Empressive

having a child has taught me that every toddler is completely justified in their frustrations and tantrums because learning how to do something you have literally never encountered or heard of before is insane. and being expected to be completely calm in the face of this constant barrage of overwhelming information is doubly insane.

i got charlie a sticker activity book and it occurred to me i have to TEACH someone how to unpeel stickers. it's SKILL that requires DEXTERITY and FINE MOTOR ABILITY. i thought it was obvious that you have to curl the page a little bit to create a break in the cut so the sticker comes up.

obviously a fucking BABY wouldn't know that because they have no background experience to inform their thought process. OBVIOUSLY. and OBVIOUSLY the LITERAL BABY wouldn't get it right the first few times. it would OBVIOUSLY take practice. lots of it.

i hate this feeling. it's so obvious. why are children treated so badly when they're learning everything for the first fucking time. why do people treat children so horribly and expect so much. they're brand new. why didn't i get the same grace i give to my child? why did no one have patience for me? why, when it's this easy?

it's so easy. it's so fucking easy.

Don't worry, You can trust me with the city budget, just let me in there. Come on, just let me have the budget. I will totally not gut the police budget to build a centralized mass transit network and new libraries. I will definitely not do that, just let me in there please. Come on let me have access to the city budget for 5 minutes. That's all I ask.

It is actually way better for 100 addicts to get their fix on pain pills than a single person in pain go without. I call this the "Torture is bad" principle. You should be able to get the good stuff forever after a single doctor's visit. If you're worried about addicts fund rehab centers and needle exchanges instead of torturing people.

Remembering the time my old nb roommate who went to an LGBT law conference and was heaping the absolute biggest bitchfit texting me cause “some cis guy” was talking about trans people and trans men in particular and my roommate refused to listen to what this guy said cause “why should I listen to him” and I said “are you sure he’s cis?” And then towards the end of the presentation he said something that indicated to the crowd he was a trans man and then suddenly my roommate started to consider what had been shared.

Absolute loser behavior, but not completely unique. We’ve all gotta stop saying only x people can talk about x issues for us to listen. Too many people in the in group will have dogshit takes no one wants to challenge because “well, they are x identity.” Likewise, plenty of people on the out group actually know what they’re talking about and have something to contribute to the conversation.

Especially when it comes to sexuality and gender, you relying on someone outing themselves or you clocking them to decide whether their words have merit is shitty, because you won’t always know if they ARE the group “allowed” to talk about it. And even beyond that, I knew a fuckload about transness before I realized I was trans, it helped me REALIZE I was trans. “Listen to x voices” got sooooo warped in the discourse.

HONESTLY also like. part of combatting misinformation is just accepting that you'll fall victim to it sometimes. no-one can be an expert on every imaginable subject and most people don't have the time to factcheck every single piece of information that comes their way. the key thing IMO is responding appropriately when someone points misinfo ie not doubling down and being like 'no there's no way I could be wrong about this'.

If you are thinking about it on paper, the bus running every half hour doesn't sound so bad, until you're waiting at the stop and you miss a bus or it's delayed. Then you're waiting a very, very long time. To people who never take transit, that's probably fine. Why do you care. To people who only take transit, they're expecting it, it's baked in their lives. But the important part, what really impacts our cities, is what happens to people for whom transit is an option.

The spiral goes like this. You go to take the bus instead of driving, thinking "I'm going to o have a couple drinks" or "I don't want to worry about parking where I'm going." So you take bus. First bus is right on time. But then you transfer from your neighborhood line to the line that takes you where you actually want to go. And your bus is delayed. And it only comes every 30 minutes. And then you're waiting, 40 minutes later, wondering where your bus is, knowing you could have driven there in 20 minutes.

Why would you ever chose to take a bus again? The bus made you waste precious time on your day off just sitting there. So next time you drive. Ridership goes down. When the transit authority asks for more money for more buses and more drivers, people point to the ridership numbers and say "why should we pay for this instead of paying for our schools/police/baseball stadium/parks/police again (let's be real that's who's taking all the money)?" If we want to increase ridership we need to actually design and fund functional transit networks. If we want people to actually ride the bus we need to make it a better option than driving, which means reliable service, which you don't get with a bus every 30 minutes.

Every 15 minutes, everywhere, all of the time.

Dark Rise by CS Pacat Instagram

These three are assigned 'evil' for reasons they did not choose, (the same way queer people did not choose their identity) and I love the dramatic irony of this book so much

Hey, if you're wanting to make some changes to how you eat, remember- it's much easier, healthier, and more sustainable to ADD foods that make you feel good than it is to REMOVE foods.

If you feel like you don't drink enough non-sugary fluids, it makes more sense to try drinking more tea and sparkling water than it does to just avoid soda. You gotta add in the good (and remember, that the only value food has is how it makes YOU feel. Food is morally nuetral and should be enjoyed.)

Try:

Remember- food is a gift. It should bring you joy, not stress. Trust your body. Enjoy the cookie. Drink something tasty.

Festa de Orixá, by Breno Loeser. | 1, 2

love like sunlight through the blinds, radiance diffused, spilling through at the edges, glowing red through sleepy eyelids– hints of a whole sky, patient and flooded with dawn.

We’re a trans couple who can’t pay rent and bills without help. I’m physically disabled and haven’t been able to find work I can do, and we still don’t have access to our benefits. I’m working on supporting us through my writing but I’m not there yet.

We’ve just found out that we’re going to have to move to another flat and that our rent is also going to go up as a result, so our expenses this month are going to be a lot higher than usual. I’ve been able to offset a lot of them since I had a good month for book sales, but not all.

For food, electric, hot water, rent and moving costs we need £1600 for the month.

If you are able to help, this is my PayPal and this is my Cashapp.

Reblogs are appreciated. Thank you!

simple quiet, rolling fog, catching light before it hits the ground-- quickly, steal back your moments from the sun; let secret lives play out in your hands. they will not be shared, sweet like strawberries or heady as summer wine, but if you keep your heavy eyes open and your treading feet light, these, at least, are yours.

Warning for cis men: if a trans woman invites you to play dungeons and dragons do NOT accept. She is attempting to induct you into her coven, and likely infect you with cooties

Out of my way loser I’m boutta get it

I am no longer a cis man

theres all this bottomposting and no #relatable top posts where are they

when you ask your bottom to do something a little too firmly and now they are absolutely incapable of doing anything but making really big eyes at you

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underrated quality of bottoms is when they go “sjdjfkfkfj.” gets me going every time.

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reblog if you want to rail someone so hard they can’t walk or if you really like pizza

took me just a bit too long to understand what the hell was going on in this post

i cant believe i got to teach a reddit refugee about fakeposting by manifaesting 3 tops out of the aether like theyre scrooge and im rhat gay little man in chains

"In less than five seconds, Korvin leaps at the counter, grabs the paper, and turns around to toss it onto the stove. The alleged report card catches fire.

Dick… could have stopped him. If he registered what was happening.

Korvin stands up straight, takes a deep breath, and looks him square in the eye before saying, 'Mr. Richard, I don’t go to school.'"

—the pros and cons of digging your own grave chapter 2, by @vermillioncrown

sharing a king bed on thanksgiving night

Altus doesn’t want to make gay interactions in P5 so I made it myself

Sorry for the potential typo errors, English is not my main language but I tried. I will fix it if I can hehe

So who you would date?

literally how can you not think katniss is the funniest protagonist in all of ya lit peeta straight up told the entire country he has a crush on her and she’s like “wow he’s doing such a good job acting like he loves me! im gripped with inexplicable terror when i contemplate losing him! good thing none of this is real tho!”