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Affirmations for reparenting the inner child

One way we can work on healing from childhood abuse and neglect is to imagine our childhood self and say the things to ourselves that our caregivers SHOULD have expressed to us and didn’t. Imagine your self at each of these ages. Imagine holding that child-self lovingly in your arms or on your lap, and say these things to the child-you that is still inside you.

[Taken from The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker]

Infant

  • Welcome to the world.
  • I am so glad you were born.
  • You are absolutely perfect just as you are.
  • I am glad you are a boy/girl/nb/etc.
  • You are a delight to behold.
  • You are a gift to the world.
  • I love who you are.

Toddler

  • All of your feelings are okay with me.
  • You can be interested in everything.
  • I love to watch you explore. 
  • I am always glad to see you.
  • You can do things as many times as you like.
  • You can like what you like and want what you want.
  • I like it when you say no.
  • I like it when you let me know if I hurt your feelings.
  • You can go off on your own or be with me as much as you like.
  • It’s okay for you to be angry, and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are.
  • I love who you are.

Pre-schooler

  • I love how you speak and I love to listen to you.
  • I love how you sing and dance.
  • I like how you think for yourself.
  • You can think and feel at the same time.
  • You can make mistakes–they are your teachers.
  • You can know what you need and ask for help.
  • You can ask as many questions as you like.
  • You can have your own preferences and tastes.
  • You are a delight to my eyes.
  • I love who you are.

School child

  • It is always a joy to see you and be with you.
  • It is wonderful to converse with you.
  • You can trust your intuition to help you make choices.
  • I love how you have your own ideas and opinions.
  • You can choose your own values.
  • I love how you ask for what you want and need.
  • You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone.
  • You can learn when and how to disagree.
  • You can be fair with yourself and others.
  • You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent and not know all the answers.
  • I am very proud of you.
  • I love who you are.
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hey, cm’here a second

go to a fancy restaurant and order an apple juice

use the brightly colored band-aid to cover the scratch that probably doesn’t need a band-aid in the first place

use the glitter gel pens

wear the obnoxiously colorful makeup

watch that new animated kids movie you saw the trailer for

go for a swim and imagine your a mermaid

buy the fun shaped macaroni and cotton candy flavored yogurt

jump in a puddle

crunch some leaves

cut the crusts off your sandwhich and don’t be afraid to order the chicken tenders and fries

it’s okay to do “childish” things, you deserve it.