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“I…I can’t bear another funeral. I can’t afford to lose anyone else.”

andrew garfield saying, “i hope this grief stays with me because it’s all the unexpressed love that i didn’t get to tell her” about his mothers passing is so gut wrenchingly beautiful because we rarely talk about the love we want to express but can’t, not because you’re not brave enough to say it out loud but because they’re not here to listen to it anymore. calling grief the love you never had the chance to share makes it less of a burden and more of something you want to keep and not something terrible you want to move on from. i love love how everything about grief always comes down to “what is grief if not love persevering?”

Something I’ve learned recently is that you can’t be grieving all the time.

That may sound obvious, but I feel like if you asked me, “How do you tell someone just lost someone close to them?” the answers are like Acts very sad, not taking care of themselves, not smiling or laughing, etc.

And that’s just… not true. It’s impossible to be wracked with grief 24/7. It really just does come in waves. And in between those waves, you often just act like your normal self.

Which can be odd to see, let alone go through. It’s tempting to ask yourself, “Why am I not sad?” but you are. You just can’t be outwardly expressing it all the time without exhausting yourself.

Grief is a marathon, not a sprint.