paradisiak:

things you can come out with

"Hey I eat cats"...

Srsly tho 😏

“Are you a boy or a girl?” …Neither.

Tag yourself are you in the:

Lesbian Legion Gay Garrison Bi Brigade Pan Platoon Demi Division Ace Alliance Trans Troops

Demi Division

I, for one, love homosexual-scented candles.

but jeez I wanted to create a new sexualities post, bigger, better,  and more inclusive than the lizards sexuality one I did last year. I’m kind of proud of this! Have some informative pride candles, or something like that. A

Also huge props to @pride-flags-for-us because without them I’d be lost on a lot of these flags (and also wouldn’t have discovered a lot of sexualities). 

This is a little comic I made about the journey I went through in discovering that I’m ace and coming out. It’s drawn in the same simple style I used for my hourly comics, which is really only a step above thumbnails, but I wanted to go ahead and share it. At some point I plan to redraw it properly for my comic site and Tapastic account, and maybe even print it! 

One thing about the comic’s timeline that I wanted to address… When I first came out as ace on social media last November, I actually did come out as demisexual. But since that time, I gained a greater understanding of both myself and the ace and aro spectrums, and realized that demiromantic ace was a much more accurate fit for me. 

In the months that followed my coming out as ace on social media, I slowly began coming out to close family and friends in real life. I was worried about how the people closest to me would react, but it’s gone pretty well so far!

I made this comic to address the doubts, questions, and confusing aspects of myself that made it so hard to understand or explain how I felt before I found the ace community. I especially wanted to represent those who, like me, didn’t realize they were ace for years because they were misinformed or didn’t even know it was an option… who fall into the gray area of the ace spectrum or aren’t sure how to define their asexuality… who worry about whether they’re “ace enough” because they’re gray ace, sex favorable, or both. I hope this comic helps any fellow aces who feel like they can relate to it! :)

(And BTW… any flames from discoursers about my support for ace inclusion in the LGBTQIA+ community will be used to toast marshmallows and then deleted.) ;) 

Thank you! Now I know how to explain the way I think and feel in terms of Romance, Sensuality and Sexuality to my husband. Stumbling across this post has made my day, thank you so much for sharing your story!

reminder

Anxiety And Depression Together

Anxiety: *banging pots and pans together* GET UP! HURRY! DO IT! WE’RE IN DANGER! GET IT DONE NOW!

Depression: *lethargic* I hear you. I agree, but… I’m so tired, I wouldn’t even be able run away from danger if danger showed up because I didn’t do the thing that I didn’t do because I have no energy to do it. Anxiety: *banging pots and pans together* GET UP! HURRY! PEOPLE WILL GET MAD AT US! DO IT NOW! Depression: I don’t care. Let it happen. We deserve to be punished. Anxiety: NOOOO! WORST IDEA EVER!

inside your head for hours at a time

this speaks to me

“Now Colin, you’ve always been seen as a romantic lead to the ladies. How did you apply this to a gay context? Was it difficult for you? How did you-”

Hero.

Not just that he said it, but that he seemed really angry that he had to.

Mr darcy is everything

Wicca 101: The Wheel of the Year

Hello all! Hope everyone has had a wonderful week.

So I was enjoying my lunch the other day going over a few ideas for some posts when I realized…I hadn’t done a Wheel of the Year post. Sure I’ve covered a few holidays in detail as they’ve come upon us…but I haven’t done an actual Wheel post.

Shame on me…for shame!

So I’m gonna go ahead and rectify that right here. This does mean that my year and a day study post is gonna get pushed back a bit. I’m sorry; I will get to it.

As you continue your journey into Wicca (or whatever branch of pagansim you might practice) you will notice a theme of circles/cycles. Our Faith is a very cyclic in nature….possibly because nature itself is cyclic. The world spins, the seasons chance, things are born and things die. The interconnectedness of the world and the things on it (and in it) go through the cycles of life. Don’t believe me?

I could keep going…but I’m pretty sure you all get the point.

What it comes down to is Wicca is a religion with a focus on interconnectedness…our holidays are no different.

So it goes like this:

When I refer to ‘Wheel’ of the Year; I mean it. In paganism in general, and Wicca specifically, this is the cycle of holidays as we practice them. However, every branch of paganism practices the holidays a little differently. In this post I am going to give a very brief overview of each holiday for the sake of your knowledge and understanding.

Why?

Because one of the first things that people ask when they want to know more is 'when/how/why do you celebrate’ Worse? A lot of people who claim paganism can’t answer them. A year or so ago Fox News did a little chat about a college that had added pagan holidays to a pamphlet that they give to professors (the pamphlet is done so professors don’t schedule test or projects for those days in order to be respectful to students choice of worship. ) Fox decided to say some pretty mean things during their discussion on this…not a surprise really…but the one that stuck out to me was that most pagans can’t name their own holidays.

The worst part? They’re right. A good portion of us did not have a childhood in which these holiday’s were something recognized and practiced by an ENTIRE government. So no, we don’t.

Let’s see if I can fix that; shall we?

Sabbats:

Hope this has been helpful. If you have any questions, concerns, or adendums…inbox me to let me know!

Chrysalis

god i HATE the way crime shows aggressively push the idea that only guilty people (or occasionally innocent but morally repugnant people) want lawyers when talking to the police. it’s one of the most harmful lies on tv honestly because it encourages real people to waive their right to counsel making it vastly easier for cops to take advantage of them, lie to them, railroad them etc. regardless of your guilt or innocence, if you’re suspected of a crime, you need a lawyer.

Had a conversation with my father (who’s been a lawyer practically my whole life) earlier this week; among other things he reiterated something he’s been telling us since I was a teenager, which is: it is scarily easily for the cops to get something they can use in court out of anybody, regardless of whether they’re guilty or not, and here in Canada even after you say you want a lawyer before you talk to them they can just keep asking you questions until your lawyer gets there and the only safe thing to do, especially if you’re innocent, is to ask for a lawyer and then do not talk to the cops at all, except for continued attempts to get said lawyer, until you get one.

(This was in the context of both of us being furious about the police murdering people, here and in the US, which lead to a more general conversation about our opinion of the police, which is… not high, and in his case that’s from dealing with them professionally for decades.)

Always ask for a lawyer. Always. Refuse to speak until your lawyer gets there.

AMERICANS, MEMORIZE THE FOLLOWING SENTENCE:

I am exercising my right to remain silent, and I want a lawyer.

That is IT. That is all you tell them. That is all you do. What they are supposed to do (notice I say “supposed to”) is immediately cease questioning until you have a lawyer present.

YOU DO NOT SAY:

I'd watch the hell out of that

sarcasticfina replied to your post:noooooo someone i work with was, like, rooting for…

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they were like “but he really did love her!” and i was like “but he electrocuted her and made her jump in a vat of chemicals” and they were like “he jumped in after her! and that was all when she was normal” and i was like “the club scene? also what is romantic about him MAKING her crazy?” liKE HONESTLY harley is a whackadoodle but she doesn’t actually love wrongly or badly, she doesn’t treat those she cares about like shit. the joker, however… das abuse.

@roguefembot

both in the comics and the tv shows, he’s been just awful to her. it’s always especially difficult to see a message go over the consumer’s head. like i was reading a post the other day that said that joker wasn’t harley’s story, he was her origins. like what he did to her, how he hurt and manipulated and abused her, was her tragic backstory. akin to bruce wayne’s parents being killed and paving the way toward him becoming batman. 

the fact that so many consumer’s of the joker/harley media see it as a twisted love story rather than a tragedy from which she had to recover is so worrying, and really telling of the culture behind abuse and victim blaming and how we’ve told women to find possessive behavior ‘loving.’ and find ways to excuse abuse. even when it’s blatant they find a way to twist it around into being ‘loving’ because possessing harley somehow equals loving harley. which, just, noooo

even when the actress says she doesn’t like that it’s framed as love and that harley should look for love elsewhere, viewers and supporters see something else. and just, ugh it’s so frustrating. because domestic violence is so pervasive and often goes unnoticed. even when it’s seen, it’s not really recognized.