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Gender Secret Suggestions

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*Unhacked!!! We got back in!!* Ask, suggestion, etc. blog for trans and all lgbtqia people

Important!

Hey there...it’s mod Alex/Aaron. A lot of things have changed in the past few months, and you have no idea how guilty I feel for not being on here at all. I feel like I owe you all an explanation. 

Basically, I’ve been going through a rough time. My mental health really hasn’t been at it’s best, I’ve been dealing with family issues, and on top of that I’m swamped with schoolwork. If you follow my personal blog (the url changed to verity-the-dreamer) then you’ll notice I’ve been active on their a bit. I’m on there more, as this blog is on a completely different account and it’s annoying to continuously log in and out. 

I want to continue this blog, and I want you to know that it’s not dead! I tried adding my personal blog as an admin, but since this blog is a main blog, I’m unable to add admins. If you’ve followed us for awhile, you’ll remember the whole issue with the hacking thing. Remember how we made another backup blog to get in contact again? That blog happens to be a side blog. 

Basically, I won’t be on this blog anymore, and will instead be on the side blog, @gendersecretsuggestion (same url just take the s off the end). I haven’t had any contact with the mods on here for ages, so I’ll be adding new mods. Important message to the mods on this blog: if you want to continue working with me on this wonderful blog, message me on my personal blog, @verity-the-dreamer )

TL;DR: Follow us on our side blog @gendersecretsuggestion and spam us with asks! We miss you! And get the word out that we’ve moved!

One last thing: I’ve changed my preferred name from Alex to Søren! I still use he/him pronouns. I love you all!

i mean a huge part of lgbt culture is the whole “it’s not a phase” and “i’m not confused" thing but that’s just not really true y'know?

like here’s to the people that have gone through countless labels, and still can’t find one that fits here’s to the people that have declared a label, but then realized that label might not be accurate here’s to the people that have to come out 1,000 times because their identity is constantly changing here’s to the people who are confused, and have gone through phases. you’re real and you’re valid.

i love all of you. you don’t have to have everything figured out to be lgbt

Maybe you’re not a fighter; maybe you’re not the kind of person to march on the front lines throwing bricks, molotovs, and yelling.  That’s okay.  That’s so so so very okay.  You’re important. What’s equally as important as that are small radical acts of kindness.  Love your neighbors, love your friends.  Love yourselves.

Be there for each other, be willing to lend a helping hand or shoulder or couch.  Don’t be afraid to put yourselves out there and do what you can for your community.  Anything you can do or provide matters.  You matter.

You can help in the gentlest and most personal ways, and those matter at least as much as any protest.

A people united are so much harder to fight and tear down than individuals.  Link arms with your neighbor and they can’t break you.  They’ll never break you as long as you still care, and as long as you’re still willing to show it.

You’re important and you’re valuable, and you’re all so so dear.  You can help and you can make a difference.

You’re important.

Anonymous asked:

(dfab)could I have ID as something other than cis & be actaully cis? I used to use he/him but I don't anymore (personal reasons?) and it doesn't bother me anymore. Honestly I feel more bad about myself when I'm using he/him or even something they. The only thing that bothers me is my name online. Maybe bc I've used a chosen name before (when I used he) I want a nickname that pretty nuetral but far from my name or something idk. Is it okay to want to change name but not pronouns online?

Of course! You don't have to change your name or pronouns to be nonbinary or trans. You're valid no matter what!

Remember you are not powerless.

Even if tomorrow doesn’t go the way you want it to, you are not powerless. No matter what people try to tell you. You Are Not Powerless.

You are here, and this is now, and we will never stop fighting against those who wish we weren’t.

No matter what happens, we’ve got this. It will be okay, don’t give up.

IMPEACHMENT -  c :  to remove from office especially for misconduct

Impeachment leaves us with Pence who is worse.

Is it possible to impeach Pence as well?

Not likely, he’s a snake. He hasn’t done anything strictly speaking illegal and the party loves him.

Suicide Hotlines and Mental Health Services

Emery says:

Hello, everyone! I’ve gathered together some resources for those of you that are going through a very difficult time. We would love to help each and every one of you individually, but answering asks from suicidal anons puts us in a very questionable legal situation. Also, since many of us mods have dealt with suicide in our lives, it is a very difficult topic for us to cover. Nonetheless, I hope all of you are able to benefit from this mental health resource list that I have put together. 

I believe in each and every one of you, and as cliche as it sounds, it can get better. As someone who has been in the same situation, you can take it from me. This existence of ours can often feel like ascending a mountain without any climbing gear, but it is possible to do so when you have a bit of help. I know that all of you can reach the peak if you are just given a helping hand.

Much love. <3

Suicide Hotlines

- Trans Lifeline - US.: (877-565-8860) or Canada: (877-330-6366)

- The Trevor Project’s “Trevor Lifeline” - (866-488-7386); they also have a texting and online chatting service.

- CrisisChat - www.crisischat.org (an online chatting service)

- Crisis Text Line -  www.crisistextline.org (texting service)

- Longislandcrisiscenter.org - US: (516-679-1111); they also offer online chatting services.

Non-Crisis Mental Health Resources

- 7 cups of tea - an online chatting service. It’s not really meant for crisis situations, but it can used to talk about a host of issues with other individuals. It appears to be mostly geared toward mental health support and discussion.

- www.dbsalliance.org/ - a nationally recognized organization that offers support and resources for those dealing with bipolar disorder(s) and depression.

Canada

- PFLAG Canada - ( 1-888-530-6777 ext. 226);  resources and education on issues of sexual orientationand gender identity. E-mail: gender@pflagcanada.ca

- Trans Lifeline - (877-330-6366); http://www.translifeline.org/

UK

- Switchboard: The LGBT+ Helpline - (0300-330-0630) available from 10am-10pm daily; also offers onlinechatting services. E-mail: chris@switchboard.lgbt

- Samaritans - (116-123); seems like they are LGBTQ friendly and offer online chatting services. E-mail: jo@samaritans.org

“ We positively welcome enquiries from all sections of the community, including Black and Minority Ethnicgroups, people with disabilities and members of the LGBT community. “

Australia

- Q Life - (1800-184-527); also offers online chatting services from 5:30-10:30 pm daily.

- beyondblue - (1300-22-4636); LGBTQI friendly and also offers online chatting services.

- Kids Helpline - (1800-55-1800) for people between the ages of 5 and 25.

- OII Australia (Organisation Intersex International Australia Limited) - “OII Australia is an independentsupport, education and policy development organisation, by and for people with intersex variations or traits.Our work focuses on human rights, bodily autonomy and self-determination, and on evidence-based,patient-directed healthcare.”

- http://au.reachout.com/ - may help with finding region-specific resources

If any of you know of resources like these, please feel free to comment on this post or send an ask/message to my personal blog, @the-most-emo-hermit-to-ever-live. Suggested resources will be compiled, looked over, and added to the current Suicide Hotlines and Mental Health Services masterpost. 

Calming masterpost:

crisis/urgent support lines and sites

relaxation/anxiety relief

the quiet place project

music and sounds

comfort food

advice and tips

videos and movies

distractions etc

extras

Calming songs, playlists and instrumentals:

Calming/distracting Websites

Crafts and activities, easy and fun DYI projects

What to do when:

Meditation and breathing

Simple things

Make Something!

Other Nice Things

Calming/Relaxing Music:

  • Soft Piano: x, x, x, x, x
  • The Sound of Waves: x
  • The Sound of a Storm + Waves: x
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For everyone planning to kill themselves in the event of a Trump victory:

Don’t.

We need you. The world needs you. We’ve been through this before, in one way or another, and we have prevailed. Who benefits from your death? Only those who want you silenced.

There will be blue skies ahead. There will be triumphs. This is not the end of the world.

Do not go gentle - we are here today because of the stubborn refusal of our predecessors to go away. There are oases even in the darkest of times. You are not alone, and you have not been abandoned. There *will* be blue skies ahead, and you will live to see them.

I'm sorry. My life has been so busy, but please know that this blog is not dead. I'm sure that the other mods have really busy lives right now. Let us all hope for the best on such a terrifying night. Whatever happens after tonight, stay strong and know that we all have ways to speak out against things that we disagree with. I'll be getting to our inbox within this week. All the best, >Mod Ethan

I'm a cis lesbian, but I like the idea of queer platonic partners. Is this something I shouldn't look into because I'm cis?

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Queerplatonic relationships can be experienced by anyone! It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation and gender is. It is commonly used by ace/aros in replacement of a sexual/romantic relationship, but they can be pursued by anybody. And remember, sexual orientation and gender are not linked!>Mod Ethan

Anonymous asked:

I don't have anything from school, but something really off-putting happened to me at work today (pet store). A couple came in, and considered buying a guinea pig. But they already had a male guinea pig at home, and (I kid you not; the very NEXT thing they told me was this), they didn't want the new boy "if they'd be doing any homosexual things together". (?) In a PET STORE? Homophobia at ANIMALS? I could only say, "I dunno, you can't tell animals not to do that". But is anyone else HORRIFIED?!

That's horrible! I would have such a tough time not bringing up facts like there is an extremely small amount of recorded cases of homosexuality in animals (so that they wouldn't need to "worry"), and that it isn't caused by any kind of environmental factors. Just like humans, they are born with needs (or lack thereof). I feel like past me might have said that jokingly, so I'm going to hope that they were joking and not being homophobic nuts.>Mod EthanKind of related: I was discussing with my friend about trangender cases in animals, and I was thinking that animals just don't have the same contemplation of identity that humans do. Animals just "are." There are plenty of personality deviations that might be attributed to a sort of transgenderism, but I just don't think that they have the mind to think about what those deviations mean. Please send in your own thoughts on this topic because I'm curious.

Send in some asks! School has been in for a while; I'm sure that something good and/or bad happened. Send in some problems that you might be having trouble on.

Anonymous asked:

what tf do i do with used pads when im in the mens restroom

Sorry for the delayed response, but I was trying to ask my friends. They didn't have any thorough ideas, so I asked my mom. She emailed me everything. I don't think that there is anyway that I should revise this.>Mod EthanA few thoughts: Roll the pad up, wrap it in toilet paper, and dispose of it in the trash cans near the sink. If you act nonchalantly - as if you're throwing away nothing more than tissue paper that you blew your nose in - you shouldn't attract any attention. The key is to be calm and casual. The same disposal method would apply for tampon wearers. (Public service announcement for those who don't know: Tampons should never be flushed. http://www.theperiodblog.com/faq/faq-can-you-flush-tampons/ and https://www.ubykotex.com/en-us/periods/pads-and-tampons/some-people-think-that-tampons-will-clog-your-toilet-if and http://fusion.net/story/108523/no-you-cant-flush-tampons/ )If it's one of those bathrooms that has those air dryers instead of paper towels, it's possible that there won't be a trash can. In that situation, an option is to wrap the pad up in toilet paper, insert it into a snack sized ziploc baggie, put it in your pocket, and dispose of it discreetly at another location. (This also can apply to tampon wearers) Instead of a see-through ziploc baggie, sanitary napkin disposal bags exist. Here's an example: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EOLGDHO/ref=pd_day0_328_5?ie=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B01EOLGDHO&pd_rd_r=CWKF2Z2W9J88F5XJBZWV&pd_rd_w=aiyFN&pd_rd_wg=Q7Cpk&psc=1&refRID=CWKF2Z2W9J88F5XJBZWVPro - they're not see through. Con - ummmm..they're aggressively pink and would look extremely out of place in a men's restroom trashcan. Personally, I'd choose something that's pretty much the same thing, but the color is more subtle - pet waste bags like this. (Also way cheaper) https://www.amazon.com/PET-Counts-Large-Unscented-Refill/dp/B0192NCAB2/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1475696744&sr=8-4&keywords=black+pet+waste+bags If you haven't heard of a menstrual cup, you might want to do some research in that realm. I understand that menstrual cups aren't an option for all guys for a variety of reasons, but they can be a good solution for those who don't have their dysphoria triggered by using them. They offer up to 12 hours of protection which can eliminate the need to deal with menstrual products in a men's restroom for some people.http://divacup.com/http://lunacups.com/https://lenacup.com/One more possibly helpful link.http://www.forbes.com/sites/emmajohnson/2015/11/14/period-panties-answer-what-do-trans-men-do-about-their-periods/#541d2ca4bb4fI would also ask for feedback from any readers who might have advice or other thoughts to offer.

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Currently, it seems like FWD:FWD:Re: style conservatives are submitting and voting the most,as the top questions are more like accusations aimed at specifically Hillary, or prompts for Trump to regurgitate his favorite buzzwords.

We have the Internet too. We have a voice: let’s use it in venues outside tumblr so Trump doesn’t get more advantages.

Vote on and submit meaningful questions that challenge both candidates to talk policy.

My second question focuses on how at-risk (poor, often minority) students and students with disabilities fare under high-stakes testing. Please vote for it here.

Please Reblog. Tweet. Facebook. We can do this.

DO THIS! So far the highest voted questions are thinly veiled jibes about deleting emails - just chances for Trump to go off on one. THIS TAKES LIKE TWO SECONDS! The right are very active when it comes to shit like this so don’t let them win it over, like the o.p says we have the internet too so let’s level this playing field. Let’s make Trump really struggle.

Seriously guys, please go to this site! The top ones are stupid questions involving gun control and a couple asking why requiring and for ID to vote is racist -__-

Help the real important questions be on top!

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We have worked our way up to 700 votes since last night! Thank you!

Let’s increase that momentum.

The networks are only considering the top 30 questions, and they all have thousands of votes.  

Most of the top 30 questions are proudly deplorable gifts to Trump. It would be a double victory if we made this go viral enough to not only prompt a dialogue on LGBT issues, but to also knock off one of those terrible questions!

Other questions worth bolstering (You can vote for multiple questions):

SIGNAL BOOST, TWEET, FACEBOOK, GO!

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If you’ve got the time please help keep the alt right white nationalists from dominating every debate because the mainstream media still hasn’t learned how the internet works

You know how much I am going to push you all to vote if you can, and I'm sorry about it (but not really). Even if you cannot vote, at least vote for this. Remember to order your absentee ballot very soon if you might not be able to get out to vote on the day. It takes 3 minutes to sign up for one if you are already registered to vote!

>Mod Ethan

Anonymous asked:

I know ur not a name blog but do u know any like generally gender neutral names that r like nicknames? Like idk names that u can call pretty much anyone? If that makes sense?

Um, just from asking my friends today, we thought of Alex, Charlie, Frankie, River, Eli, Jamie, and Jessie. Hope that helped.>Mod Ethan