Faceless-One

Being neglected by abusive parents feels safe, because it means they’re not actively yelling at you, blaming you for existing, making you feel like shit because you cost money, or beating you. It gives you some space to feel like maybe they’re okay with your existence today, maybe now you can go and build some confidence and live your life, until their next outburst of hatred. So what if you’re going thru crisis and lack survival resources that day, what if you’re feeling lost and dissociated and worried about your future, at least you’re not burdening anyone with that, at least nobody is blaming you for what you’re going thru right now.

The after-effects of being neglected will show after you grow up, and you’re painfully aware that nobody is ever responsible for making you feel okay, for taking care of you, for making sure you’re not in pain. Because nobody ever did care for any of that, and it’s unlikely they’ll ever start caring. So you don’t reach out, you don’t ask for help, you curl up and wait for pain to pass and blame it on yourself that you’re feeling it. You never realize that for vast majority of your life, there were people responsible for making sure you’re not in pain, that you feel safe and have every support you need; your parents. You don’t realize they skipped out on that responsibility because you’re busy being aware of how much worse they could have been to you, and all you can do is try to heal the damage they’ve already done to you. 

Being neglected can make you neglect yourself, because you’ve never been taught that you are someone who is supposed to be nurtured and taken care of.  It can mean eating disorders, self-destructive habits, punishing yourself for struggling, feeling like you’re not allowed to have comfort or company, building the hardest possible life for yourself and blaming yourself for being weak if you’re not able to do it all perfectly. It can mean tolerating friends and partners who also neglect you, and not even notice they should be paying attention and caring for what you’re going thru. It means never believing that things will be alright, because nobody is coming to help, nobody is going to fix anything, unless you do it yourself, alone. And there’s things we can’t fix alone. You are forced to emotionally survive on your own, even though humans aren’t meant to. 

Someone should have prevented this happening to you. Someone should have seen you suffering as a kid, and protected you, shown you that this is unacceptable, you haven’t deserved it, and you are to be nurtured and cared for, until you can relax and know that there’s love for you in this world.

I just burst into tears reading this because I really need it.

Talking to people about your characters really is a game changer. You'll start saying things about them you didn't even know you knew.

“I preferred to adopt two male cats so that they would not have kittens but they adopted a kitten from the street 😅”

the bunnies did the lady and the tramp kiss. help i’m crying

enemies to lovers

I found a lovely snail at work who was dried out so I let him have a shower and he seemed to enjoy it!! 🐌🚿

I wish life were this simple

EGG THIEF

When reading fanfic keep in mind that for professional literature: 

Fics over 40k are literally a novel written and shared for free.  If you have written a 40k+ fic, you have literally written a novel.

Resist! Do not comply!

Also accept nothing, taking a small thing even like a coupon can be interpreted as you accepting it as compensation.

And the courts will agree with the party “compensating” you. Because the Court’s definition of “reasonable person” is completely divorced from reality.

Our blessed tumblr

A holy site

Nah nah nah, you ain’t hiding this in the tags

Not one of the 7 deadly sins, but a secret 8th sin

an extra sin, as a treat.

Fuck you anti bird architecture who gives a shit if a little guy makes a nest on top of your stupid Starbucks sign

They put anti-bird spikes on a church in my hometown, so the only place on the building where birds can sit is on the very top, on the cross. So the cross is now covered in bird shit

"In the house of a rich man there is nowhere to spit but his face" -that greek dude who lived in a barrel

i found the second funniest map in the world today

What’s the funniest map?

^ magic spell of get assassinated by the turkish government

Actually how dare you leave this in the tags

Reblog and put in the tags how often you “clean” your tumblr account, deleting old posts.

I’m going, to be honest. I forget half of what I reblog. If not all. I’m like a goldfish or worse on this site.

free idea for mr. nintendo

Anyway

I can't keep finding out News like this.....

y’all if your blog looks anything like this:

you really should change your icon, title, or ideally, both.

that is what bots look like! even if you have posts on your blog, it’s very hard to distinguish an actual user from a bot if your blog looks like one in the above photo.

i block bots and i really don’t wanna accidentally block an actual person, but if you follow me and you have a blog that looks like that, there’s a good chance that you’ll get blocked.

also another important note: don’t just change your description or header or blog colors. make sure you change the icon or blog title, cause when someone is looking at their follower list, this is all they see:

we just see the icon and title, so it’s best to change those that way no one has to go through your blog to try and figure out if your a bot or not.

Yeah fellas if your looking like this, and I block you it’s because I think your a bot.

Ok I want to say something controversial

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.

Weighted blanket is not enough I need someone to do this to me

ID: A colourless digital drawing of a person being rolled flat by a rolling pin that is held by a pair of larger disembodied hands. end ID

This has been circyling around the autism community AND the chronic pain community. Target audience has been met