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Leo :)

@granolatheft

18
Transsexual
I don’t use they/them
Cosmo Kramer kinnie

Literally like half my coworkers have gotten in their heads that I use they/them pronouns and I Do Not wait post cancelled my fucking piercing fell out and I can’t find the ball. Fuck.

Ok I found it anyway I probably need to just correct them because I think the main reason is people hear they/them used for me and think “oh that’s probably correct” because of how I present and then start using those pronouns

Corrected my coworker yesterday and he said “oh I just use they/them for everyone so I don’t get it wrong” like ok man, I have some bad news for you

realising that the people you love just kinda... suck sometimes. theyre either do something a bit gross, or theyre uncool, or cringe whatever the fuck. theyll tell and enjoy bad jokes! theyre not up to date on a lot of things. sometimes talking to people is just about listening to things you dont like

and thats literally fucking fine and learning to just get over it is essential. its fine to suck. it makes me love them all more now

yeah dont be like this person and love your friends and partners even when theyre lame as hell

I can’t believe it’s past 9 thirty o clock already. I still haven’t eaten dinner bro. I have work at 8 tomorrow

I got a burger and a milkshake and I’m finally going to fucking bed but I have to wake up in a few hours to switch my laundry

rb this n tell me what is the same and what is diff abt ur relationship to ur gender n sexual identity compared to urself 7 years ago :3c

7 years ago, I was 11 and I really liked the label “tomboy”

I was at the very beginning of puberty (wouldn’t start my period for 2 more years) and felt comfortable being a girl but couldn’t conceptualize myself growing up to be a woman.

I was very active in the church at this time and I was also a strong feminist. I pushed for the young girls’ group to include more traditionally male activities and even wrote to the president of the church to suggest they implement a Girl Scouts program.

I definitely fell very much into the typical role of a preteen boy while also not really identifying as male at all yet. I shared a room with my brothers, wore mostly boys’ clothes, and was normally gendered as male by strangers. I played basketball on the girls’ team, and I participated in my church’s Pinewood Derby as a non-scout.

I was very interested in sex at that time, but only as a concept. I don’t think I experienced sexual attraction at all until a year or two later. I had male “crushes” but they were just guys I selected to have an answer in truth or dare.

I didn’t correct strangers who assumed I was a boy but I did correct people who I would be interacting with regularly. My peers that weren’t members of the church often called me a lot of names and slurs but generally not in a way that was malicious towards me.

Idk, this is interesting to think back on. I was a pretty cool kid honestly and I think it’s neat how my relationship with my gender and sexuality has changed and how it’s also very similar in some ways. I could probably say more on this but I have like 5 paragraphs lmao