The (after) life of the party

you are literally an animal. i can’t express that enough. to deny such is a sad, sad thing.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves

Name: Honky Henrire Skill: The Trong Boane Quote: Bwomp bwomp bwooooommmp.

I like talking to small children because they are comfortable ending a conversation. Adults hate “awkward silence” and will often continue to talk after the most enjoyable part of a conversation has ended. A child will be like “yeah. Anyway bye” and go back to what they were doing two feet away.

from Mishka, 2018

I hate when people say ohhhh your pets only love you because you feed them. as if that wasn't the first form of love any of us felt. get real.

yeah this is the one

not to bring genuine eco politics into fandom but I think a lot of ppl have a very watered down wealthy seattle yuppie view of what an environmentalist/ecological activist looks like.

reminds me a lot of a coworker I had in Europe who was born and raised in Amsterdam and actually never spoke to me again after she found out I hunt deer bc she had the notion that all hunting is trophy hunting and couldn't accept in some places it's actually one of the most important ecosystem services possible for the general population to do.

by and large, a lot of things that are supposed to "qualify" people as having an environmental conscience do very little to actually help and only do a lot to make it look like someone cares about helping.

apparently people are now purchasing thick water to make slimes with because of a trend on tiktok

thick water is for disabled people who can’t swallow properly. stores usually have extremely limited supplies of it.

please don’t buy thick water for fun or to make slime with. it’s literally the only way some disabled people can drink anything. It’s not a fucking toy

If you want to make thick water without taking a very limited resource from disabled people, the chemical used is "sodium alginate" and you can get non food grade versions of the stuff at dye shops. It thickens over like 2 hours.

Question: I've heard for certain resources, buying it is good because it leads to increased production of the item. Does this hold true for thick water

Probably not. Thick water has extremely limited uses for folks with dysphagia and people who have swallowing issues. They keep thick water in extremely limited supply in most pharmacies because of how infrequently it is used. That means if only 3-4 abled people buy it “to make slime” that some people might have to either go without food or liquid by mouth for several days or travel impossible distances to acquire it

It's also overpriced. Thickened liquids are so pricy that nursing homes risk dehydrating people to cut costs on them (source: I worked in one) and they're not easy to get if the store runs out as mentioned. Don't be the reason a disabled person can't drink

okay we NEED to put “camp” up on a shelf where people can’t reach it too because i just saw someone call the mario movie camp like girl what in the fresh hell are you talking about 😭

Anything else while I've got the ladder out?

i did not have “born in the wrong body” childhood transgender angst i had “blissfully unaware of the concept of gender until the world lucifer’d me and made me bite that fucking awareness apple and then suddenly everything was Wrong” angst

i think that the "i do not control the ____" memes are generally tame and do not lend enough credence to the genuine absurdity of the original line that is

I saw this and remembered that I had this thread saved in a folder and figured this would be a good time to bring it out

READ THE WHOLE THING. I cannot garuntee that you will be pleased, but I can guarantee that it is one HELL of a rollercoaster.

Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

Whether you're carrying one big rock or a big ol' bucket of sand, it's going to weigh on you just as much.

This is why psychologists have started taking more of an interest in CPTSD in the last 10-15 years. What most people know as PTSD is a response to a single, intensely traumatic event (or even a series of events). However, CPTSD (chronic post-traumatic stress disorder) is caused by living for years in a situation where your nervous system cannot catch a break. Even if nothing huge ever happened to you, you always had to be on guard for a thousand little things that could and did happen.

After years and years of this, your nervous system gets "stuck" in an activated threat response. It never really lets you rest, and if this started when you were a kid, you may not develop a lot of neural pathways that you should have, because your brain was too focused on keeping you safe to bother with little things like "genuine human connection" and "interpersonal attachment."

No lie, Complex PTSD/CPTSD is HUGE.

If you are disabled, if you are queer, if you are chronically ill, if you are the survivor of a toxic but not abusive relationship, if you grew up or lived under the threat of harm but no "actual" harm (or "very little" harm) was done, you may have CPTSD that isn't getting caught because CPTSD looks different from PTSD.

priest: do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife

me: i scooby dooby do

priest:

wedding guests:

my wife:

me: babe. please. say something.

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