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mostly a diary. not much fun. about. WARNING: I don't end up warning for that much stuff, trying to tag common fears and basically put mental health/upsetting stuff behind a read more, and tag flashing or strobing images. NOT WARNING: you can reblog my selfies and anything else under the sun, except pictures of my boss. watching bad genre shows and occasionally good ones are you afraid of the dark?
Anonymous asked:

Is it wrong that I’m cool with “sex” being removed from the pride flag? They should bring back “magic” though.

Personally I think you’re wrong and an idiot but that’s just my opinion.

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Fyi this isn’t a dig at people who are asexual or sex-repulsed. Gay sex was literally a criminal act in the parts of the United States Texas until 2003. A healthy relationship to both sex and your body is a major component of the human experience, but especially LGBTQ+ people. Yes this includes people who have a healthy understanding of their boundaries with regards to sex. To try and divorce the fight for LGBTQ+ rights from sexuality is both dangerous and ahistorical.

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The “sex” stripe isn’t “have sex.” Mainstream society has no problem with people having sex. We don’t need a flag to declare our right to have sex.

The stripe means “have the sex you want to have, with the people you want to have sex with.”

And that includes “no sex, with no people.”

(For anyone who didn’t know: the pink (sex) and turquoise (magic & art) were removed because it was hard to source those colors for flags, not because of any controversy over their meanings.)

memeception

WE’VE HIT TERMINAL MEME

I’ve said “I hate this” so many times on this website, and never actually meant it, because “I hate this” is just shorthand for ‘this is an example of a meme given a twist I wasn’t expecting with intent to surprise’. Which is, in of itself, a meme on this site. God damn it.

But this… This is something else.

The rapidity of a meme’s introduction to its zenith to its decline is so rapid that in ten years, you’ll need a damn twenty-page manual to explain this. It’ll be as unfunny and hard to explain as jokes in Shakespeare plays, except even more inexplicable because fuck, at least Shakespeare’s jokes are usually about anal or fucking your mother, good wholesome sex jokes we can all get behind.

For the love of fuck, how do you explain loss.jpg? How do you explain gun?

….I THOUGHT THIS WAS A YMCA REFERENCE

it is a YMCA reference - that’s one of the 6 memes being represented here

ok let me see if i can break this down easily. YMCA is the easiest place to start - the song itself has become a meme over time with people changing the lyrics to reference other pop cultural events. so YMCA is meme one (1)

this first lyric replacement (”take the breadsticks and run”) is a reference to the tumblr meme ‘stuffing breadsticks into my purse’. i think everyone remembers that one so i wont bother to explain it. that’s meme two (2)

“man door hand hook car door” is a meme of its own, a creepypasta from i dont remember when. it was a terrible stupid retelling of the generic ‘stuck in a car while hook handed man tries to kill us’ story so the stupid title caught on for memorability. that in and of itself is meme three (3)

‘gun’ is… yeah i dont know how to explain gun. long story short you add gun to the end of a phrase instead of what you expect the last word to be. its shock funny. its everywhere but its popular to add to “man door hand hook car door” for.. some reason? gun is meme four (4)

and the thing is, this four meme combo is something thats gone around before. meme combos are, itself, a meme. which means taking this meme combo and mixing in another meme actually becomes meme five (5)

which leaves us at loss.jpg. loss.jpg was a terrible bad comic supposed to be about some tragic event, but it was presented so poorly literally no one takes it seriously, and for some reason recreating the four-panel setup has become popular. so thats meme six (6)

(but i need to add that this is the greatest version of loss.jpg i think i’ve ever seen. the initial ‘young man’ lines up with the guy bursting through the door, and the shock meme ‘gun’ matches the shock scene of the woman in the hospital and idk if OP even thought about that but it makes this just so much better)

I wasn’t going to reblog this, but @pagesofkenna‘s comprehensive meme-by-meme annotation is a thing of beauty and should be shared.

average tumblr post contains one meme, this post, which contains six, is an outlier and should not be counted

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it might also just be a coincidence due to loss.jpg’s format but the whole white minimalist four-panel setup is also suspiciously reminiscent of those early 2000’s rage comics

I was getting a political compass vibe too

tag urself im man door hand hook car gun

This works better than I thought it would.

This was in my senior project

I’m not sorry.

EIGHT MEME COMBO

FATALITY

We have officially created a new language 

I just had to do it to em

THIS FUCKING THREAD I’M GONNA CRY

I LOST IT AND MAN DOOR HAND HOOK CAR GUN AND DIDN’T EXPECT MORE I’M SOBBING

M E M E T E N

OwO?

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W o w

You know I had to

I hope you know this is the most cursed addition to my post, and I love it

THIRTEEN!?

SOMEONE EDIT THIS FROM THE ORIGINAL PHOTO SAYING “this one does not spark joy” TO THIS VERSION SAYING “this one sparks joy”

well i added my contribution : )

why—

IM SCREAMING

This is the most elaborate meme I have ever seen and damn am I concerned by how it makes sense.

“You’re in your 30s, but you still understand all this meme stuff?” “Oh yeah, sure.” “Can you explain it to me?” “I absolutely fucking cannot.”

One does not simply explain this

Edit:

Another freaking layer!!!

16 motherfucking layers

In the future someone’s going to ask me to explain this and I’m going to be at a loss.jpg for words

(my response to @biggest-goldiest-spoon & @shitposting-hobbits-to-gallifrey )

Yo, I added more layers.

24 layers!

Oh my fucking god-

It took longer to do this than I’m willing to admit.

I’m sorry-

What the fuck? It got longer?

My terrible contribution

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hlep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you ask for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hlep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hlep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it helps reinforce the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hleper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

geez I feel like the most annoying aspect of being an Autistic person is that you can have a really hard time doing stuff even when you're happy & doing good, if you just get SO hyperfixated on something that it's exhausting to try to drag your mind to other things. It's like depression without the depression and it's good not being depressed!! But also yeeeeeeeeesh

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broke: I hate doing group projects so much that I inexplicably feel angry and depressed when doing group projects. Or maybe I just don't vibe with anyone in my program?

woke: I always end up grouped with people who are interested in aging/senior issues (absolutely fine, lots of overlap), we agree to work on a topic that affects both seniors and disabled adults. Then I have to try to be polite and a good group member as everyone talks as if disabled people under the age of 65 don't exist, sharing their ideas and solutions that only relate to seniors :) :) Then I feel stupid for how low-grade upset I'm getting when it's just a project for school.

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every person in my class writing a paper: LTSS is important. Source, the population of seniors is growing and by x year lots of people will be seniors and need LTSS!

me dying inside: couldn't it be argued that bad things are still bad even if they affect a minority of people

broke: I hate doing group projects so much that I inexplicably feel angry and depressed when doing group projects. Or maybe I just don't vibe with anyone in my program?

woke: I always end up grouped with people who are interested in aging/senior issues (absolutely fine, lots of overlap), we agree to work on a topic that affects both seniors and disabled adults. Then I have to try to be polite and a good group member as everyone talks as if disabled people under the age of 65 don't exist, sharing their ideas and solutions that only relate to seniors :) :) Then I feel stupid for how low-grade upset I'm getting when it's just a project for school.

The Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) is planning on changing their regulations for telehealth prescriptions of controlled substances. However, they have opened comments up for people to voice their opinions. You can submit a formal anonymous comment HERE. The comment period ends on March 31st, 2023.

This is an important issue for those who are prescribed controlled substances (e.g., testosterone or ADHD medication) through telehealth, which means it can and will impact trans people on testosterone and a ton of others if this goes through.

This is one of those very easy times to show up for neurodiverent people and trans people!!!

Many folks live in treatment desserts- they may have to go really, really far for care. And in some cases that could be every single month.

This is a silly rule that amounts to security theater for medicine. Please join me in standing up to it!

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wow I'm home sick and just put a grape hi-chew in my mouth and was overcome

I love grape hi-chew so much

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I'm verklempt because I just received an anonymous box of grape hi-chew in the mail :')