Kris Wenschuh - Let Go, 2020

hey friends with anxiety,

i found this cool website that lets you make you own nebulas and galaxies and stuff. the lines slowly spread out after you make them and its really relaxing and calming so if you’re ever having an anxiety or panic attack or just feel irritated and need to calm down, this might help you out like it helped me. (also its fun to mess around with even if you’re not feeling bad)

you can check it out  *here*

(ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

— Melly (ambiguities)

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i guess what ppl dont tell u about college is that is a very lonesome period of ur life. and that doesnt mean like u wont have lots of friends or u wont party or whatever but ur going to spend so much time alone. like cooking by yourself and studying n homework and driving and going to classes like……… its just you sometimes. and the trick is to use that time by yourself to relax and understand YOU better and iron out your own wants n wishes instead of wallowing

u know like….fuck it’s really going to be okay. you’re going to make it through whatever it is you’re going through. everything is happening the way that it needs to and no matter where you are in life you’re on the path that you need to be on in that moment. everything that’s happening to you right now needs to happen in order to mold you into the person the universe created you to be. sometimes when our lives fall apart it’s really just the universe telling us it’s time for something different‬. sometimes we ask the universe to help us grow but then we hold on to the things it’s trying to take away in order for our growth. pay attention. when you ask the universe to help you grow, it’s gonna start raining. this is how we bloom

forgive yourself. whether you fail a test, eat too many cookies, say the wrong thing, fail a class, or spend a whole day in bed — learn to forgive yourself. the next day will be better. the next day will be a day closer to your next success. you can do it.

Can i get a step by step on how to do this?

So far for me it’s been something like:

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

I hope any of that made sense.

oh my goodness there are instructions!!

Happiness Will Come To You.

when tho

When You Least Expect It. Probably Late March

reblog for happiness to come for you in late march!

I reblogged this last year and I hung out with blink-182 backstage on March 30. Reblogging again because it worked the first time.

honestly, last year one of the best days of my life happened in late March

my new thing has been just… acting on my ideas. like i thought maybe my desk would look better on a different part of my room so i like. moved it? just like that! i ripped an old anatomy book and stuck the diagrams up on my wall like some kind of old timey victorian doctor. i wanted a starbucks and i walked one and a half miles back and forth in a floridian storm and goddamn it was a good coffee. life is too short babey if you think of something just do it. nike

This was weirdly motivating

— excerpt of Princess, Hold Your Head High, Angelea Lowes (via angelealowes)