Mount Fuji, Japan by Shinichiro Saka

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Reason to Live #2163

“The literal meaning of life is whatever you’re doing that prevents you from killing yourself” -Albert Camus – Guest Submission

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I hate the term “survivor”. I don’t want to be praised for staying alive. I wish it killed me. I’m not alive by my own decisions. They could have killed me anytime. I don’t want to be told I’m lucky they didn’t. I don’t want abuse to be painted as a “challenge” I happened to survive. I didn’t stay alive by my skills, I didn’t want to participate in abuse. It’s not a part of life. 

Victim it is more accurate, because if you’re victimized it means there’s a perpetrator. Victim describes that everything that happened was out of your control, and people feel extremely uncomfortable about that, but it is the reality, and it takes responsibility off of your shoulders. You went thru things beyond your control. It harmed you way beyond you would allow something to harm you. You had no protection against a person who tortured you. This person has shown they’re a monster, and they need to be stopped from hurting you, or anyone else again. That’s what the word “victim” stands for. 

Nobody chooses or has control over weather they’re victimized, and when it does happen, only humane thing to do is to stand with the victim and fight against the monster. And surviving monsters should never be painted as a challenge. Nobody should even have to face one. They should be gone from the environment. They don’t serve any purpose. They’re not a part of human life. They’re predators who have no business calling themselves humans. They should be banished and eliminated. We shouldn’t have to survive this. 

Important 🗣

Me trying to pretend I’m fine after a flashback…

— r.h.sin

dear trauma survivors,

here’s a little something my therapist told me that helped me out:

even people with the worst trauma tell themselves “it could have been worse”

even people with the most unpreventable trauma blame themselves.

every single person who has gone through trauma beats themself up over it.

those thoughts that you shouldve done something different or that you just need to “get over it”… they aren’t true. they’re just symptoms of real, valid trauma. what you went through was hard. no human being deserves to go through that. you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to feel angry and scared. your feelings are valid, and it was not your fault.

Small things to stay alive for

• Freshly baked bread

• New episodes of your favorite shows

• Flowers blooming in the springtime

• Cool days with a slight breeze

• The smell after it rains

• Meeting friendly strangers

• Being smiled back at when you smile at someone

• Tadpole season in the summertime

• Bonfires with friends

• Going to the concert you’ve always wanted to go to

• Meeting the love of your life

• Finding animals that need homes and adopting them

• Landing your dream job

• Discovering new passions

• Going on the vacation of your dreams

• Learning a new language

• Cozy naps in the afternoon

• Bubble baths

• Going to thrift shops full of little treasures

• Making homemade cinnamon rolls

• Strangers letting you pet their dogs

• Trying new dishes from other cultures

• Improved mental health (it will happen!)

• Christmas / Hanukkah / Ramadan with the people that you love

• Being given flowers

• Blessing other people and seeing their reactions

• That feeling when you know that you’ve helped someone, and you can feel their genuine appreciation, relief, and gratitude

• Learning a new trick or skill

• Being proud of yourself

Tips for Making Life Work

1. Focus on doing one thing at a time. Tackling multiple activities may seem more efficient, but giving one task your complete attention is actually more productive in the end. It also cuts down on your levels of stress.

2. Slow down and enjoy the journey. Whatever you’re doing is important right now. Don’t wish that it was over – and try and make it fun.

3. Stop being such a perfectionist. If you’re a pilot or a surgeon then standards have their place … but for the rest of life “don’t be so hard on yourself”. Don’t stress out over details and impressing everyone.

4. Learn to delegate to others: take the pressure off yourself. Perhaps other people won’t do the job as well. But that’s how people grow – so why not give them that chance – and spend your own time doing things that you’d prefer to do.

5. Don’t always be waiting for the other shoe to drop. Lots of people spend their lives terrified of what might happen – and most of the time things work out to be just fine. Thus, they’re worrying for nothing when they could be having fun!

6. Focus on what you have, not what you wish you had. All of us have things we can be grateful for. Not everything is awful –and life’s not always bad. And if you change your focus to what you’re thankful for, you’ll find you feel much happier, and worry a lot less.

7. If things go wrong, just shrug your shoulders and smile. Remind yourself that life goes on - so don’t wreak your life wishing things were different or regretting what you’ve done. Also, things might work out next time. Tomorrow’s a new day.

They all move on by Ariee

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Me every time Thanos looked at one of my favs