Price reduction on all shirts, this thing here has been uploaded, and most designs are available on a shirt fitted to female bodies. Keep fighting everybody.

I AM GOING TO CRY FACEBOOK YOU DID A GOOD THING

WHAT IS THIS AN ACTUAL THING NOW?

yes its real!!

So I saw how Google displays a little banner when you search up LGBTQIA terms and one thing I saw moved me to tears.

I googled homosexual, bisexual…etc and was happy to see some of my fellow LQBTQIA brethren get recognized….. And the I googled “asexual”

The fact that the little banner came up, acknowledging me and my sexuality as a part Of the LGBTIA community nearly moved me to tears quite suddenly.

Guess what - It feels like we’re finally becoming a community. And everyone in the LGBTQIA community can celebrate #LoveWins together.

I was just so touched to finally be accepted, to finally here someone speak up for ME - saying that “you’re not abnormal, we accept you”.

And that means everything to me.

And as a proud member of the LGBTQIA community I just want to say… We finally have victory!

Keep in mind that victory and equality are two different things, and discrimination is far from over - but, as of June 26, 2015 it just became a little bit closer.

So here’s to all my fellow Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transgenders, Queers, Intersexes and Asexuals… CONGRATS! I have the feeling that this is the beginning of something beautiful.

PROTECT AGENDER KIDS

Ace Pen Pal Project - FAQ

Being someone who has always been enamored of the Pen Pal idea, I thought it would be cool to introduce something like this into the ace community to help people make ace friends and meet new people. The idea was cemented at the conference after I saw how uplifted people were to be around others like themselves.

So, I’m introducing my Ace Pen Pal project. The system is easy enough; anyone who’s interested in participating can fill out this form and I will use the information to match them up (to the best of my ability) with another participant.

There are no restrictions at this point, though there will be vetting to help prevent trolls from getting in. All you need to do is fill out the form and you’ll be matched up. You can choose preferred contact methods (blog, e-mail, address, whichever you like), preferred genders and ages, etc.

So, that being outlined, you can join via the link below, and please let me know if you have any questions or concerns!

You can add your information via this form. When filling out the form, be sure to include your contact information (blog address, e-mail address) so that a mod can contact you. If you do not provide valid contact info, your application will be rejected.

You can contact a mod to edit your application. DO NOT SUBMIT AN ADDITIONAL FORM! This does not update your entry, it creates a new application.

After a registration form has been submitted, it is reviewed by a moderator. The mod will vet the participant to ensure that they are not a malicious party then proceed with the matching process. Once approved, the registrant’s information and preferences are reviewed and compared to the other available and vetted submissions to find a compatible match. At this point, if a suitable match is found, the mod will contact both parties privately to pass on their pen pal’s contact information.

If a compatible match is not yet available, the mod will contact the registrant and inform them that the process may take a tad bit longer and the submission will remain open until a compatible match is located.  

There are many factors which can contribute to the process. Ideally, the matching process will only take a couple of days at most. However, if there is a large volume of submissions to review, or if there is not a compatible match currently available, the process could take a bit longer. If there is a delay, a mod will contact you to make you aware of the situation, and you will be matched as soon as possible.

A moderator will privately contact you to pass on your match’s information.

Only moderators have access to see your complete application. Once matched, your pen pal will be sent your contact information and name, but nothing further.

If at any time you wish to be removed from the project or wish to be re-matched, you need only contact a moderator and make the request. In the event of a conflict with your original match, you may be asked for details surrounding the re-match request so that we may further investigate the problem and remove problematic individuals to prevent future incidents.

While filling out the form in its entirety will help moderators match you more efficiently, you are by no means obligated to provide any non-required information that you are not comfortable releasing. Required fields are marked by a red asterisk on the form.

Absolutely. All identities on the asexual spectrum are welcome to participate.

This project is specific to the asexual community because I don’t like to perpetuate the belief that aromantic and asexual are the same thing. Aromantics are their own community and they deserve their own recognition and project. I’m happy to organize a pen pal system for the aro community, but it might be better if an aro-specific blog took that over.

As this is an on-going project, there is no deadline at this time.

The moderators have already begun vetting applicants, so the match responses could begin being sent out as early as this weekend (July 4)

Yes. You are welcome to withdraw your participation at any time. To do so, send a message to a moderator and we will take care of removing you and re-matching your pen pal.

At this time, mods are being selected by Sara ( theasexualityblog ) and applications are not being taken. However, if the need for more assistance arises, a post will be made and an application form created that can be used to volunteer.

The mods at this time are:

Katie - lordilover1

Tiffany - grace-and-ace

Hannah - biro-ace-of-hearts

Sara - theasexualityblog

More may be added as time goes on, so be sure to check back to this post for updates.

Have any questions which aren’t listed on this FAQ? Contact Sara and she will answer/update this post.

So with the whole facebook pride thing, I made a transparent ace pride flag/filter to place over people’s current profile picture. (It  works better if you greyscale the original profile picture first though.)

I’m also happy to make more transparent flags or even place one over a current profile pic if requested.

Your sexuality is a part of you, but it doesn't own you. It doesn't change who you are because you're who you've always been. And if you come out and someone in your life can't accept you for who you've always been then they are wrong. You are no different of a person than you were before you told them. This Blog is run by someone who knows and who cares. I am proud to be a safety blog.

Reblog if you agree.

For a while now, I’ve been thinking about how there are greeting cards for almost every occasion, yet next to none geared toward coming out.

So, I made free-to-download eCards you can send to friends and family members who’ve recently come out to you. View them all here: comingoutcard.com

And my personal favorite: “Why should you be afraid of coming out as asexual? Nobody discriminates asexuals.” -Nat

If you’re gray-a or demisexual and like sex, then consider carefully if for you, sexual attraction is part of you liking sex. If it’s not, cool. But explain that to us, that you are gray-a and that for you even if you’re not attracted, you can still like sex.

If you are the type of ace who experiences no sexual attraction to people, you are most likely to actually not like sex. Just like most gay men don’t like sex with women, most lesbians don’t like sex with men, most straight women don’t like sex with women, and most straight men don’t like sex with men.

Yes it is possible to like sex while being not sexually attracted to someone. Yes. True. Arousal and enjoying physical sensations and stuff can be there even without attraction, there can be sensual attraction without sexual attraction, etc.

But if you are spreading this information despite not being that type of person yourself, tread carefully. Let the people who like sex but who consider themselves ace speak for themselves on these issues.

I just feel like yelling “aces can enjoy sex too” angrily into the void isn’t really the best method, especially if you, yourself, are not an ace who likes sex. Because there are a lot of repulsed aces doing 101 that actually happens to not even mention repulsion, and to phrase things the wrong way, like implying that the only reason someone would have sex while ace is to please a partner (not true). There are so many ways to just do Asexuality 101 wrong and kind of commit some microaggressions or faux pas and I just want to help point out to everyone that they even need to consider being careful to avoid that.

How Not to Do 101 on Asexuality, Sex Repulsion, and Sexual Activity

https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2015/02/18/how-to-not-to-do-101-on-asexuality-sex-repulsion-and-sexual-activity/

It’s just important to keep in mind that a lot of us don’t even have a sex drive.

And that the majority of aces are sex-repulsed or sex-indifferent, and don’t actually enjoy sex. And so you have to tread carefully.

Yes it’s important to note that one can be asexual and still have and/or like sex. Asexuality is not a synonym with abstinence, celibacy, or a choice not to have sex - asexuality is rather a sexual orientation describing an innate part of a person. And it’s a spectrum as well, and it is important to keep that in mind.

I just think it’s important to keep all of this in mind and be careful about how you word things.

Just like it’s important not to throw the aromantic aces under the bus when you do your 101 and to be careful with how you present the concepts of romantic orientation.

K so don't put hearts in answers because apparently it deletes half your response like okay. Anyways, I said that loving and accepting yourself is one of the most important things you can do. Really though, I see a lot of people hate themselves for their asexuality, and it devastates me because it's not something you can change, so learning to embrace it is crucial.

Everyone needs to watch Sirens! The greatest show that doesn’t use sexuality as the punchline and they have tons of diversity! You got one character that’s a gay black man, female cops, and an asexual! I love that they don’t make jokes about sexuality and I love that it’s shot in Chicago and more people need to watch it. Also I need to get on this show as soon as possible lol

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