’m glad I’m living it.” There is no “this person is wrong for their flag or orientation or gender”—it’s just “this person is a fellow Jew, I will ask if they want to perform a mitzvah.”)

I was already here, but I’m taking a closer look at this image and I think there’s another important thing to add:

Especially because this is a Pride event, there is a much higher than usual greater-than-zero chance this person is either nonbinary or a trans man.

Wrapping tefillin is a male mitzvah. That’s to say, women aren’t obligated to do it, and many traditionalists say women shouldn’t do it. And it’s also considered an act of modesty for men not to touch women outside of their own family.

The probably-a-Chabad-member is wrapping tefillin (a male mitzvah), which involves touching someone he’s not related to (forbidden between sexes), on someone who may not be a cisgender man and, if he is, presents as GNC.

So in addition to everything I said above: this is a very traditional man looking at a very untraditional person-who-may-not-meet-his-own-definition-of-“man” and saying “you are a man to yourself in the eyes of G-d, therefore you’re a man to me. Have you had the chance to pray today? Would you like to?”

I choose to incorporate this into my worldview.

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Adam Sandler, magnificent bastard, was not a sentence I ever expected to say but here we are.

Man's got talent

babe wake up new adam sandler lore just dropped

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Huh.

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Everyone who works with him talks about what a mensch he is, so, like... that scans.

Yeah he plays a lot of really annoying characters because there's a market for it. But this all tracks of what I've heard about him behind the scenes.

HEY ART FRIENDS if you wanna check out a cute art site that has apparently been around FOR A WHILE and I just somehow never heard of it until a few months ago, behold: NeonMob!

tl;dr artists can create "trading card" sets of their digital art prints (non-exclusive and retaining all ownership rights) that people can collect and trade with each other, and it is super cute (and like legit with no n..f.t or a..i garbage - if you see old a..i. sets they were recently banned by the new site owners and permanently retired). it's very thoughtful and an artist-centric community

anyway I love it and it's fun and wholesome. if you wanna join with my referral we both get sweet bonus art, but I'm not in it for the bonuses, just spreading the good word so I have more people to trade rectangles with 👀

"I don't want anyone to know I'm related to Drizzt, I need an alias. I know! I'll call myself Dininae. No one will suspect a thing."

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It’s me, Dininope.

I gave my soapbox speech about how weight loss is mostly bullshit to two different patients in a row yesterday and so help me I’m pretty sure one of these days someone is going to say “but SURELY you agree I’d be HEALTHIER if I lost weight!” bc you can see the disbelief in their eyes. And like. Sure, maybe! You might see some improvement in biomarkers like LDL and A1c, and your knees would probably feel better. But you would be amazed at how much more good you can do for yourself by focusing on things you can actually meaningfully change without resorting to making yourself miserable. Eat more fresh fruits and vegetables—it’s hard bc they’re more difficult to prepare and more expensive per calorie and go bad faster than other foods, but they’re what we evolved eating the most of so they’re what our bodies need the most of. And walk around more; sure, cardio is great for you, but if it sucks so bad you don’t do it, it isn’t doing shit for you. And we evolved to walk very very long distances, a little bit at a time, so our bodies respond actually very well to adding walks into our schedules, which is vastly easier than adding workouts that are frankly designed to be punishing when the definition of punishing is “makes you less likely to do it again in the future.”

You get one life. It is shorter than you can begin to imagine. Don’t waste it hating yourself because somebody is going to make money off that self-hatred. You deserve better than to be a cash cow for billionaires who pay aestheticians and dermatologists to make them (or at least their trophy wives) look thin and beautiful no matter what they actually do.

And ONE MORE THING—listen. We are NOT evolved to lose weight, we are evolved to hoard it. We came about in a world of famines. Not only does your brain have MULTIPLE failsafes built in SPECIFICALLY TO PREVENT WEIGHT LOSS, but there are epigenetic factors—factors that are not DNA but travel with it and affect how it is expressed. So if your parents or grandparents lived through a famine, like, oh, say, the Great Depression, YOU are more likely to gain weight and more likely to have difficulty losing it. AND! We live in a world highly affected by industrial pollution—there is no corner of the world free from it, micro plastics and industrial chemical pollution have been found literally everywhere ever studied—and many of those pollutants affect our endocrine systems. Looking at records of lab animals going back to the 1960s, where we have excellent records of what genetically essentially identical animals ate, we know that LAB ANIMALS FED THE SAME AMOUNT OF THE SAME CHOW WEIGH MORE NOW THAN THEY DID THE IN SIXTIES. So no. You’re not fat because your willpower is somehow busted. (Willpower, fun fact, can be depleted! By DEPLETING BLOOD SUGAR! Baumeister’s work in the 2000s demonstrated that.) You’re fat because your body wants you to live, and because the ultra rich have knowingly poured poison into the world because they don’t care if you die.

So YOU need to care if you live. And how you live. Please love yourself, because the billionaires will never give a shit about you. Weight Watchers has a 96-99% failure rate. Weight loss is a scam that makes billions of dollars every year. Love yourself too much to fall for that. Don’t wait until you’re thin to love yourself or to start living, because a) that day may never come and b) it’s okay if that day never comes. You are worthwhile and enough right now. I promise you that.

Did I mention that all studies on the subject are very clear--like, we do not need more studies on this, which is a bananas thing for a scientist to say--exercise does not lead to weight loss. It just doesn't. Anyone who tells you it does is wrong. It's good for you because it's good for you, not because it makes you thin. It improves your blood vessel health; it improves your heart health; it improves your body's ability to manage blood sugar; it improves your muscular health. It does not make you thin.

Reducing calories can reduce weight, but your body, as previously mentioned, is trying REAL HARD not to lose weight. I see a lot of recommendations for 1200 calorie a day diets. Google "starvation study" and look at how much the men in that study were given. It was over 1500 calories a day, and they were miserable. They became skeletal. They felt awful, depressed, foggy--because your brain is the single biggest user of calories in your body. It is so metabolically active that your brain uses around 30% of all the calories your body uses. Guess what happens when you starve your brain? You feel like shit. You feel stupid and depressed. Don't starve yourself. It doesn't work and it makes you feel awful and you will get rebound weight gain above whatever you lost, guaranteed, and then you'll blame yourself for "letting yourself go" because our society is built on lies.

We also cannot and should not ever suggest that anyone can lose more than 5-10% of their body weight and keep that off. It's just not possible. Bariatric surgery is a WHOLE other can of worms, I don't have the energy to explain why I almost never recommend it to my patients, but just know that if anyone has ever suggested you lose more than 10% of your body weight through behavioral changes, they are bullshitting you.

on the announcement that Disney+ is removing a plethora of shows and films from its service, please read these tweets from Willow writer John Bickerstaff. this is not a tax writeoff like Batgirl, because these projects have already been released. this is a move designed to cut off financial support in the form of residuals, and break the spirit of the strike. here is the deadline article that lists the films/shows that will be removed.

as always, donate to the entertainment community fund, vocally support the WGA online and irl, or join a picket in a major US city if you can. let them know they can't keep getting away with things like this.

You think if Zak showed up at Jarlaxle’s door with every single Do’Urden sibling except Briza (optionally with most of them in tears) he’d suddenly have literally no idea what to do?

Well… he already adopted Dinin and Vierna once upon a time, and has already actively looked out for Drizzt. What’s a couple more?

Realistically the more difficult part is convincing Zak to get all five out instead of just Drizzt and Vierna.

Especially since he and Dinin have such an antagonistic relationship in the books

This is easily 95% funnier given half the Do’Urden siblings are actively underage in Homeland.  They are actually children.

Yeah but is Zak going to admit that? Let’s face it: in his mind, the only *real* kid here is Drizzt.

Oh absolutely not, there is, after all, a reason when I build Zak’s PC sheet this is the flaw I give him:

I know Jarlaxle’s already compared him and Entreri to a ton, and I was going to make a comment about that bit, but then it just occurred to me that they both monologue to themselves in empty rooms several times and it’s just taken on a whole new level of hilarity

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he’s already got Khazhid’hea, who is so attached to him that it literally throws tantrums when Catti takes it away from him, so like congrats on your clingy sword spouse Zak

(as funny as it is to dunk on Zak and as much as being a stubborn cuss is a huge flaw of his, i do think it’s worth acknowledging that he’s not just like, I refuse to care because nobody else is real, it’s because that literally every bond he makes is in jeopardy and becoming emotionally attached to children is just far too painful for him on multiple levels. I have no doubt that if he had an actual bond to any of his stepchildren Malice would have 100% used it to hurt him, not to mention he already has issues with seeing children grow up into monsters (that he is responsible for training and perpetuating and thus is part of the system that hurts them). A lot of his refusal to get attached is emotional self-defense and his own fucked up depression, plus he simply has..no idea what good parenting looks like.)

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This is sort of a side note or a circle back but I am MODERATELY convinced Dinin wasn’t Rizzen’s child, and if he wasn’t Zak’s he might accidentally have been Jarlaxle’s. And part of this is just how much page space Jarlaxle pressing Zak about who Dinin’s dad is, but part of it is just... the themes of Way of the Drow about denied parenthood and this being the trilogy in which Dinin has come back. Narratively, it would play really well into the current themes, and circle back around Dinin’s bitter grief about being treated as lesser by Zak for not being Zak’s son.

And if either of these things are true I will be *fascinated* to see how Zak handles it after looking at how he couldn’t let himself attach to others for his own protection (and like fair reason, think about how he almost killed Drizzt waaaay back in the beginning when he thought Drizzt Was Like Everyone Else After All). But the ultimate point is that when Zak tells himself that the kids he killed were evil and he’s an Exception, he’s lying to protect himself, and Way of the Drow deeply underlining that, yeah, it’s not nature, it’s nurture.

tldr idk if it’s going this way but it’d fit and whooo if either of these possible fathers is true Zak’s gonna have some weird feelings.

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i haaaate when iris by the goo goo dolls comes in when i’m in a store how am i supposed to act normal when you can’t fight the tears that ain’t comin or the moment of truth in your lies when everything feels like the movies yeah you bleed just to know you’re alive