We All Got To Go Outside Sometime

bonus:

Godfrey 😂

i think i wanna fuck you like this

black women are in fact the shit

I can’t believe I tried to scroll past this without reblog gong

do not scroll past without reblogging

SIMON SAYS PUT YA HANDS ON YA KNEES🤪

I’m????

Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves

Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

Jon Snow: Certified Daenerys fan

GoT Fans: “The final season was so bad, I’ve never been so disappointed in my life!” Lost and Dexter Fans:

I’m an avid TV Shows fan. As the younger girl among two older siblings, I’ve been watching TV shows since I was five years old and I fell in love with Buffy the vampire Slayer. I turn 26 this year, and in all this time watching shows, I’ve never seen a character being more unjustly destroyed as Jon Snow.

Jon starts the show as a secondary character, the bastard son of an honorable lord who chooses to isolate himself in the Night’s Watch in order to stop being the personification of his father’s mistake, never threated equally among his other siblings. As the seasons move on we see a change in Jon, we see him embrace who he was, we see him become the honorable man Ned Stark always wanted him to be, we see him chose honor over love in more than one occasion and ultimately, we see him getting stabbed by his brothers because of his compassionate nature.

From my point of view Jon started going downhill in season 7 after he became another King who lost the North, but still his character was somehow redeemable. However what was done to him this season is the worst crime I’ve ever seen in TV.

Maybe it was the writers’ lack of creativity or their laziness or perhaps their complete ignorance of what was supposed to be one of the most important characters of the show. In six episodes they managed to reduce him to a spineless man who did nothing but follow around his lover proclaiming her his queen, they denied him the fulfillment of his arc when he was deprived of the fight against the Night King, they made him overlook genocide and try to justify it with pitiless excuses and worst of all they used the “Love is the death of duty” when every single time before, Jon had chosen duty over love because that is the kind of man he was.

So what? There was no character development for him? Like Jamie, his arc got lost somewhere along the way because D&D were too stupid to understand his character. He ended up as a joke, a pariah, disowned by everyone without any justification? Because, that was the worst part, everything that happened this season regarding his character (and many other things) didn’t make a lick of sense.

The fact that he was a Targaryen and that we spend the entire show trying to figure out if the R+L theory was right didn’t serve any propose, it was only there to create conflict and somehow justify Dany going all maniac. In the end, Jon could have remained a bastard forever and it wouldn’t have made a difference!

Yesterday’s episode was a shit storm, every minute of it was filled with bad writing and character destruction and for me, the worst of all was the obliteration of Jon Snow, a character that could have been epic but who ended up a mess, all because D&D can’t wait to start with Star Wars.

SO,

- jon being revealed as a targaryen? POINTLESS

- the night king being hyped up as the biggest threat for 8 seasons? POINTLESS

- cersei being the original mad queen and being hyped up as the biggest human threat? POINTLESS

- jaime’s character development and 8-year long redemption arc? POINTLESS

- bran becoming the three-eyed raven? POINTLESS

- jon being brought back from the dead for a higher purpose? POINTLESS

- arya leaving braavos and instead choosing her family and home? POINTLESS

- the starks going through hell for years and years waiting to be reunited? POINTLESS because they were reunited for like 5 minutes before being separated again

- daenerys overcoming all the terrible things that happened to her, bringing magic back to the world, going from nothing to becoming one of the most powerful people on earth, pledging to break the wheel, learning the moral difficulties of ruling, trying hard not to be like her father? POINTLESS

BUT HEY AT LEAST BRONN GOT HIS CASTLE SO IT’S ALL GOOD

dany: lives her whole life in exile, living on the streets starving with her sexually abusive brother who was driven into insanity with the thought of re-gaining their family’s fallen legacy

dany: sold as a sex slave

dany: loses her husband just as things are starting to become loving

dany: loses her child as well as any chance to have another child

dany: is constantly insulted and harassed for being a female ruler

dany: loses 1/3 of her dragons while saving jon 

dany: goes to protect winterfell with everything she has, leaving her kingdoms vulnerable to the max, only to be bombarded with xenophobes and sexism and the mad king’s daughter insults

dany: loses her claim to the iron throne and all she had ever built towards and been told to live for, all to the love of her life who does not even want it, but he has a dick so hes got it

dany: loses 99% of the Dothraki and Unsullied and the one man who had stuck with her through all her hardships who only cared about her safety and belief in her reign, all to protect the xenophobes against her previously murdered, zombified child and new slave master; something of which she had been banning for,,, the whole series

dany: sees that her claim to the iron throne is even more weakened by the way her opponent, someone whom she still loves and does not want the throne, is around his followers

dany: is constantly questioned with her state of mind 

dany: is constantly being questioned about her idea of rule, despite it being needed at this point

dany: needs to beg jon to not destroy the claim for something he doesnt even want…only for him to not listen to her anyway

dany: is constantly snarked by s/nsa for literally existing

dany: is forced to go onto a ship with her advisors that are for some reason, fearing her rule

dany: watches yet another, 2/3 dragon fall a brutal death into the sea right in front of her, plus most of her fleet coming to follow her to the red keep

dany: is not able to avenge either dragons’ deaths - both being by the names of her brothers, aka her only family shed known

dany: takes the remaining 40 men to attempt to save her innocent friend

dany: loses her innocent friend violently just for cersei to prove a point

dany: starts to lose sanity

everyone:

This is my new favorite thing OH MY GOD

(( Rap music playing))

“ Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. I’m 100% nigga.”

“ Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. I’m 200% nigga.”

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. Why the police hate niggas?”

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga nigga. They hate us cause our dicks are bigger!”

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. Why do you call yourself a nigga?

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. Cause I’m a motherfucking nigga!”

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. Why you drink so much beer?”

“Nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga, nigga. I don’t drink beer, I drink my liquor.”

“Cuz I’m a nigga.”

“ Motherfucking nigga, man. I ain’t all that African-American shit. Fuck that. I’m a nigga.”

“ I ain’t mixed; I’m nigga.”

This was fun to caption…

me: *gets déjà vu*

also me: *gets déjà vu about my déjà vu* O_O

Julian Edelman | ESPN Body Issue 2017