UPDATE April 25, 2022: The rumor that Misha Collins is bisexual is DEBUNKED.
At a Misha Collins dinner panel Friday, April 23rd, 2022 at the Creation Ent New Jersey Convention (NJCON), Misha responded to an audience question in a way that implied he is bisexual:
Both linked videos have transcriptions, this is the one by @vulqan:
[description: Misha Collins standing at a podium addressing an audience. transcript as follows:
Misha: [stuttering] by a show of force, how many of you would consider yourselves introverts?
[pause, audience chatter]
Misha: how many extroverts?
[pause]
Misha: and how many bisexuals?
[pause, audience WOOOO, laughter, chatter]
person filming: where did that come from?
someone else: Misha, you didn’t raise your hand for any of them.
Misha: i’m all three. [dismissive hand motion] um. i, i— [laughs] see, it would’ve been weird if i had said “by show of hands, how many bisexuals in the audience” but i feathered it into another question there to make it socially acceptable.
end transcript/description.]
This story was picked up by multiple gossip and entertainment news outlets over the weekend including Perez Hilton and Out.com.
[Description: 5-tweet thread by Misha Collins on April 25, 2022.
Tweet 1: I want to deeply apologize for misspeaking this weekend. At a fan convention in New Jersey, when I was talking with the audience I said that I was “all three” things: an introvert, an extrovert and a bisexual. 1/5 (thread emoji)
Tweet 2: My clumsy intention was to wave off actually discussing my sexuality, but I badly fumbled that and understand that was seen as me coming out as bisexual. 2/5
Tweet 3: This was not my intention so I need to correct the record: I am not bisexual. I happen to be straight, but I am also a fierce ally and the last thing I want to do is falsely co-opt the struggles of the LGBTQIA+ community. 3/5
Tweet 4: I believe and fully support that we need to sanctify the human right to express our identities honestly and to be free to love whomever we choose openly. 4/5
Tweet 5: I am deeply sorry for the clumsiness of my language. I want to be a better ally and I feel sick to my stomach that I might have done anything to make things worse. I’m trying to learn, trying to do better and I will keep listening.
Misha
5/5
end description]
Given this statement by Misha Collins in his own words describing his own sexuality, any rumors that Misha Collins is bisexual are reliably Debunked.
- We note that sexuality and identity can be fluid and people learn new things about themselves all the time and that this post is accurate as of April 2022.
- Our original post is included below for reference.
— original post from June 18, 2013 —
Barring any official announcement of his sexuality, the rumor that Misha Collins is bisexual is INDETERMINATE.
This rumor has many points of origin. The post referred to in Anon’s ask can be found here and lists Misha among openly gay or “gray area” sexuality actors.
We were unable to find publicly documented evidence from a reliable source for Misha’s sexuality. We consider Misha himself to be the only reliable source on this topic, due to the very personal nature of sexual identity. It is impossible for an outside observer to label another person’s sexuality unless that person has explicitly specified a preferred identity. External or behavioral criteria is completely irrelevant.
Possible forms of documented evidence would include a serious interview with a legitimate news association, video of him seriously asserting bisexuality at a convention or somewhere else, or a serious twitter announcement. The operative word here is serious, since Misha is a notorious jokester.
Some of the speculation originates from fan knowledge of Vicki Vantoch’s book, The Threesome Handbook. Misha is Dr. Vantoch’s husband, and the book includes some information about their marital life, including a mutual girlfriend (tumblr user agentsex owns the book and has uploaded a few pictures of relevant sections). This obviously supports the idea that Misha is/has been polyamorous, but the book does not discuss Misha’s sexuality.
We do not consider interaction with other actors at conventions to be evidence of sexuality. Close proximity or physical affection can easily be the result of comfortable friendship and are impossible to definitively interpret from an audience perspective.
Given the lack of documented, reliable sources, we cannot confirm or debunk this rumor. Unless a public, documented, reliable source surfaces, we cannot describe Misha as bisexual (or heterosexual, pansexual, demisexual, etc), since we do not know how he describes himself. (As always, if we’re missing something on this topic, please let us know!)
- Regardless of his own sexuality, Misha is a vocal supporter of LGBTQIA+ rights. At the end of this article, he speaks favorably of Godstiel’s gay rights support. In this clip from NJCON 2013, he mentions that he has officiated gay weddings (at the 2:15 mark).
- No matter what Misha’s sexuality is, he is under no personal obligation to make a public announcement. He already shares a great deal of his personal life with fans, such as the cooking videos with his son.
- Further discussion of the politics of labeling other people’s sexualities is outside the purview of the (de)Bunker. We are only going to report what has or has not been said; we will not discuss opinions or hypotheses here. (We do all have personal blogs for that sort of thing; feel free to contact us there.)
- ETA: According to this post, Misha was seen at a gay bar, which might account for some of the rumors. However, we do not consider this proof of any kind of sexuality, as it is perfectly possible for a straight man to go to a gay bar.
- If any of the wording in this (or any of our) post(s) makes you uncomfortable, please let us know. We’re trying to help, not hurt!
