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River - 18 - they/them + ve/vem/vir
I love 2000/2010s vampires <3 so I post abt MBAV & Twilight
DNI - NO FUCKING PROSHIPS I SWEAR TO FUCKING GOD. KYS. Fans of Re-Animator, Hannibal, Slasher genre, gore freaks, Pro-ED, TERF, or other freaks- stay away from me!!!

Heyyy Im River! My pronouns are they/them + ve/vem/vir and water centric neos :3

My old account was @sweets-gun so u may know me from there if we were moots :]

I’m 18 and I like really cheesy vampire stuff like twilight and mbav. I also post other stuff here since this is my main blog, my tag for off-topic stuff is #not vampires

Sideblogs:

@sweetst0oth : bones tv fanblog

@seafoamv3ins : religious blog (helpol)

@seashellconnoisseur : homestuck blog (I know. I know)

@seasaltinmysoul : naiad blog

Full DNI under the cut, PLEASE read also I block very liberally

smeyer failed me and every citizen of good standing when she didn't make Post-breakup Bella recognize how dysfunctional her relationship with Edward was, that it had been too much too fast and that she had been too consumed by him to have a life of her own and now that he's gone she slowly regains her sense of self and reconnects with friends and family and realizes there's more to life than being in a relationship, and she spends more and more time with Jacob, and they click and it's easy and comfortable and fun and she doesn't worry that she's not good enough or smart enough or beautiful enough, she's not intimidated or awed by him, the love and connection they have with one another is human and natural, it's simple and effortless, and the 1st time they say I love you they say it as friends and it feels right, and the 100th time they say it as lovers and it feels right too, and they both knew all along that one way or another, they'd spend the rest of their lives together and they move gently, peacefully towards their future.

I’m moving into college in 3 weeks have you got any tips :0

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yes!! quite a few actually. :) *for mutuals outside of the u.s., this advice is based on a U.S. American university experience, so some of it may not apply to you.

PLEASE SEND ASKS if you have specific questions, and I’ll either speak from my own experience or give information from other friends in university rn!!

packing:

  • You don’t need to bring ALL your stuff. (Really, it’s okay. Also, you have limited space.)
  • A quick Google search of “college packing list 2023” will yield many results. It’s up to you to decide what “essentials” are actually essential, but suffice it to say, think about the things you use on a daily basis and then think about what you don’t have at home that you’ll need in student housing.
  • Apartment or dorm, unless you’re really lucky—you’ll be sharing living space & appliances with other people. Yes, that includes showers. If you can get toiletries cheaper locally than in the location of your university, save yourself the time and money. Shower shoes are an absolute must, because those showers can get disgusting.
  • If you have a meal plan that lasts the entire year, you don’t really need to pack a bunch of food (or go grocery shopping a ton during the school year) but it can be nice to have dry goods & snacks on hand. (I keep rice, macaroni & cheese, crackers, & some type of dried fruit around, if nothing else. Whatever tastes strike your fancy, feel free to add/substitute.) If you’re cooking all your own food, you’re going to need at least a cooking pot, frying pan, spatula, dish sponges, and dish soap, as well as some resealable food storage containers and cheap cups and bowls (I got most of that at Target. They tend to have back-to-school sales and bowls & cups go for less than a dollar each.)
  • Laundry is going to be a pain in the ass, unless again, you luck out and have a washer and dryer in-unit. Ditto for dishes (unless your space comes with a dishwasher). Do yourself a favor & get a huge bin of Tide pods, pack of laundry sheets, & at least two paper towel rolls so you don’t have to run out every week to replenish cleaning supplies. (I personally despise having dish towels to wash, so if you don’t mind them take the paper towel advice with a grain of salt.)
  • My dorm was weird and had a sink in it. If you’re responsible for cleaning your own sink it will get nasty quickly. Either take turns with your roommate(s)/housemate(s), or figure out who the designated sink cleaner is.

friends/socializing:

  • Your first friend group in college will likely not be your last, nor will it last. This group is usually composed of people close in proximity to you aka convenience friends. You might realize three or four months in that these are not your people and you don’t like hanging out with them. This is perfectly normal and okay! You’ll find people who you do vibe with. I encourage you not to limit making friends to your specific university, although if you go to a small one like I do that can be tough.
  • Universities often have events with free stuff, including free food. Take advantage of these events if & when you can. They’re usually very laid back, and if you’re not in the mood to stick around, you can grab food and then dip.
  • Orientation events & icebreakers within your first week are to be expected. Try to remember a fun fact about yourself (which is what you usually get asked, along with your intended major, name, pronouns—sometimes, & hometown).
  • Your RA(s) aren’t cops, but they also aren’t your friends. They’re required to report sketchy shit that happens. My RAs had a rule that if they didn’t hear, see, or smell anything suspicious, it was like nothing happened, but try to get a feel for what yours look out for.
  • It is more than okay to need/want therapy. You’ve just gone through a massive change in your life and you did it mostly, if not all, by yourself. Your university counseling services (if applicable) are generally not the best place to go for therapy, though. This is especially true if you’re worried about your privacy. I don’t think I’ve heard of student discounts for therapy, but some therapists have this policy called sliding scale where you pay what you can. Find a person you can talk openly with and who is experienced with your mental health concerns/practices the right kind of therapy for you. (CBT, DBT, & EMDR are a few examples.)

dating, love, etc.

  • First and foremost, if this section doesn’t apply to you because you don’t participate or aren’t ready to in college, please feel free to skip!
  • If you’re still here, obviously I am not the expert on your love life—you are. That being said, without getting too personal, here are some things I’ve picked up through trial and error.
  • If you’re starting college, and haven’t yet dated anyone, it’s okay to feel behind. What isn’t okay is being patronized or taken advantage of for your lack of experience. I wish I could say it’s just common sense, but it’s crucial to figure out what your boundaries, limits, & standards are before getting into an intimate situation with somebody. (I myself learned this the hard way.)
  • simply put: It is okay to be picky! (Read that again.) Or not—what works for one person won’t work for everyone. Some people date & hook up just for fun, especially during college when a lot of changes are happening, and that suits them fine. Some people want stronger, longer connections, and that works for them. Some people focus on friends over partners and refrain from the entire dating & hookup scene. All are valid and healthy. (As long as you stay safe, sane, & consensual, and get tested.)

school stuff:

  • Please do yourself a favor and don’t schedule 8am classes five days a week. I don’t care if you could do it in high school—chances are you’re going to need to wake up way beforehand to get ready OR your roommate will do something ridiculous in the middle of the night that will wake you up. In this more than likely event, you won’t want to wake up and go straight to class. If you’re not a STEM major, this advice is easier than if you are (and if the first applies, my condolences and much love).
  • You need sleep no matter what—if that means midday naps, go for it. I don’t recommend skipping class to nap unless it’s an emergency though.
  • Re skipping class: some professors take attendance and your grade can suffer if you don’t attend. Aside from mental health days, skipping class for fun can be a slippery slope at some universities. (At some, Cs get degrees and grades don’t matter as much, especially if you aren’t looking to go down the postgrad path.)
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I will never understand why ppl get so up in arms abt artists drawing characters as poc, fat, queer, disabled, etc. especially when they say that they aren’t ppl that exist irl like you have so obviously never been in real life if u think disabled queer ppl don’t exist irl?? My friends and I went to a water park the other day and I saw a black lesbian couple, probably in their mid 30s, with their two kids. One of them was using a wheeled walker to get around and I noticed it had a really pretty black and white flower pattern. Seeing them made me really happy! I love seeing other queer disabled ppl irl! Esp at a water park, just living their lives and having fun!! Seeing queer ppl, disabled ppl, fat ppl, etc drawn and in media is so important and just as important as seeing other ppl who are irl !!! Literally go outside a few times in ur life and you will definitely see ppl that aren’t like you. Seriously.

quick what is everyone doing right now

okay reblogging this again just to say that i love love love reading these,, like it's so incredible how we're all doing such vastly different things at the same time...ik it's an obvious thing but it's also insane to think about.