phoebe bridgers styled by jared ellner and photographed by davis bates

me and my fiancee getting married

taking a class on sex this semester which has resulted in many fun things like "sex activity" and "sex final" being added to my planner. being very mature and serious about this .

obsessed

I had a class called "What is Evil?" The professor called us his "evil students" and I got to say things like: "I have evil class later." and "I have readings in evil to do." and "Well my evil professor said..."

I miss having that class

[ID: tumblr reply on this post reading "my partner did a sociology degree and one of the modules was on organised crime. very funny to see stuff like "anyone doing organised crime this afternoon" in a uni groupchat"]

"why do people conflate top/bottom and Dom/sub" because we haven't socially destigmatized kink. that's literally it.

if you say you're topping your boyfriend when you push him around in the bedroom you're being cool and quirky and using slang to describe your antics. if you do the same thing and say you're domming him you must be a seriously freaky person. that's why people use top to mean Dom and bottom to mean sub. they know even if we allow the nice clean gays with their fun bedroom terms into our society, we should never ever be like Those People who spend significant amounts of time and energy learning how to have the kind of sex so many of us clumsily imitate in our bedrooms.

"researching kink is forbidden. talking about kink is forbidden. slapping your partner and choking them is normal because I saw it in porn and my buddies say they do it. don't go to seminars on how to manage the risk of those activities or you're a sex-obsessed freak. I'm the normal one, the one whose partner chokes me with their belt and doesn't know what aftercare is. I'm a bottom."

the problem is that kink activities are socially acceptable and even expected, but having any awareness of the terminology or safe ways to play surrounding them is heavily stigmatized. kink anti-intellectualism is rampant among people of every political orientation because of how badly our society has poisoned us. so we can't even say Dom or sub to refer to ourselves. it's a symptom of that problem.

ANTI-CAPITALIST AFFIRMATIONS

my fav

Joycon drift is just Link following his impulsive thoughts

He does this in every game btw. Amaterasu running in circles? That’s Link. Steve walking off a cliff? Also Link. It’s all Link.

if i have to hear one more person say “ew men” when i say i have a boyfriend im gonna start throwing rocks at people 

[ID: an edited meme showing a Black man looking out across a street with text above them reading “I bring a sort of “just pirate it” Vibe to the conversation that my “which streaming service is that on” friends don’t really like”. /end ID.]

"Friends with benefits" and the benefit is being my friend :)

We can also fuck nasty or whatever

I can’t begin to express the difference it makes just that I’m able to wear exclusively t-shirts, baggy shorts, and flip-flops. And the thing is, right. What you notice is that I’m wearing something slightly odd for the weather. What you don’t notice is that I’m not curled up with my hands clamped over my ears because socks make the clinking plates in the restaurant too loud.

come to Marshals if u would like to purchase World’s Most Breakable Object

Goth music is literally just some silly guy or girl singing about great suffering and everything wrong with the world and then their mate behind them plays the most groovy, catchy bassline you’ve ever heard in your life.

need the studios to cave to the guilds demands very immediately or tom cruise is going to have Free Time on his hands for the first time in 42 years we as a species cannot allow that to happen like this is what he’s like when he’s busy working every single day of his life can you imagine what would happen if he got BORED

oh so we’re just stealing amanda marisatomay bits now

Ian Stone, Doubting Thomas, oil on linen, 12x16 in, 2023

"If you know the painting by Caravaggio, Doubting Thomas, it was my direct inspiration for this piece.

A doubting Thomas is a skeptic who refuses to believe without direct personal experience. 50-60 years ago, it was not uncommon for people to think or believe that being gay was a phase or a mental illness or deviance in some shape or form. It's embarrassing that the same things are being said about trans people today."

STOP SCROLLING!!! THIS IS NOT A PHOTO IT'S OIL ON LINEN!!!!!!!!!

every day I think about how jonny said once on a stream that jon jarchivist probably dressed like him in the first half of season one because he was kinda a self-insert at that point and how that therefore means we’ve more or less got word-of-god canon jon archivist sims in full “I don’t believe in ghosts” “I don’t count martin as he’s unlikely to contribute anything but delays” mode sitting there with multicolored nails, an earring, and hawaiian button downs

found the clip if you want it and he was wearing a hawaiian shirt as he said the very words so I am simply right

the kind of outfit he probably meant when he said this:

the kind of outfit I am 100% going to willfully misinterpret him as meaning:

one of my favorite doctor who moments without context:

My boys. Er. Two grown men not my boys at all.

Look. I’m going to be honest with you. Adopting that hard anti-plastic surgery stance while trans people’s lives and right to transition is at stake is absolutely horrendous timing. Knock it off.

Plastic surgery saves and rebuilds lives. While anti-aging culture and lookism are both detrimental to society, it’s important to remember that plastic surgery is healthcare.

People in the tags are nottttt getting it. I’m saying you should address the societal influences that lead young women to seek plastic surgery before you seek to villianize the plastics field and/or limit access to healthcare to anyone. Plastic surgery is healthcare.

I am not making this a ‘trans people versus feminists against lookism’ issue. You may require plastic surgery in your lifetime as well. Anyone could. The line of where plastic surgery is frivolous and driven by vanity or necessary for maintaining or creating a greater quality of life is far thinner than you think. That nose job may have been motivated by Eurocentric beauty standards or it may have been motivated by the desire to correct a deviated septum. I am saying that at a time when we are all losing our bodily autonomy and access to medical care at an alarming rate, now is not the time to be writing treatises on why access to certain forms of healthcare is bad.

i go to a gay bar and notice the furry convention's in town. i see a fine lookin bear remove his fursuit, revealing that underneath, he's also a fine lookin bear. I raise my eyebrows and say "woof" and all the cat furries immediately hiss and scatter