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Davine Joy Randolph at the 2024 Met Gala🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
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Beefcake butches exist it's not like there's no truth to that stereotype but in my experience almost all the butch women I know online and irl have been fat, and even the ones that WERE strong/buff were still fat because these things are not, infact, incompatible and often coincide because you need a big frame to support muscles
All I am saying is maybe realign your image of butch women a smidge if your only frame of reference for us is a skinny girl with a buzzcut and six-pack
Anonymous asked:
yoooo it's the anon whose fat OC cuts off her toxic family!! happy to report that she does indeed achieve her dreams <3 I have it planned that, as she gets older, she adopts a son and becomes a beloved member of her community for always advocating for kids, and for sending her son to school with extra food to feed any of his peers who may not have enough to eat. She attends therapy and has found closure for her past and is living a nice, calm, happy life.
I love this so much it's hard for me to put it into words! Thank you for sharing this amazing character and her wonderful future. I think that is such a lovely sentiment "a nice, calm, happy life" - what more could anyone want?
#mod amelia#asks#writing fat characters#mod cj weighing in a little too: as a kid who mostly only got to eat in school because of other ppl sharing theirs#thank u for including that detail#like. i wouldve survived even if they hadnt done that‚ i wasnt in physical danger‚ but them being willing to share like that was#definitely a bright spot in an otherwise shit time so. it is appreciated
Anonymous asked:
I really hate that I constantly feel like I have to share trauma with people for even a chance for them to give me slack when it comes to my weight. Like whenever someone is judgemental I end up in a situation where I either have to just accept it, or explain how being neglected as a child caused my body to hold onto fat and that was only made worse by a restrictive eating disorder as I got older *and* a physical disability that prevents me from being physically active. And if I say that then sometimes I get treated like an asshole for trauma dumping, even though I often don't even want to share all that (there's a reason I'm on anon for this)
I just want to be left alone. I already struggle so much with food and people are constantly making it worse, and it feels like the only way they'll give me a break is if I divulge all this personal information because they only have the slightest bit of compassion for fat people when our bodies are shaped by suffering. I wish I could just love food without feeling the constant shame. I wish I could keep those painful memories private instead of needing to offer them up for random people to judge if that's a "good enough" reason to be fat.
People are just so awful and judgemental.
Dear Anon,
I feel this in my soul. I empathize and sympathize with you so much. I recently learned about a term called ACE - Adverse Childhood Experiences - from my therapist and many things clicked into place. I have a disordered relationship with my body due to the way my mother spoke about and treated hers and from when that was then pushed onto me and my body. My ability to cope with it comes and goes. A few years ago, I was in a good place - body acceptance wise. Lately... not so much.
All of this to say: There is Nothing wrong with you! Your body is wonderful. It is beautiful. It is an instrument that gets you through each day and I am grateful you are here. Also, Fat IS Perfect! There is no right or wrong way to exist in a body. People who try to make you feel bad about the way you exist in your body are the problem and you can tell them from me to "fuck right off with that bullshit".
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body paintings by Karen Turner
here's my Spring outfits board on pinterest. All plus sized!
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Eeeeeek, my first day back at work in exactly two months! I was feeling massive anxiety about going working again, mainly because my relationship to my teaching career is so complicated.
I’m not teaching right now, but I’m working at an educational toy store in town - and I absolutely love it. It could possibly be one of the best jobs I’ve ever had. No exaggerating. On my second day my manager said to me, “I have a very important task for you. Can you build this Poe Dameron X-Wing Fighter Lego model?”
So yeah, anxiety can go suck it.
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“Wear What Scares You”
Top from @chubbycartwheels
Bottoms from Torrid
Photos by the very talented @ashleyllanesmedia
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How to style a bralette: Plus size edition (ft. my dirty mirror and terrible lighting) •Bralette: torrid •Skirt: forever 21 plus •Cardigan: jeans warehouse
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Anonymous asked:
Top five Alberta monuments?
I cannot believe I left this in my drafts for so long 😭
- When she forgives Hetty. I loved everything with Alberta's murder in season 2, but the character growth for the two of them! While Alberta's murder getting wrapped up led to the theory of her getting sucked off, I'm so happy they were able to repair that friendship.
- That one scene where she sings with Alicia, her sister's descendant. It was so sweet! I love whenever Alberta sings, because Danielle Pinnock has a lovely voice, but this moment was so beautiful!!
- The flashback to her audition in the 1920s. I love when we get flashbacks to the ghosts’ lives, especially this one! It was really one of the only times we get to see Alberta’s life, other than moments about her death in the whodunnit episode. As a bigger girl myself, the part about body standards rang so true, even if it took place nearly 100 years ago!
- When she helps Flower realize that the cult was bad and that her brother is alive. I know Alberta is our beloved jazz diva, but I adore how much she cares about the other ghosts. We should’ve had more content of Alberta and Flower as roommates tbh
- When she realizes that the Alexa can hear her. “I am a god!” Alberta genuinely makes me laugh so hard sometimes
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going through the hades 2 stuff and im sorry but i just have to ramble a second because look at Hephaestus
he's not just a wheelchair user but also an amputee. an above knee amputee. wheelchair users are already next to nonexistant in video games but amputees exist in this really...disheartening? spot where they're pretty much just reduced to "person with a cybernetic limb" - it's always just somewhere from "just a cool visual design" to flat out "superpower". I can't think of a video game amputee that is actually disabled by their limb differences - I'm all for futuristic worlds where prosthetics and other disability aids are far advanced from what they are now, but that's not really what's implied by these designs. They're just... Cool designs that in no way reflect on the real-world experience of being an amputee.
Look at Hephaestus, though. Look at that prosthetic. Whilst stylised it very much looks like it functions like common mechanical knees - knee bends when thigh is lifted, knee straightens when thigh is lowered. He's a wheelchair user as well as a prosthetic user - every prosthetic user I know is also a wheelchair user as a prosthetic is not usable in every occasion and also cause exhaustion and pain if used constantly.
Whilst we can't see much of his wheelchair the position he's sat in and the wheels very much evoke active wheelchair to me - this carries on to very specifically the thickness of his arms. Whilst a lot of Hades designs are muscular Hephaestus has very noticeably thick arms - which makes sense, as active wheelchairs require a lot of arm strength.
Just overall this design is making me want to cry - he's not just an actual wheelchair user in a video game, he's a realistic depiction of an amputee, a disability usually brushed over in order to give a character a fun design quirk and nothing else. He's fat and he's hot and he's a realistic depiction of an above knee amputee. Oh my god. Oh my god?
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Weight gain or loss has no moral value.
Anonymous asked:
I've been fat my whole life. Ever since I was a kid. And ever since I was a kid I've been mocked, bullied, ridiculed, insulted and even physically assaulted for being fat. To the point I ended up with an eating disorder and lost a lost of weight. Way too fast. In a way that wasn't healthy at all. But I still wasn't happy. Because I couldn't recognize myself anymore. And I felt like i was just doing this for other people. But it's just so hard for me to accept my body. It just feels like I'll never be happy with it no matter what
I'm so sorry we haven't answered this. I know that this is a triggering ask so I'm gonna add all the tags i possibly can followers.
I'm actually a lot like you Nonny. I was a chubby kid, then got my period at 10 because I was so fat. I had an eating disorder by 14 and while it didn't last long (the bulimia at least) I kinda got comfortable in my skin even though I slowly crawled back up to my previous weight I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety. So the meds they put me on made me gain weight (50 pounds in 6 months). There after I did yoyo dieting and exercising flirted with bulimia again but it didn't work this time.
I'm not telling you this to trauma dump. I want you to consider my age and experience. I'm in my early forties. And its like... part of the reason I wasn't happy with my body was because I grew up with magazines and tv and movies constantly showing me thin ppl.
i don't think I stopped yoyo dieting until the cycle of yoyp dieting made me hit 250 lbs (I'm only 5'2) by then i was like 28/30ish. And like I think what changed was that I was watching media with like Donna from Parks and Rec, Shirley Bennet from Community. And they were never made to feel ugly for being fat. It was eye opening. (spoiler alert even though I'm not black Ugly betty was like more of the same thin ppl are the only that matter).
I don't think I really got comfortable in my skin until I joined pinterest about 7 or 8 years ago and got fed a steady stream of fat people in cute outfits.
Its still hard to find fat representation though. And I started looking into romance novels with chubby and fat protagonists about 5 years ago. Most notably the Brown sisters trilogy. They're all overweight and they all have these handsome men falling head over heels with them.
But like its one thing to admire people on pinterest with cute outfits. its a complete other thing to actually shop for yourself and give yourself permission to buy cute clothes.
One strange thing that happened about 3 years ago was that I gained like 40 pounds and all of my boring clothes didn't fit me anymore.
So this time shopped on lane bryant for cute dresses and jeans. and torrid, and hot topic. I started playing with makeup. (before I had like a uniform of jeans).
I'm not gonna lie people will *always* praise you for losing weight even if its because you're literally sick with an eating disorder or having health problems. (a friend of mine who did belly dancing lost like 30 pounds like really fast because all of the sudden she couldn't process meat anymore everyone fawned over her weight loss). she was literally starving and people wouldn't stop cooing over her skinniness.
I don't know what to think about society at large and their obsession with thinness. I've tried telling my family that I no longer want to keep clothes from when I was 250ish and they're all like "oh don't worry you'll lose the weight!!!"
I'm like bitch please. But its exhausting having people encourage you to lose weight. If you want you can message us off anon!!!
*hugs*
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