tips and rules to apply and live by:

I really want more SB blogs to follow

& not those uppity “my pussy is more expensive than yours” types, but some nice, humble SBs who are just living life

this is the text of good fortune, reblog in 60 seconds and $1200 will spontaneously materialize in your bank account🙏🙌💪🏻😤

100 "Non-Allowance" Questions to ask your Pot or SD:

A few examples, and in no particular order:

1. What has influenced your decision to want an SB?

2. How long have you been searching for one, and which sites did you use?

3. Have you had any negative experiences with Sugaring? Either in your search for one, or in your previous arrangement?

4. Are there people that you don’t like? What characteristics was it about them, that you didn’t like/enjoy?

5. Where do you consider to be good places for an SD/SB to be romantic?

6. What are some ways that you get embarrassed in public?

7. Are you ever bored? What type of people bore you?

8. What are good leisure activities that you would like for us to try together?

9. Are you okay with me dating others while we are in an arrangement?

10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?

11. Where and when did you meet your wife/girlfriend? What drew you to her?

12. What sort of future financial plans and goals do you have?

13. What is your biggest goal in starting an arrangement?

14. Have you thought about the ramifications of your actions on your family, co-workers and friends?

15. Tell me what precautions you are going to take to ensure that our arrangement is kept private?

16. What you would do if we ran into someone either of us knew, while out together?

17. What would you want me to do?

18. What are the most important things in life? What do you value?

19. What questions would you like me to answer?

20. What are your bad/good habits?

21. What is your opinion of me being a different nationality or following different religious briefs than yours?

22. What would you do to leave a positive impression on our first date? And future dates?

23. What would your perfect arrangement consist of?

24. What is your opinion of us abstaining from sexual intimacy within our arrangement, even though I am not a virgin?

25. Can you explain to me how a Sugaring arrangement is different than a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship?

26. Do you believe that its possible to have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?

27. Do you still have feelings for an ex, wife, girlfriend or previous SB?

28. How long did your previous arrangement/relationship last?

29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?

30. What are your expectations of intimacy and sexual relations with me? How do they differ from your previous SB etc.

31. Should I be fearful, jealous or envious of any of your previous arrangements, and the different opportunities that you have shared with them?

32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

33. What is your opinion about me hanging out with other Sugar Babies and their SD’s, or in places that SD’s frequent?

34. Do you think that someone’s past matters in a current arrangement?

35. How would you react if I told you that I can not meet your daily needs for communication?

36. Do you believe in privacy, even while being open with each other in an arrangement?

37. Do you have any opinions about me working a part time job? What if it takes my time away from you?

38. Do you have any hobbies that you’d like for us to share?

39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs? Do you currently?

40. Do you have children? What do you think the impact would be on them if our arrangement was made public?

41. What communication methods do you prefer? What are the most private and effect modes?

42. What is something weird about you, or that you’re afraid to tell me?

43. Tell me something about your work, that isn’t common knowledge.

44. If your friends or co-workers don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?

45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it? Would you do it again if you knew you wouldn’t get caught?

46. How long would your ideal arrangement last?

47. Do you have a criminal record, or any contraction of diseases?

48. I don’t, but would it change your opinion of me if I had one?

49. Are you willing to lose time from your family and friends, in order to see me?

50. How did you discover Sugaring?

51. Do any of your friends have Sugar Babies?

52. What do you think about continuing the search for an Sd/SB, after you’ve recently started an arrangement with one?

53. Do you think love within an arrangement is possible?

54. If your job (or wife) started to have a negative impact on our arrangement, what would you do?

55. How do you handle feelings of jealousy or resentment?

56. Do you have any regrets in life or in past arrangements?

57. What is your ideal vacation/weekend get away?

58. Will we be taking any together?

59. What are your expectations of my free time and our time spent together?

60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

61. What are some things that you take pride in?

62. What is the most difficult component for you, in an arrangement?

63. What happens if we exchange pictures, and down the road decide not to continue our arrangement? How will they be used, shared, kept or destroyed?

64. Would you be ok with me making plans with my friends, on a night that you are free to see me?

65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?

66. If you could change something about females in general, what would it be?

67. What is your opinion on the arts? Do you want to visit museums and galleries together?

68. Do you read the newspaper? How do you stay up on current events?

69. What are you looking for in the long term and short term?

70. If you had three Sugaring rules, what would they be?

71. Which aspect to Sugaring scares you or makes you the most nervous?

72. Are you typically late to events and dates, or end up rescheduling at the last minute?

73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?

74. What are some places that we will definitely need to avoid being seen together?

75. What are some places that we would be safe to visit/experience together?

76. What is the best advice you ever received?

77. What advice would you give to me, regarding Sugaring and life in general?

78. If you had a previous arrangement, why did it end?

79. Are you still friends with that person?

80. Without getting too personal, what were some good moments in that relationship?

81. What were some of the craziest things that you’ve done with her? And some of the sweetest?

82. What will you have accomplished at work one year from now and within our arrangement?

83. If you/we could go on a road trip where would you chose to go? Would I have a say or just be expected to come along on a whim?

84. Are you prepared to respect, and are you comfortable with accepting my school and study schedule?

85. Have you thought about using code names, or certain apps that will keep our communication/contact private?

86. Can you tell me 3 good points about me?

87. What are your expectations of me in our arrangement?

88. What happens if I can not agree or live up to all of them?

89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much? Do you get discouraged easily?

90. Is there anything I could do to make you think that I am an ungrateful or selfish person?

91. What would you do if our communication and dates were limited to set days and periods of times during the day/week/month?

92. Do you like to go window shopping, or are you the type who needs to buy an item?

93. After I had asked you for our first date, was there any part of you that wanted to say no? Why?

94. What are some activities or places, that you would like to do/go on for dates that you haven’t been before?

95. What are your views on open arrangements? Do you know what an open relationship is?

96. What are your future/5 year plans with your wife or girlfriend? Maybe more kids, more travelling etc. How can I help you to achieve this?

97. Is money more important to you or are the relationships you share with people more important?

98. What are some things that you are either passionate about, or anger you?

99. Do you believe that long distance arrangements can work? What about those that are not long in distance but long in the duration between dates?

100. What are your thoughts relating to Sugar Babies as Sex Workers?

This isn’t an end-all-be-all list, as it would go on and on forever…but rather just an idea to get the ball rolling.

Please add on if you want!

Sugar Sisters/Friends...

I need some friends with the same motivation as me. Like im trying to do great in school and drop these last 20lbs. Any sbs looking for friends or a group chat i could join please let me know. Im a really nice person not a creep lol but i am very honest 

100 Attraction Principles from “Why Men Love B!tches” 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much. 3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond. 5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. 7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer. 8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else. 10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. 11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. 12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests. 13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl. 14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is. 16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. 18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard. 19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him. 20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same. 23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t. 24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him. 26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort. 27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. 28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. 29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. 30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself. 31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock. 32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes. 33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way. 34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete. 35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl. 36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters. 37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world. 38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another. 42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY. 43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner. 44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship. 47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed. 49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior. 50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

51. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 52. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 53. When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.” 54. When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother–and the odds that he will take you for granted increase. 55. Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you–right where he wants you. 56. When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer. 57. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 58. A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way. 59. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 60. If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back. 61. When you nag, he sees weakness. 62. He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover. 63. In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect. 64. He’ll forget what he has in you, unless you remind him. 65. Many women talk a lot out of nervousness–which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity. 66. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 67. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 68. In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long. 69. Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool: because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate. 70. The element of suprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement. 71. Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine. 72. Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable. 73. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. 74. Men often automatically assume that a *****ier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid. 75. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 76. He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own too feet financially. 77. You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect. 78. Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own–with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely as his mercy. 79. When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister. 80. The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will. 81. In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person. 82. Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you. 83. Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on. 84. When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.” 85. People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight. 86. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 87. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 88. When you alter the routine, your not being there is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact. 89. Don’t give a reward for bad behavior. 90. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. 91. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 92. Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in. 93. Once you start laughing, you start healing. 94. You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face. 95. A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 96. The tension that arises with a slightly *****y woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand. 97. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 98. Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way. 99. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 100. The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

An Old Trick that'll always work

Go to a fancy, high rating expensive bar/lounge in your area. Dress to turn heads and come alone. Order one drink and look a little bored. Trust me, men will approach you and buy you drinks. Order an expensive drink and watch for his facial expressions. If he flinched at the price, he ain’t the one boo boo. If he don’t flinch, he’s a potential keeper. He’ll likely ask for your number and to take you out. Refer to a high rating expensive restaurant or other place to go and run through his money! Nothing ever beats freestyling.

Checklists.

As a full time sugar, I have a lot of things to keep in order.

So, I thought I would share my checklists with you lovely ladies if you 

A) Wanted to know what a full time sugar does 

B) Needed a reference

or 

C) Wanted direction of some kind

So enjoy.

Daily Checklist:

Every Other Day Checklist 

Weekly Checklist

Monthly Checklist

Hopefully this is helpful to other SB’s, feel free to add anything or change it to your personal life if you wanted a template. Most things are general, but some (rock climbing, closet organization, sister lunch, etc) are personal.

Oh, and if I left something out you think is crucial, please let me know or reblog and add it!

who doesn’t love languages? or free resources? or free! language! resources!?

i was on duolingo, reading a discussion, and saw a link to a free swedish grammar book! and when i checked the website, there were loads of free language books in downloadable pdf form just waiting to be put in a tumblr post. i even used proper capitalisation for the book names! but that was shortlived, as i have a nonchalant online presence to consider. 

Arabic- Grammar of Modern Standard Arabic, Colloquial Arabic (Levantine), Arabic: An Essential Grammar Cantonese- Basic Cantonese, Intermediate Cantonese Catalan- Colloquial Catalan Croatian- Colloquial Croatian Czech- Czech: An Essential Grammar Danish- Colloquial Danish Dutch- Dutch: A Comprehensive Grammar, Dutch: An Essential Grammar English- Colloquial English, English: An Essential Grammar Estonian- Colloquial Estonian French- Colloquial French, Modern French Grammar, (another) Modern French Grammar, Student Grammar: French Georgian- Georgian: A Learner’s Grammar German- Basic German, German: An Essential Grammar, Intermediate German, Modern German Grammar, (another) Modern German Grammar, German Synonyms Greek- Essential Grammar: Modern Greek Hebrew- Modern Hebrew: An Essential Grammar Hungarian- Hungarian: An Essential Grammar Icelandic- Colloquial Icelandic Irish- Basic Irish, Colloquial Irish, Intermediate Irish Italian- Basic Italian Grammar, Colloquial Italian, (another) Colloquial Italian, Intensive Italian Workbook, Modern Italian Grammar, Modern Italian Grammar Workbook Japanese- Colloquial Japanese Norwegian- Colloquial Norwegian Polish- Intermediate Polish Portuguese- Portuguese: An Essential Grammar, Portuguese of Brazil Romanian- Romanian: An Essential Grammar Russian- Colloquial Russian, Contemporary Russian, Intermediate Russian, Russian Grammar Scottish Gaelic- Colloquial Scottish Gaelic Serbian- Serbian: An Essential Grammar Swahili- Colloquial Swahili Swedish- Colloquial Swedish, Swedish: An Essential Grammar Tamil- Colloquial Tamil Thai- Thai: An Essential Grammar Turkish- Turkish: A Comprehensive Grammar Yoruba- Colloquial Yoruba

obvious disclaimer: i don’t own any of the rights etc etc to any of the above etc etc, i just thought i’d share.

and while i’m here, if you want an actual free online course to do, FutureLearn has some language ones (as well as lots of other disciplines too!) i did a few modules of their Italian For Beginners which i really had fun doing and i learnt a lot of the basics- unfortunately they don’t offer those at the moment, but do check back as they introduce new courses all the time! 

Open University offers loads of free courses, including some language ones. i haven’t done any language specific ones through OU, but i have done a few history ones which i enjoyed (although personally, i prefer the format and structure of FutureLearn, if i’m being honest). 

Open Culture seems to have lots of language courses (48 languages, to be precise), although i have never personally used their resources they have been recommended to me, and they seem to offer a lot of languages not previously covered by any of the above, so it may be worth a look! 

YouTube and Spotify also offer some good visual/aural learning resources which really helps with pronunciation, but you’d have to check for your specific target language. i am currently trying to learn swedish and italian (although i have fallen dreadfully behind in the latter) and i’ve found some useful things on both! 

Where y’all at??

A list that I made to shut up a salty POT who has massive dough but told me after a lovely dinner that he did not want to respect my wishes of a very reasonable baseline allowance before we grow the relationship and instead wanted to give me a ridiculously low amount per night at two nights per week. He used the excuse that a lot of men do: “I’m taking a risk and don’t want to waste my time and money on a woman who will take off on me after she gets her first few allowances.” (All prices reflect my city and I’m not generalizing.)

“Ok, so:

These are the MINIMUM amount of things that I must do and buy repeatedly for this lifestyle and to remain the type of SB that I chose to be. I do them dutifully and even love doing them for the right man. These things do not happen by osmosis, nor do they come out of anyone’s pocket but my own at the moment. These automatically take up my time and my $ and if I were to enter an arrangement with anyone he would receive the benefit of all of them in ADDITION to my doting companionship, my best conversation, my full attention, and in ADDITION to this fab pu$$y. A SB/SD relationship is NOT an even give-and-take, but a unique agreement (or transaction as some see it) of two very different people’s assets. I’ve set the starting value of mine and you’re shopping. Like what you see? You’ll need to pay full price. That’s the risk you must be willing to take. I shouldn’t even need to mention what it is that I stand to lose in a deal like this gone sour. Now man up or move along.”

He apologized and told me he’d never thought of it like that before and I think he’s going to give me even more than I asked for just to make up for his ignorance. This wouldn’t work for just any man but I didn’t need it to!

Never not reblog

@oil-heiress this hoe already tried to compete over my wedding lmao

Things I have learnt as a spoilt gf:

1. Rich men can be deeply insecure and needy. They will overcompensate by telling you how much they/their friends own, spend or how good they are at their job.

2. Because they are insecure, rich men can be extremely sensitive to people only using them for their money. If you ask them for 1k heels straight off the bat, they will remember this and flip on you.

3. In response, spoil them with affection until they feel more secure in the relationship. Make sure they know that the bond you share is based on real feelings. When you ask for things in the future, they will want to do things for you because they adore you. This is probably the main difference between a sb and a spoilt gf.

4. When they are in love with the pleasure of your company, don’t let them get too comfortable. When they want more and more of you, withdraw a little. Make them a little insecure, wondering why you are a bit colder recently. This will force them into chasing you back- which means you have leverage to make the changes you want. It’s a real relationship, so they have no guarantee of your affections unlike an arrangement-based relationship.

5. When they do something that pleases you, go back to spoiling them with love and attention. Alternate between affection and indifference as needed. The key is withdrawing- unintentionally small gestures like a cold reply, ignoring a message or refusing his dinner invitation. Never fully say no or yes. If they get angry, just cry and passionately tell them how much you love them. Then go back to being cold and unavailable until he eventually falls for you again.

Something amazing will happen to you in May 2019.

What’s your fantasy?

I wake up, my debt is all paid off, my bank account is full, my relationships with my family are healthy, and I’m able to travel anywhere in the world.

reblog for this ultimate fantasy life to come true

Sugar Baby Friends

I absolutely love the idea of sugar babies making friends with other sugar babies. So here’s the thing. Reblog this if you are a sugar baby, and I will slide into your DMs and we will be friends, okay? 😊