a word of advice to any worried aces or aros:
One experience or one exception (or really even a couple) to your usual lack of attraction does not automatically cancel out your identity. You're allowed to continue to identify the way you have and have that one case that's different. The only time you "need" to reconsider your label is when it no longer comforts you. Attraction is a weird and nebulous thing, and it could randomly decide it wants to bug you when it never has before. You're not a bad ace/aro for continuing to identify with it if you experience some attraction. You are not using the rest of us. You are with us, just as you had been.
Submitted May 26, 2023










