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Word to the wise y’all. Don’t wear a butt plug to your MRI

Don't wear a chastity device to one either. Even if it's a silicone/resin cage, the locking mechanism is still metal, it WILL try to yank that thang asunder. The GOODEST boys are the ones who DON'T risk damaging their body and a $1.2million machine.

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There’s no way on earth anyone has to be told this I’m hallucinating this post there’s just no way

okay so i have seen a lot of posts talking about how you shouldn’t challenge nor confirm delusions and that is correct — but if you don’t know why here’s some explanations.

disclaimer: this is a guide! always check with the person in your life on what they want to do <3

firstly what is a delusion?

medically defined as being fixed beliefs that are not amenable to change in light of conflicting evidence.

what should i do if someone is delusional?

don’t confirm (tell them the delusion is real), or deny (tell them the delusion is not real.). generic advice is confirm feelings around the delusion (what they are feeling is real), or provide a distraction. (it is better if you ask what the person needs. not everyone will always know, but some people have their own contingency plan. never lie when asked for a reality check.

does a delusional person never know they’re delusional?

nope! some people are aware their thoughts are considered to be delusions, but they also tend to simultaneously believe the delusion. i can’t explain it, but it’s called ‘double book-keeping’ and i am very prone to it.

okay so why shouldn’t i confirm a delusion?

this is the more intuitive one. it intensifies the delusion. it makes things harder to cope with. if the delusion comes with harmful behaviour, the behaviour increases in magnitude. some delusions are also distressing (ex. persecutory delusions).

okay so why shouldn’t i deny a delusion?

for some people, it’s ripping a coping mechanism with no back up coping mechanisms (bad. coping mechanisms develop for a reason). for others the actual realisation their reality is wrong is fucking distressing and snowballs into everything (if this part of my reality is wrong, what else could be wrong?). others begin seeking for evidence more and more, and end up confirming it further. it also emotionally is distressing. Also some people are fine with their delusions that should also be respected.

but really even if there was 0 zeroes you should always respect the person.

saying F U to the regime again and again: a quick update on women vs IR regime

Famous Iranian actresses have been appearing in public without a mandatory hijab. This has been happening since the beginning of the protests. Last month, Kiumars Pourahmad, a well known Iranian screenwriter and director, committed suicide. He had a history of criticizing the regime's political decisions. At his funeral, some of the famous actresses attended without mandatory hijab.

You can see Fateme Motamedarya, Katayoun Riyahi, and Golab Adineh in these pictures from the funeral. Ms. Riyahi was one of the first celebrities who took her hijab off at the start of the Jina (Mahsa) Amini protest and for that she's been the target of IRGC harassment and has been to court.

Last week, in the ceremony of screening of the final episode of Lion's Skin (a persian crime show), actress Pantea Bahram participated without hijab. The manager of Tehran’s Lotus Cinema, where the ceremony was held, was fired for letting her attend without hijab.

Other than prosecution, the regime has blocked these celebrities' bank accounts. Basij and IRGC members have also attacked and harassed these women online and in real life.

Students on university campuses take off their hijabs. There's an installed version of morality police in universities that monitor students' styles. Female students must wear "appropriate" hijab and male students must wear "manly" clothes (one of my guy friends once was asked to go back home and change his shoes because they were red casual loafers. Apparently that's gay!). When you enroll in Iranian universities, the first thing you do is to go to the security office and sign an agreement that says you promise to follow the Islamic dress code. There are posters all over the campus that says things like "hijab is security" "respect the islamic hijab" and "not wearing appropriate hijab (tight short clothes, too much hair, makeup, etc) would result in legal action". So not wearing hijab on campus, where a lot of security cameras are installed and it's easy to identify you, is a big deal.

The regime's response to students taking off their hijabs is sending threatening messages to students' phones and increasing the security people. At the entrance of Universities, these security forces check people's clothes and if it's not proper they won't let you in. Some of the students wear the hijab at the entrance and take it off after they're in. They have warned our professors to not let non hijabi students sit in classes too.

One of my favorite trends in Iran now is when guys wear our hijab. These pictures are from universities. Guys wearing hijab make the security mad. This is a great act of solidarity with women against the obligatory hijab.

Some men have been doing either this or wearing shorts in public. The former is to ridicule the obligatory dress code and the latter is because wearing shorts in public is forbidden for guys too.

And women not wearing hijab in general. Though hijab is not our only issue, we want a whole new political system, one that is not theocratic or terroristic, hijab is something the regime won't back down from because it's one of their strongest oppressing tools. If they let us win the fight against obligatory hijab, I quote from a regime head, "people keep demanding more changes"!

So to put people against people to enforce the hijab law again, the regime has closed down many businesses (hotels, cafes, malls, bookstores, etc) for welcoming non hijabi female costumers. They have also warned taxi and bus drivers to not let non hijabi women in their vehicles.

Although not everyone is disobeying the hijab law (some believe in hijab, some don't want to pay the price), the number of women who take the risk and don't wear hijab in Tehran and many other cities is high enough that you feel encouraged to keep doing it.