The only kind of man who says, “Not all men are assholes,” is an asshole. If you really were a “nice guy,” you’d be saying, “Wow, lots of men are fucking assholes to women. Let’s do something to change that.”
There it is.
Nope. Everyone has a right to defend themselves. What is going on here when someone gets shut down for saying something along these lines is that they are stereotyping instead of facing the real problem. It is almost like saying "not all mothers abuse their children", despite the fact that mothers are more likely than fathers to be abusive.
Wanna reword this about feminists and see what it looks like?
The only kind of feminist who says, "Not all feminists are assholes" is an asshole. If you really were about "equality", you'd be saying, "Wow, lots of feminists are fucking assholes. Let's do something to change that."


