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@gnotknormal

Hi, I'm Gnot. He/Him pronouns. Black Lives Matter, ALWAYS. me: grey-aroace, bi/pan, genderqueer, autistic, trans, polyam, parent, chronic pain sufferer, born 1989, UK based, white, perisex. Lover of orange. I have a strong sense of identity and it's something to do with spreadsheets :: Icon by "fennethianell" :: ~ Art Blog = @gnot-art ~
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Love bombing is not a euphemism for "too much affection too soon," or "high desire for contact."

"Love bombing" is a term originally used in the context of cults to describe a deliberate and coordinated recruitment method that involved feigning friendship and interest in a potential recruit, via flattery, flirtation, physical affection, and very directed positive attention to everything the recruit says in order to lure them into the cult.

Since cults and abusive relationships operate in similar ways and use similar tactics, love bombing in an interpersonal relationship looks like manufacturing closeness in order to trap someone into a relationship in which the abuser has all the control.

And I know these days there's a million bullshit junky articles out there that make you think this is a symptom of cluster b personality disorders, but there is no way for you to be love bombing somebody without realizing it.

If you are an affectionate person and the level of affection and attention you give makes someone uncomfortable, you are not "accidentally" abusing them.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of affection and attention someone is paying you, they are not de facto abusing you.

Love bombing is about using someone's desire for human connection to fast track them into a situation you control and will feel disinclined to leave.

apparently europeans have the impression that US Americans never learn the metric system.

like our science curriculum from day one is entirely done in the metric system. we just don't use metric in our day to day lives.

yeah actually we kinda just do it for the bit :)

I have had people try to gently and kindly explain to me the workings of the metric system, as if Americans are having trouble with the concept of a base ten system. like no. we get it. we were taught this when we were like eight. it's just that like. we don't really wanna do it that way. for the bit.

It’s like formal and informal tense.

On the flipside, I think Americans (and other Europeans) think we in the UK are obsessed with metric and use it all the time. Like, nobody here knows how tall they are in CM. Our road speeds are MPH. I only know my weight in KG because when I restarted Wii Fit I wanted to use a different measurement so I wouldn't compare myself to before I had a kid.

Ppl from the UK thinking the US is insane for not using metric are hypocrites. It's far more ridiculous that we use a weird mish-mash of metric and imperial. XD

time to HALT!

(i learned this in a caregiving class but it's useful in most situations i've been in, like not to be neurodivergent on main but sometimes you feel Bad and can't work out why)

Hungry? eat something*.

Angry? count to ten, take a deep breath, and walk away from it if you can.

Lonely? interact with another person that you aren't responsible for.

Tired? take five minutes to sit with your eyes closed.

also i bet your drink is going cold.

( ˘ ³˘)♥

*(if you're not allergic, a spoonful of nut butter and a glass of liquid will keep you going, but the only bad calorie is the one you don't have when you need it.)

For those who don't know, Italy is currently runned by a far right government, which is attacking and restricting LGBTQI+ community.

We have always sent very open minded artists since 2011 (some of them to be rumored to be part of this community as well) but none of them (aside Måneskin members, who come from the youngest and most inclusive generation) did what Marco did last night.

Marco always supported this but was never this exposed. This makes you realise how Italians are NOT the government and how now more than ever we need to support LOVE, no matter what.

Grazie, Marco.

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when people who want to be vaguely progressive say 'nature' all secular style but it's painfully obvious they mean 'god' while thinking they don't mean god

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"natural behaviour" "the natural body" "nature intended" "nature created" no da fuck it didn't

“Culture tends to argue that it forbids only that which is unnatural. But from a biological perspective, nothing is unnatural. Whatever is possible is by definition also natural. A truly unnatural behaviour, one that goes against the laws of nature, simply cannot exist, so it would need no prohibition.” - Yuval Noah Harari

a great thing about people transitioning is it presents us with scenarios where we have the perfect control variable to undeniably reveal sexism in the workplace. I read about a trans man neuroscientist who was told he was “so much smarter than his sister” (his sister being his pre-transition self)

and damn i knew the gaming industry was notoriously sexist (even more sexist than other stem fields, and that’s saying a lot) but seeing it laid out so clearly like this is so demoralizing.

Ben Barres was that neuroscientist

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Hello! I'm going to teach you how to get whatever cursor you want.

First, figure out what you want as a cursor. I'm going to be changing mine to a Skyrim mouse.

So first you get a picture of whatever you want, as clean as possible:

Open your favorite art program and clean it up, then save as a png:

Then go here and convert it to a .cur file. Make sure there's no gap between the corner of the arrow and the corner of the png.

Next you go to Control Panel:

Select Mouse from the list:

Then go to the Pointers tab and pick whichever mouse cursor you want to replace.

Click "Browse..." and find the .cur file you made earlier:

And voila! I now have a Skyrim cursor.

You may have to tinker with the size a bit to get the point to be accurate. If that happens, just resize your png and convert to .cur again.

Happy customization!

reblogging this again cause last time i just prev-ed but now that i have done this i know where to do it lol

the prev had pointed out if you dont save your .cur in the cursor folder then your cursor might just reset to default when you restart your pc

this is where you save your .cur! i now have an undertale soul cursor

I used to obsessively make these for my friends. So now you can, too!