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Emil Doerstling - Preußisches Liebesglück (1890)

though the original title of the painting is unknown, it's believed to have been inspired by Gustav Sabac el Cher, a Prussian military musician who eventually married a white woman (Gertrud Perlig)

they were married in 1901, but I don't know how long they courted, so it's possible this is based on another woman in his life before he met Gertrud. or possibly just his willingness to court white women in general? it's unclear. he was biracial, so the painting could have been based on his father's marriage as easily as his own courtship

anyway, here are Gustav and Gertrude after their marriage:

also, for anyone who doesn't speak German, the title translates to "Prussian happiness in love."

u guys know sexuality gender and the way u feel attraction can change right. u know you can put labels on and off right. nothing is solid swim a little if you like etc

normalize saying "it was a phase, mom". in a way that doesn't take away that it was real.

this should go without saying but this is also especially true if you identified as ace and then suddenly you're head over heels in sexy romantic love. or if you were bi and then are suddenly feeling hetero feelings only. there's nothing shameful about that. maybe it was real, maybe you we're figuring things out - that's for you to know only.

we’re gonna be ok btw

it’s ok if you’re scared. or tired. or unsure. or one million billion other complicated emotions at once. but i’ve decided things are going to be ok anyway. and i will hold that belief close to my heart no matter how scared or tired or lonely or depressed or one million billion other things i am. i will hold onto that. and if you’re scared, you can hold onto me. we can carry each other through

thr funniest part of therapy to me is when you first come in and you're exchanging niceties and they say "hello! how are you" and you say "im fine how are you :)" and then 30 seconds later they put on their therapist voice and say "so how are you doing?" and you go well lisa. believe it or not im doing Bad