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Ted and Robin’s relationship

In a meta I wrote a few days ago, I mentioned how Fez x Jackie are the most unhealthy tv relationship that was endgame but Ted x Robin on HIMYM are a strong competor. So today I’m writing a similar longass meta about why Ted and Robin are horrible for each other. Their relationship wasn’t good for either of them.

Ted’s POV: Ted is a romantic and believes in things like fate, love at first sight, soulmates and grand romantic gestures. He falls in love too easily, but it takes him a much longer time to fall out of love or cope with rejection. And then his best friends got engaged and that made him want to settle down too. He had been third-wheeling them for nine years and now that they are getting married he’s obviously worried that they will cut him off completely. And then he sees Robin across a crowded room and that is just it for him. He falls in love. So they go out and have fun until he ruins it by saying that he loves her. She doesn’t feel the same way and that really sucks for him. He always puts her first. He throws three parties in a row, hoping she’d show up, he steals the blue french horn, does everything just so that he can go to that wedding with her, ruins a relationship with a perfectly great girl, blows off a date with someone that is supposely a perfect match for him etc. Then when he finally gets her, his parents point out that they are not good for each other and Robin’s commitment issues keep showing. The look on her face when she thought he was proposing must’ve really hurt him. So he breaks up with her but it takes him a much longer period of time to get over her and start pursuing Stella only to get hurt again. And again when Robin starts dating his best friend and seems much happier with him than she ever was with Ted. She even thinks about marrying him! Ted doesn’t stop searching for love. He dates one “random skank” after another but it never ends good. Because he wants Robin. He tries to make a move on her once again and she turns him down. He tries to play it cool but everyone around him can see he’s not okay. Everyone pitties him. Imagine how must that feel. It takes him a while to get over that: “No.” from Robin while she couldn’t care less. He describes this as one of the most painful experiences of his life. He starts dating Victoria but it doesn’t work out. Again because of Robin.Ted just threw another hopeful relationship away because of her while she is pursuing his best friend. They get engaged on the grand opening of his building. Ted describes the moment he found out about their engagement as the absolute most painful moment of his life. He still does everything for her. He plans their wedding, books a band for them and does everything he can to get her that locket. Omg, he actually calls three of his exes and jumps off a bridge! It’s ridiculous. Here comes the part most fans say is ooc for Robin but I think it makes a lot of sense. Robin freaks out on her wedding day because of her commitment issues, which is in her character and tells Ted:“You’re the guy that gets through for me! You always go great lengths for me!” Robin didn’t say she loves him. She said she likes all the things he does for her, not Ted himself. And this is not ooc for Robin. She has always enjoyed attention from men (510, 814 etc) and lowkey liked Ted’s displays of affection. So no, she didn’t love Ted she just liked the things he did for her and Ted knew this. That’s why he turned her down. That lead him to meeting Tracy who actually is perfect for him. But even when he was married to Tracy he never seemed to get over Robin. The fact that even after Tracy died, he chose to tell his kids a story about Robin is just really sad. It’s kind of like Snape’s:“Always.” It’s not healthy. The speech about love he told Jeanette:“If you love someone you don’t stop ever! Because that wouldn’t be love!” is supposed to be romantic but I find it just a little sad. Because what Ted feels for Robin is an unhealthy obssession and the fact that this show sold this off as romantic really irks me.

Robin’s POV: Robin was an ambitious carreer woman trying to make it in NYC. She didn’t want to get tied down at the age of 25 and had no interest in serious relationships at the moment. When she meets Ted at the bar she sees him as a cute guy she might go out with but not seriously. It’s clear she invites him up into her apartment for a one night stand but he ruins it by telling her that he loves her. She freaks out obviously. What kind of a creep tells a girl he loves her on a first date?! Ted’s behaviour keeps getting creepier and creepier. He throws three parties in a row, calls her 10 times at night and so on and so on. She does develop feelings for him over time though. But the timing’s wrong because he’s with Victoria. Ted tells her they broke up so she makes a move and they make out at the couch. Then she finds out that he lied to her just so she will sleep with him which hurts her feelings. This is the guy that is supposed to be a nice guy and a big romantic and he does something like that to her?! It takes her a while till she forgives him. And then right after they start being friends again he ruins it by constantly hitting on her. And I’m not saying casually asking her out on a date. I’m talking all those grand romantic gestures which she doesn’t believe in. Robin is a rational down- to-earth person that doesn’t believe in the same things Ted does. So he aks him to stop doing that but he doesn’t. He won’t take no for an answer until she starts dating him. When they are actually dating they are completely incompatible. Even his parents say so! Ted never fully accepted Robin as a person. She was afraid to tell him that she likes guns or that she smokes. He made her get a rid of her dogs. He got mad at her when she wasn’t able to say:“I love you.” due to her commitment issues. He didn’t like how independent she was. He was clearly more in love with the idea of her not her herself. They broke up and she got over it quickly. Soon she hooked up with his best friend who she actually was compatible with. Who actually liked everything about her and considered everything that Ted considered a weakness a strength. Some hardcore Ted fans say that she’s an absolutely most evil bitch for rejecting Ted and then marrying his best friend but I don’t see that as a bad thing. She loved Barney not Ted. I don’t see why should she be with Ted just because he was in love with her. She has a mind of her own and can choose who she wants to be with. And she chose Barney. Yes, she did freak out at the wedding day but that was only because of her commitment issues not because she suddenly started to love Ted. And I don’t believe she ever had that talk with Lily when she said that Ted is the one she should have chosen. After all Ted wasn’t even there how would he know? Plus he was trying to convince his kids that he should be with Robin so he had to make it look like she liked him too.

I think this show was trying ti recreate tha Ross x Rachel saga that was so addictive to the viewers but failed miserably. Ross x Rachel may have been popular back in the 90s but times have changed. And Ted x Robin are no Ross x Rachel. Ross x Rachel weren’t so one-sided and they both believed in soulmates and destiny. So while Ross x Rachel are not a perfect couple, they were still so much better for each other than Ted x Robin. So if you think Ted x Robin are an otp and relationship goals I am sorry for you.