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All i want is happiness for others. if you need anything...

I’ve seen people talk about a Batfam fanfic troupe where the family communicates through chirps, trills and whistles. This sounds amazing but what if this was a DP x DC crossover??

I have a feeling that since most of the Batfam has been exposed to / dunked into Lazarus pits; which is basically just corrupted ectoplasm…

Does that mean they’re technically using ghost speak without knowing, and all of a sudden Danny comes in and understand them completely

Danny’s eyes turned from their delighted twinkling blue with just a hint of green at the center to a more dulled look as he heard the patriarch’s hmm.

Usually, only the Batfam understood, but Danny had to learn the different dialects of ghost speak as part of the whole High King of the Infinite Realms deal.

“I am uncomfortable with the thought of interrogation, but if questions are asked in a more polite tone, I may answer.”

Bat blinked; usually only his family understood his grunts.

Danny would just sit down once he realizes that none of the Batfam realized they were speaking ghost speak and jsut pinch the bridge of his nose,

"Look... this might come off weird or awkward but... did any of you come jnto contact with Death or close to death? Maybe a green substance related to it??"

"How did you-!?"

"That's called ectoplasm. It's what ghosts, like me, are made of. It's very radioactive and exposure can cause a condition known as liminality, where the liminal in question becomes contaminated. Normally, it's not a big deal nor is it a bad thing, but it can result in some strange behavioral and physical changes. More durability, you become stronger. Faster. And you start using strange sounds like qhistles and chirps to communicate. You're speaking in ghost speak, it's not a secret language, it's literally the language of ghosts. Ghost naturally and instinctively understand it."

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Please don't ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the "He's exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network" talk and some people aren't

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FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:

  1. There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.
  2. If someone tells you that "the way I'm acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway" is just fancy bullshit talk for, "I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don't want to be held responsible for it so I'm pushing it on you"
  3. Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, "I don't want you talking about our relationship with anyone". This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That's easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren't there to cut in.
  4. Nothing constructive comes from screaming.
  5. "It's not like that all the time" is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn't be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don't erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don't minimize it.
  6. It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying "no" to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone's reaction to your boundaries.
  7. You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can't stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they're threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they're using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don't get to shunt that off on you.
  8. There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you
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Dannymay 2023

6. Eclipse & 27. Rigns

I was planning to combine these prompts and draw space ancient Danny, but then "What if it was Dan?" popped in my head and I found that idea kind of fascinating.

"Way too reliable narrator" where the narrator provides documentation and proof for how they know every detail in the narrative and an estimate of how confident they are in it.

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Suspiciously Specific Narrator

This post got the wordiest notifications out of any of my posts.

It's a little under 10k reblogs as of right now but the amount of them with paragraphs for tags is more than posts with 5x the reblogs.

Which is appropriate all things considered.

“That sounds like a good idea…….”-“Is there something bothering you with the idea?”-“No, the idea is GOOD…..🙂”

Can someone explain this to me?

Old people use quotation marks to indicate emphasis, as a substitute for italics (which many of them could not produce on the old typewriters they learned to write on), whereas young people use them to indicate sarcasm or falseness. They’re used as “scare quotes”.

And old people use ellipses simply to indicate a pause, or for some other incomprehensible reason I’m not aware of. But young people use ellipses to indicate passive-aggression.

So an old person could type something like:

how are things going with your “boyfriend”….

and what they mean is

How are things going with your boyfriend? [Im so excited for you, sweetie, and I wanna hear about it]

But a young person would interpret that sentence as

How are things going with your so-called boyfriend…. [I say, while seething with contempt for him and possibly for you too]

The linguistic difference across generations is beautifully explained here thank you

older generations use ellipses the way we use no period

this is too serious.

this is not too serious

this is not too serious either……

cracked this code recently and it suddenly all made sense. and also i was embarrassed because sometimes i’ll end sentences like this,,,, and it’s literally the same exact thing…..

Also this:

“I’m so excited for you.”

Versus

“OMG I’M SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!”

Is because

1) caps = yelling for years. Then we got the ability to italicize, so we got used to being able to emphasize words that way, and then we got things like texting, where you can’t italicize. The meaning of “quotes” had already shifted, so something new was called for, AND THIS WAS IT! Older people do not want you to think you’re being screamed at.

2) [insert essay here about voice communication being the standard throughout the 20th century, while writing was considered more formal even when used for informal things like love letters] and you weren’t supposed to have things like “excessive punctuation.” This included only using an exclamation point if you really, really needed it and if you did, you could probably write that sentence more strongly some other way. There was definitely no need for the exclamation point. Stop that. You must be able to get your point across without it. It looks unprofessional and scatterbrained. Older people also don’t want you to think they’re blowing you off with badly-written prose.

An Entertaining Introduction to Drag

There seems to be a lot of misunderstanding about the relationship between trans and drag. 

Some say that drag artists are not trans, they are “only” performers. 

Others argues strongly that drag is a clear expression of gender variance, and since transgender is an umbrella term for all kinds of  gender variance, all drag artists must be trans.

To me this disagreement is proof of our language being to poor and restrictive to capture the totality of gender.

Yes, many drag artists identify as their assigned gender, and that is fine.

Yes, many drag artists want to express another side of their gender identity and think of themselves as some shade of nonbinary.

And yes, many drag artists are identifying or will identify as their target gender and might even transition. That is also OK.

So drag is not an identity in the same way as cis or trans. It is a way of expressing and exploring gender through performance.

While drag can sometimes reflect gender identity for some, drag itself is a performance of gender expression, not gender identity. Drag can often be weaponized against trans people, intending to invalidating their identities. Trans men are not “women in drag,” trans women are not “men in drag.“ Trans men are men, trans women are women, and nonbinary people are nonbinary.

Write diverse polyamory

Write couples that date people together.  Write couples dating other couples.  Write three people finding each other and deciding it works.  Write two people that fall in love with the same person, but not each other.  Write people whose relationship is more complicated, more undefined.  Write triads and quads and Vs with aromantic and asexual characters.  Write how characters navigate important discussions about gender and romance and sexuality.

Write relationships that don’t tie up in a nice, neat triangle or box.  Sometimes one person is in a triad, but also has someone else they love very much and start to date outside of that relationship.  Sometimes one person’s dating someone who’s dating someone else who’s dating someone else, and nothing ties up nicely and neatly.  Sometimes there are large groups that cluster together, with individualized dynamics that they simplify for other people as “we’re all dating” because it takes too long to explain to a passing stranger.

Write polyamorous relationships forming, or things not working out in the end.  It’s okay.  Sometimes things don’t work.  Polyamorous relationships are just like every other relationship in that if there isn’t open communication, things can fall apart.  It’s sometimes even more true of polyamorous relationships.  Jealousy can be real.  Awkwardness, too.  That’s okay.  Things are sometimes complicated and unhappy.  It doesn’t invalidate polyamory any more than monogamous relationships not working out does.

Write marriages that don’t go down on paper in the record books, because it’s not a simple couple, but that still mean the world to the people who are exchanging rings and vows.  Write first kisses and first dates and first “I love you”s and first times sharing a bed not big enough for everyone.  

There’s a big, wide world of polyamory unexplored by fic, just waiting to be written.  Don’t be afraid.  

Write diverse polyamory.

POLYAMORY IS SO FUCKING UNDERREPRESENTED IN FICTION SO I’M FUCKING GLAD TO KNOW THAT I FOUND THIS POST (yes I am writing a polyam character)

It never seems to come up, or at least I can’t recall it, in any Dracula film, but one of the more sinister, I mean actually appalling, notes Jonathan makes about his carriage trp into the Carpathian range is simply this: 

“Here and there we passed Cszeks and Slovaks, all in picturesque attire, but I noticed that goitre was painfully prevalent.”

Goitre is, or was, a common illness in landlocked areas, especially mountainous regions without easy sea access. Even as lately as Mr. Harker’s trip, its causes were not well understood and treatment was centered on excision of the distended gland, often only when it threatened someone’s ability to swallow or breathe. The incision and resulting scar were covered thereafter with bandages or large cloth bands around the throat, and it wasn’t unusual to know several older people receiving treatment– yet Jonathan sees so many people with bandaged throats during his top speed afternoon carriage ride that he makes note of it in his little pocket journal the next morning.

Dracula hasn’t been eating well, perhaps, but he has been eating frequently.

Historical Mermay 6: Mughal Empire Mermaid

This illustration had to have bright colours, sparkles, pearls, bangles and jhumka-inspired earrings. I think she turned out beautifully! (I recommend turning up the brightness for the full vibrancy, the paper texture gives it a good effect but muted the colors a bit).

I am the artist! Do not post without permission & credit! Thank you! Come visit me over on: instagram.com/ellenartistic or tiktok: @ellenartistic

Just so you know… There is no “the queen”. Why? 

There are so, so many queens.

They make up half of the human population.

We call them “women”. 

And I am a loyal knight fighting for all of them. I slaughtered a dragon for women today, actually. Here’s a picture

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it will never stop being funny to me how much of kink in public type discussion centers around collars when like. unless someone has a specific directly kink-related symbol or word on the collar theres no way for you to know if their choice to wear it is kink-related in the first place. that is a widely normalized fashion item. you are trying to have moral panic over something you can buy at fucking claires.

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and that is very much the point. positioning something worn by very specific groups outside of kink communities for well known reasons as inherently sexual isnt done unintentionally, because this focus on the concept of 'kink' in public is about wanting to control people and justify harassment and violence towards people in certain groups.

when people say they want to beat anyone wearing a diaper in public theyre aware of the fact that includes a lot of disabled people. they already know about collars being worn by trans women to draw the eye away from adams apples, by alternative subcultures, by therians and otherkin, various other people seen as Weird in some way. they know that hatred for them will be more socially acceptable when its framed it as hatred of kink, because its easier to position as bad.

if you say that you dont want children seeing anything done as a kink thing, it sounds like youre Protecting Them. it doesnt sound like you want to say anyone that makes you personally uncomfortable is a threat to children on the basis of that discomfort, it gets turned into some righteous desire for preventing a theoretical harm. it doesnt matter what you obviously mean, it doesnt matter whether that harm exists or not, because youve successfully rebranded your message.

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what i miss most about being a chocolatier (besides the honor of gayest job title imaginable) is we had these massive bars of chocolate for tempering that were 10lbs and we had to break them into smaller chunks. by using a sledgehammer of course. i LIVED for that shit

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all the other people in production HATED busting them especially at the end of the shift but i fucking loved it. give me the hammer. i can be trusted with the hammer. And everyone did in fact trust me with the hammer because again they all thought it was tedious and painful. me? i was having the time of my life. even if i had to pick up the slack for other people i would be annoyed for all of five seconds before the euphoria of getting to smash things set in. and the production areas had windows too so customers often just got to watch me beat the shit out of a massive chocolate bar. with a hammer. like a zoo animal. i was getting paid to do that. every day i miss it.

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All 13 Weapon Fairies

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This series is my pride and joy. Would anyone be interested in a little book of these fairies plus the sketches of the fairies that never came to be? There’s a handful.

I’ve already made calendars of them and have prints so IDK if that’s too much weapon fairy stuff haha

@ my fellow adults who use tumblr a lot:

can you PLEASE put your age in your about/sidebar and make sure it’s accessible on mobile. imo if you’re an adult esp 20+ it’s a little weird that you wouldn’t have your age readily available on your blog. if you’re reading this now and you don’t have your age listed, please rectify that. i feel like teenagers get lured into talking to adults in fandom/lgbt spaces that they may not have intentionally sought out because they think they’re talking to other teenagers, and this can lead to a lot of other – much more insidious –problems

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Can you guys step out of the tumblr “everyone over 20 is inherently predatory and creepy towards children” bubble for once and consider that encouraging people to give up their personal information for the imagined safety of the community is like…not safe?

this advice doesn’t even make sense for multiple reasons; if someone is intent on preying upon minors, all they have to do is follow your advice and lie about their age, being over 20 doesn’t mean you can’t be preyed on yourself, you should never be coerced into giving up your privacy on social media (seriously, did a fed write this?), and promoting the idea that turning 20 means your interactions with younger people should be viewed with suspicion is absolutely harmful, like OP do you have any common sense? At all?

“ignore your own privacy boundaries and discomfort and if you don’t idk 🤔sounds a lil sus 2 me, pedophile” will you guys stop larping as conservative politicians for one second please

think-of-the-children fearmongering is not the same thing as actually protecting minors

You’re talking about - much more insidious - problems while telling people if you don’t do what I tell you, you might be a threat to the safety of our community, like okay Dubya!

Let me tell you about the insidious things that happened when I was young in fandom spaces and older fans became my friends

1. I was taught real sex ed by a midwife, including a lot of pros and cons of various birth control

2. I learned you can just get anything printed into a book and having it in a physical book don’t legitimize something

3. I learned how to enjoy other cultures without making people from those cultures uncomfortable

4. I realized my guardians, while better than my past guardians, were still abusive and what I was experiencing was not healthy, even if distressingly common

5. I learned generosity without ulterior motives actually did exist

6. I learned I don’t have to abandon the things I enjoy as I get older.

7. I was taught ways to treat people differently in deference to their age while still treating them as peers.

(they treated me as an equal, but I was not included in any sexual discussions, for example)

8. I learned that friendships don’t have to be quid pro quo

All of these things super insidious and destructive to the conservative agenda.

Destroying the links between generations is part of how the powerful keep us from forming communities and bettering our lives. Don’t do the masters’ work for them.

the plant ‘blindness’/plant ignorance phenomenon is genuinely tragic for so many reasons but at the same time plants get away with so much more because of it. like it’s actually very funny

tree at my grandma’s house dropped a ton of male flowers on my car last night and each one was armed with a little pollen explosion to go off when it fell so the roof/hood/windshield was covered with dead flowers and their corresponding pollen nuclear isolation zones literally so much plant nut it was turning water running off my car yellow couldn’t get all of it some still hanging on down the highway just INCREDIBLY vulgar behavior and what I’m saying is. could you imagine the HOA reaction if this creature was an animal