I feel a lot of people have moral systems that are completely detached from centering avoiding real harm to real people and are mostly based on completely arbitrary obsessions with symbolic and abstract "wrongs" and gut feelings, and then they join progressive politics and make an absolute fucking mess out of everything with their weird little moralist obsessions that actually don't help improve anybody's life or serve any purpose besides making a few people feel morally superior. This is why for example anti-kink politics went from having a pretense of being about protecting vulnerable women from abusive men to just being very blatantly "if you have ever done kink at all you're ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew ew".
I think if you cannot describe the mechanism through which an action brings harm to real people then you probably don't have an actual argument as to why you consider the action in question to be immoral, and even if you can, you might find some people don't agree with your definition of harm or find the evidence for the existence of this harm mechanism to be lacking. Secular morality is a lot more complex than a lot of angry social media users might want you to believe it is.
‘being grossed out’ is not the same as being damaged, either. disgust is an emotional concern about hypothetical damage. the gross food might poison you. the gross person might sicken you. the gross behavior might endanger you. it’s just a pop-up alert that you might be in trouble if you continue. it’s just a warning sign. and everyone deserves to deal with that sign on their own.





