pro tip: don’t spontaneously decide to plan a surprise engagement in 24 hours and then
FORGET THAT >8 OF THOSE HOURS ARE YOU BOTH WORKING FROM HOME TOGETHER
I am dying
dying
also no one text me she could very easily see it
Okay so I am still working out my thoughts on The Last Jedi but here are some initial ramblings that contain MANY SPOILERS
everyone knows that kids w divorced parents can have a rlly tough childhood but honestly let’s take a moment and consider the kids who’s parents never got divorced yet kept fighting and arguing every day… sometimes divorce is for the best option, both for partners and especially their kids
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My mom says we can never understand what it’s like to grow up with one parent but we have always told her conversely she doesn’t know what it’s like to grow up with two parents who are physically and emotionally abusive towards each other
Divorce is not the worst thing that can happen to your marriage and it’s definitely not the worst thing that can happen to your kids.
I’m sure I’ve reblogged this before, but every holiday season reminds me how totally set I am on #teamdivorce. It’s a great thing, and I wish my parents had done it waaaay sooner.
My latest piece: Our Blessed Rebel Queen, Carrie Fisher
done in watercolour and ink.
Carrie Fisher has always been a great inspiration to me. As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety, I wanted to create a piece to bring me and comfort and strength. To look upon Space Mom and say “yes, I can face today.”
prints available: https://society6.com/product/our-blessed-rebel-queen-carrie-fisher_print
I may have just signed myself up for execution by registering for a SAS class next semester when I will also be completing the second semester of the STATA class.
But I *will* learn all the programming possible because like hell am I not getting a good job/into a PhD program after this. Next year: R.
Isn't astral projection just another word for like female ejaculation?
Cinnamon roll girlfriend
I am substantially decreasing my Tumblr use for mental health reasons and haven’t really read/looked at anything on here in the past week. I will still sporadically update, probably with just pure complaining about grad school (which I actually love) and life ridiculousness.
If there’s one thing I’ll give 2017 over 2016, it’s that it’s kind of stunning that the year is mostly over?
2016 felt like the year that would never die.
2017 is a hectic nightmare that never slows down enough for you to be aware of the passage of time.
accurate.
You have a thing at 2:00 PM so you set a reminder for 1:00 PM because you don’t want to be late, but you should eat by 12:00 PM. That means you should start preparing food by 11:30 AM, but you want to double check or confirm the appointment before 11:00 AM before everyone goes to lunch. So if you want to finish your other tasks by 10:00 AM, you ought to start at 8:00 AM, which means you’ve got to wake up at 7:30 AM and you may as well get ready to go out then ahead of time, and that’s how something that starts at 2:00 PM effectively starts at 7:30 AM and lasts the entire day.
ME. ME. ME.
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Florence and the Machine covered a song “Stand by Me” by Ben E. King for Final Fantasy XV.
there’s basically no nationally representative data of trans adolescents
goodbye, all my thesis ideas
Just gonna say it’s kinda weird trying to ~ironically~ reappropriate talking like a high school bully when yr an actual adult
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i love him
1-800-ARE-U-SPLASHIN
As the raging California wildfires encroached upon Roland Handel’s home, he had to make a split-second decision — try to force his dog Odin into the car, or leave him behind.
Odin is one of two great Pyrenees who take turns guarding the family’s eight goats from coyotes and mountain lions, and he was on duty the night the fires broke out.
“I had my 14-year-old daughter and we had to get out,” Handel said between sobs.
So he opened the gates so the animals could flee, then drove off with his daughter, their three other dogs and two cats all packed into the family car.
“By the time we were going down the road, you could hear the twisting metal of transmission towers falling and propane tanks exploding,” he said. “I’ll never forget it.”
He returned the next day, circumventing roadblocks to get there.
He discovered that his home and everything else on his property was completely destroyed.
Except for Odin, who was there waiting for him — with all eight goats.
The dogs paw pads were burnt and his bright white fur was singed orange.
“He looked small and he was limping. He was lying down a lot. He was clearly exhausted.”
A group of deer had gathered with Odin and the goats, Handel said, perhaps also taking advantage of the brave pooch’s protection. The deer scattered when Handel approached.
He believes the dog led the other animals to a clearing at the center of a high outcropping of rocks to avoid contact with the flames.
“Its amazing he’s in such good spirits. He doesn’t show signs of being traumatized at all. He’s just really happy,” Handel said.
“He’ll make a full recovery. He’s going to be back with his goats.”
Handel is now raising money on YouCaring to rebuild the animals’ barn and water supply before winter.
Well now I’m crying at my dining room table over a dog and his goats
i understand that white ppl feel anxiety about messing up around poc… you should because that’s what it means to start holding yourself accountable. i’m not saying it should rule your life. if it does, that’s something for you to reflect on and solve, not the poc around you
i don’t think (many) white people will ever understand the anxiety that we feel when we start being a little less stringently polite when talking about racism, when we name actions that maybe white people close to us know they’ve done. we live with this fear inside us that we’re being to aggressive, that if we even name our abuse, we ourselves, are doing something wrong, that the people in our lives will turn on us for demanding respect
this is why woc talking about such sensitive topics are not a teaching moment for white people. it’s something you can’t simply understand with your own bubbling anxiety and desire to be a good person clouding your judgment. it’s not the time or place to teach or talk, when woc reflect on the specific trauma that comes from leftist spaces, from the white women who position themselves as our allies but fail to do the necessary self reflection that allows them to treat us with respect and dignity
if you see a post detailing trauma & abuse from you, not the individual, but the group you are nevertheless a part of (white people, white women), sometimes the only action you can take is nothing visible. your input, your “help,” your “uplifting,” your whatever, is not needed, and only derails the conversation. conversations about healing, catharsis, shared experiences for woc; they’re not supposed to be a warning to white people. they’re for us. we shouldn’t have to be thinking about, catering to, worrying about you in these conversations.
i’m not saying you must avert your eyes and never read these things. only read them. read & reflect & think about how you can become a better person rather than what you can do to make sure you appear a better person. sometimes the only absolution for what you’ve done will come in the will to change yourself
i know that not everyone clicks on the source, and i talk way too much in the tags, but the ww reblogging this really need to consider my tags:
i don’t want to think about the fact that you’ve been doing this before and want to remind yourself how easy it is to treat us badly (wtf). the entire point is you need to do more silent contemplation. it’s distressing for a number of reasons i can’t fully name and shouldn’t have to, but mostly i don’t want to worry whether my posts are enabling you to think you can keep separating yourselves from other white people. don’t treat us as scions of knowledge living on a mountaintop rather than real women who are just tired and want some fucking peace
List of potential schools for PhD:
- just staying at Brown (ideal)
- Harvard
- Hopkins
- Yale (uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuughghughughgh)
- Emory
- Minnesota
Still not sure if I’m going to do this. Definitely not applying anywhere that doesn’t guarantee full funding. Definitely not applying anywhere that wouldn’t be at least a lateral move from Brown in the ~~prestige~~ of the public health world. ‘
...Looking at this list and thinking about, like, life-stuff and not just career-stuff, I literally just might apply only to Brown. That’s really stupid because they only accept like 4 people a year. But.
I guess I appreciate the optimism in believing that the reason that sexual assault and harassment haven’t been addressed is because people don’t think they personally know someone who has been thru it but I’m not so sure Ive lived a life where I’m able to hold that same amount of hope
how ppl think having a popular post is: you get a ton of followers who pay attention to your other posts
how having a popular post actually is: its the only post ppl reblog. you keep getting a ton of unnecessary comments. your activity page is just this one post. nobody follows. anything else you post is lucky if it even gets 5 notes.
Ok, so, in an effort to not Discourse on Tumblr/Fb but still try to have some kind of conversation, I emailed NPR with some questions about a program. I did not really think I’d hear back.
But I did... almost instantly... and the guy was really rude. And then subtweeted me in a way which very much indicates that he lacks basic reading comprehension? This is a grown ass man with a bunch of degrees and a very public reputation. Like... he could’ve just deleted the email. That would’ve been the appropriate response if he was really that uninterested in engaging.
Soooo turns out things are pretty much the same outside this hellsite?