No matter how many times I do it I cannot seem to find a way to tell mental health workers about 'the voices' that doesn't make them immediately give me The Look

Since our system is so very confusing we have the opposite happen. Often we will say things like "the voice in my head said" just to make the distinction, if something doesn't come from us.

But it reminds me of the first doctor me and my Mum went to see after I realised I had DID. The one who perscribed me anti-psychotic drugs. Lol nope.

Are you officially diagnosed. Or are they misinformed. Because to me this should not be happening. Please stay safe y'all. 🍀

fellow systems .. how to help with fakeclaiming yourself ??

Oh! In DBT there is a thing called Wise Mind! My psychologist just rementionsd this to me recently.

There are two mind states that make up wise mind. The emotional mind, and the logical mind. Facts versus emotions.

So if you look at a situation from an outside, clearly logical perspective, things tend to start lining up. EG, I'm feel scared or sad or angry or happy for literally no reason? That is probably another alter, and logically and with a little ask you will probably find their reason for their feelings too.

Logically it isn't normal to have memory gaps or loose time. Logically it isn't normal to be able to argue with yourself. You wouldn't leave yourself notes you don't remember writing, or care for a certain fandom or literature logically speaking. You have no reason to. Logically the only answer that makes sense is systemhood.

Hope that helps! 🥰

question for other polyfragmented systems

is it okay to reclaim terms end0s made ?

we have hyperspecific roles but i don’t know all of the specific roles there are or at least the commonly used ones form polyfragmented systems. i know that end0s steal terms a lot anyway so i’m just curious. or if someone has like a carrd or doc of a bunch of specific roles for polyfragmented systems.

I've had many endo friends, and most wouldn't mind you using their terms. I usually use endo terms interchangeably with DID ones. Terms are made to be used so if you find a term that fits you go for it! 😊👍

I've never seen an endo get mad at a DID system using their terms. Endos believe that systems can exist with or without trauma, and don't seem to have too much of a desire for a separate space from the DID community. So endo terms are more likely to be general terms for any plural-identifying person who can use them. Pluralgang is for any plural you know. Systems are systems and all that.

If you are comfy with the terms, use what is best for you. You don't even need to reclaim them. If you're using them as they are meant to be, it doesn't really matter. If it makes you more comfy, you can say they are endo-made terms. But if they apply, you don't have to reclaim them. They're terms for everyone.

I have a non-verbal alter. Whether they are "a part of me" or "an individual" they are still there. They find different ways to communicate and have their own opinions on things. They are just one of our many alters. Like with everyone else. Who wouldn't believe in that?

People are weird.

Found in a 120 year old time capsule.

Full VDO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoDj4mXdqmc

Worth it.

I’m sorry I might sound like a madwoman for going on a rant about this but man, it’s… I don’t know how to express it but just the thought of some person, 120 years ago, taking a photo of their cat, which back then wasn’t easy - they didn’t have phones with cameras, each photo required a lot of time and dedication, so not only the person “wasted” a whole photo on their cat, they also did their fricking best to save this photo and carefully put it into an envelope to preserve it so that people in the future will know that there was this cat and it looked like this and it’s owner thought the cat looked lovely that day so much that they decided to take a photo of it and then they loved the photo so much that they went out of their way to preserve it for future generations like “hello people from the future! this is what my cat loos like!” because they loved their cat so much they wanted people from the future to know about it is… crazy to me… and here we are, 120 years later, long after the cat and it’s owners passed away, looking at an old photo of a cat and gushing about it. The cat died so long ago and wouldn’t even know it existed if not for the owner that loved their cat so much that they decided this photo was worth preserving and put it into a time capsule. and seeing now how people dedicate whole blogs to their cats and take countless pictures of them just to show to other people really hits because you realize that in the end, people from today aren’t that much different from people that were 120 years ago. We all just love our cats and want people to look at them.

I bet this woman was imagining the photo may be seen by like… a family some day. But no. It survived till the age of the internet. It has now transcended the original media. It is now being seen by far more eyes in far more places than the media she chose would normally allow. I hope the taker of this 120 year old photo is PROUD.

Inner Worlds: A System Forum

This is a system forum with more of a focus on inner worlds and emphasis on system member individuality.

It's meant to be a space for systems to communicate and connect with one another while building themselves up in the process, as well as a space to discuss some of the stranger aspects of being a system and being a person in a system.

I hate it when ppl invalidate xenogenders that dont fit a certain aesthetic like who tf cares if someone’s egggender or ceilinglightgender!! Theyre happy being that, let them live. You either support all xenogenders or none at all. (Support all xenogenders or ill kick in your knees)

Xenohoardtraumic: A gender related to hoarding xenogenders, childhood trauma, and making up for a stolen childhood by hoarding genders

The flag colors are inspired by the Xenogender flag.

No suggested pronouns

you know what fuck you *hoards genders*

personally? I think it's awesome that cis people want to explore their relationship to their gender. I think it's really cool that a cis person could question if they're trans, do some self reflecting, realize they are cis after all, and come out of it with a better understanding of their gender and sense of self. I think gnc and genderqueer cis people are stellar. I think xenogender and neopronoun using cis people are fantastic.

a better understanding of gender and what that means for an individual helps everyone out, and we should welcome cis people who have or want a good perspective on gender with open arms

Explaining gender using colours as an analogy, a thought process I have been tracking since I was like 12

Trans men/transmascs shouldn't have to change every bit about their mannerisms, speech and clothing just to be taken seriously. You can and should respect someone's manhood regardless of all the superficialities. I'm not specifically talking about feminine transmascs (tho they're still heavily included in this), but just those ones who aren't always able to go 100% into the transition, socially or otherwise. Who still own their "girl" clothes and can't just change out their entire wardrobe just like that. Or hair. And who still feel like and want to be masculine men (/enbies).

It's just deeply depressing to me personally when, I'm feeling dysphoric and try to look for passing tips and then reading them I realize that gender really is an entire fucking performance and I'd basically have to become another person. And it depresses me bc I don't want to change that drastically, I already feel like my gender is valid, I just want others to see it that way too, regardless of how I am. I like bright colors, being extremely emotional and sweet, skirts and dresses (occasionally), and well, all my mannerisms and such. But no, that's not manly enough in the eyes of the cishet society. Even though loads of cis men have these traits, trans men aren't valid with them. And don't even get me started on body types..

Personal grudges aside, feminine transmascs, neutral transmascs, transmascs who can't or don't want to change their mannerisms, walking style, voice, clothing, or anything just to have their masculinity taken seriously? They're valid and deserve so much more.

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