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By Rachel Schragis

All of these things are true. Denying the truth of any of them will not help anyone.

i want to make a "he should've been at the club" post about hamlet but there's so much controversy about his actual age that i can't while still maintaining any claim to academic integrity

"should hamlet have been at the club", the world's longest unanswered question in the history of academia, still ongoing after 400 years of debate

i tried to hire a hypeman and the cheapest one (free) was a fucking wizard and now i cant get rid of her. she keeps saying shit like "she speaketh true" and "very wise milady" everytime i say fuckin anything and if she sees a car she tries to attack it with chain lightning. fucking embarassing honestly

"smart appliances" fuck u i want them dumb as a brick and incidentally as sturdy and enduring

I think a lot of people spent their childhoods being very deliberately forced out of their comfort zones by parents / teachers / whomever in a way that was just deeply unpleasant and degrading and so, when they reach young adulthood and are finally allowed real control over their lives, become set on only doing things they know they're comfortable with forever. that's a really important thing to be able to do, especially if you're so used to having your boundaries routinely ignored that you aren't even certain what you like vs what you can bear, so I absolutely see why a person would have a negative reaction to being told that discomfort is good: it can very easily sound like being told that all that work they've been doing to prioritze their needs for the first time ever is Bad and Selfish, actually. and to that I will say two things:

one: as long as you aren't hurting or, like, being a dick to anyone, just staying in your comfort zone isn't an immoral action. if you just want to read one type of book (or just fanfiction), or just eat one type of food, or just watch one type of movie, or not go to new types of social events, you aren't being a bad person for that, and if people say that, they are soundly wrong and just trying to get a self-righteousness kick.

two: trying new things because you want to expand yourself feels a hell of a lot different than trying new things because you're being forced to. you'll feel better about trying new foods if you know you have a back up familiar one in case you can't stomach the new one, it's easier to read new books if you can experiment with audio versions or reading it in little five-page chunks by yourself, you can breathe a lot easier going somewhere new if you aren't chained there for three hours because your parent is your ride home, etc.

tl;dr: new things are good. I get why you might not want to try new things, and that's fine, but it's also more comfortable to try new things as an adult with your own agency so, yeah, what have you got to lose by trying a weird old art film?

It's really important to recognize that the negative reaction you might have to being forced into something new might make your reaction much worse than if you had the no-pressure option to explore it on your own. I always try new foods when no one is around, or only some few close friends I trust on that level, because I feel judged for being a picky eater - even if people aren't *actually* judging me, I feel judged anyways and the pressure makes the whole experience unpleasant and I'm less likely to enjoy the food

It's also important to recognize that sometimes, newness, in and of itself, can trigger a disgust reaction. For this reason, when i'm genuinely trying some new food/drink, I take a small bite/sip or two to get over the initial "this is new and new is bad ew ew ew" reaction, and then take the next bite/sip to actually evaluate how I feel about the flavor/texture/etc. Even when i don't end up liking the food, this often takes a food I'd be super grossed out by and moves it closer to the "eh i simply don't like it" category.

huge part of being autistic (and why that is Literally Traumatizing) is that your comfort levels and sensory experiences are so out of touch with everyone else's that you're just routinely subjected to awful, terrifying, torturous stuff as a kid and you are told "no one likes this, everyone is scared sometimes, but you just have to do it"

because the adults in your life think you're experiencing a normal, bearable level of discomfort? because that's what they themselves would experience, in your situation?

And you have never experienced being another person, so you think you are experiencing a normal, bearable level of discomfort, and just over-reacting to it.

The part that really digs itself into your psyche is the certainty that you can't expect the world to be kind to you. That suffering so much is just and even necessary. The feeling that the whole world will see you in excruciating distress and think it's unnecessary to help you, just, scars some deep primal part of your brain

does anyone else hate that work takes up like 90% of your life and you literally are always working and have to form plans and important things and even seeing friends or eating meals around work. it's always just work. im spending my life just being At Work. i don't have time for hobbies or for seeing friends bc it’s always Work. like two days off a week isn't even enough because my days off aren't consecutive so i just spend those days exhausted or doing errands or house chores. there is not enough Time. all the time goes to Work. WHY IS LIFE THIS WAY. humans were not meant for this

as we get closer to the holiday season remember that the holidays are not just about spending time with loved ones. it is also about grocery store employees being legally allowed to kill one customer per day

my doordasher has been fucking around in the restaurant parking lot for a half hour now. probably playing with his tip and maybe even his balls a little bit on the holy day no less

to be honest he may even be curiously slipping his middle finger in and out of his hole with his shirt between his teeth adn his legs shaking well as long as i get my food buddy

who knows though

"people want to see the two men kiss"

writer of the show: no ❤️

basically this:

tumblr being all adults nowadays is so funny because my mutuals are either unemployed chainsmokers or Ezra, Bioengineering PHD Candidate at University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill

one of the important lessons to learn about adult life is that the gap between an unemployed chainsmoker and a bioengineering phd candidate is actually not that large

something about a femme pulling your hand to her mouth to suck on your fingers and then moaning and whining and whimpering as you push them further back on her tongue is just

@thoughtstherapy

ed and stede’s thumb war being improvised drives me insane. like oh my god I’m so glad rhys and taika play these two cause they just keep giving us these lovely little moments between stede and ed that make the fandom go absolutely insane

If I don't tear something apart with my teeth and claws soon I'm going to lose it

If I don't tear something apart with my teeth and claws soon I'm going to lose it

If I don't tear something apart with my teeth and claws soon I'm going to lose it

If I don't tear something apart with my teeth and claws soon I'm going to lose it

if i was on the great british bake off i'd leap the picket fence and escape the tent. i'd be across the grass and in the trees by the time paul hollywood fetched his gun

John Salt (British, 1937-2021), Black Ford in Field, 1972. Oil on canvas, 48 x 72 in.