[04.2020, 1/100]
early breakfast + some reading 💕
the crushing guilt of being unproductive vs the exhaustion of being burned out. fight.
shinji--moon-deactivated2017123
it’s always so meaningful when someone interprets you accurately, or says a spark of a phrase, a half-a-sentence, that resonates with you so intimately that it feels like they’ve dipped a finger in a lake of you and made a ripple that goes on and on and on
There’s something special about playing a game within a game. I’m not talking shitty quick time event mini games that break your immersion. I’m talking about when your player character can walk in a bar and interact with an arcade machine that has a littler game that you can play. I see that and I know there’s love built into the game
mindfulness
just like ferris bueller said: “life moves pretty fast. if you don’t stop and look around in a while, you could miss it”
what happens when we aren’t mindful?
a lot of things.
our anxiety can be worsened. we might be unaware of our patterns of behavior. we might be stuck in the same loop- never changing or growing. we could lack gratitude. we could waste our lives, never achieving our fullest potential. we won’t be present- we could be consumed by negative thoughts instead of living life to it’s fullest potential.
benefits of mindfulness:
- helps manage stress & anxiety
- helps manage depression
- better decision making
- more self-growth in terms of personality and behavior
- more self-awareness
- more self-control
- being more present in the moment- experiencing life
how to practice mindfulness:
- meditate for 5 minutes a day
- keep a journal and write in silence (at night is probably the best)
- try workout in silence, pay attention to your breathing and the sound of your surroundings
- practice breathing techniques before bed
- have quiet time before bed. think about your day, reflect on your behavior.
- be observant of the people around you, their actions and their behavior
- self-reflect before you speak and before you act
- pay attention to your thoughts- where they go, if they’re self-depricating or healthy, etc.
- remind yourself to be present in the moment
- practice positive self-talk and emotional regulation
conclusion:
mindfulness is pretty crucial to growing as a person, improving mental health and honestly just maturing. i think in life it’s important to always self-reflect and be aware. be aware of your actions, your words. just knowing yourself, your flaws, your strengths, all of that is important for growth. mindfulness should be a daily thing, reflecting while cleaning your room or brushing your teeth, finding time to think every day.
journal prompts you can use to improve your life
journaling is a really powerful habit that i love because it has helped me a lot in my transformation and healing process. it also offers us many benefits for our life. when we write down what we feel or what we want to achieve we are focusing and giving it much more clarity. through this magical practice, we can solve any type of situation or problem. It helps us to get rid of fears and anger. my favorite way is to ask myself questions that I can answer, this gives me more clarity and concentration. i recommend doing it on paper in fact i have my own notebook in which every day i carry out this wonderful practice.
✨ some of its benefits are:
- helps reduce anxiety and depressive thoughts.
- improves cognitive capacity, writing by hand activates many neural networks and, consequently, improves our cognitive capacity. In addition, it also emphasizes that this activity promotes prospective and working memory.
- helps cultivate discipline
- improves memory
- it helps us to create habits moreover, writing on paper those "tasks" or habits that you want to integrate into your life, makes your brain catalog them as "important actions" and it is more likely that you fulfill them in the day. What happens is that your reticular active system (SAR) files them as actions that you must accomplish.
✨ journal prompts ideas
for the morning - have a great day and focus on the positive and what we want to accomplish today.
- how do i want to feel today?
- what should i focus on?
- how do i need to act today to get closer to my best self?
- what should i avoid?
- what can i do to have a great day?
- what would i like my day to be like?
- today…(the things you will do, how you will feel)
- today no…. (the things you want to avoid and not focus on)
for times of stress or anxiety.
- how am i feeling?
- what has caused me to feel this way?
- have i felt this way on other occasions? is it a pattern i am repeating?
- how would i like to feel?
- what should i focus on?
- what would make me feel good right now?
- is there anything i can do right now to fix it?
- how would i like to act the next time this situation happens?
- how would my best version of me act in this situation?
- is there anything I can do to make this better?
to become our best version
- what would my best version look like?
- what things should i change to get closer to my best version? (like thought patterns, habits…)
- what can i do to get closer to becoming my best version?
- what do i commit myself to every day to be closer to this version?
- what would my desired life look like 6 months from now?
- what would my desired life look like 1 year from now?
- what are those thought patterns or limiting beliefs that prevent me from living my life the way i want?
- what is it that makes me feel fearful or insecure? (make a list and next to it you can replace the negative affirmation with a positive one).
- write down 5 positive affirmations of how you want your life to be from now on and commit to repeating them daily.
to focus on new goals or habits
- what habits would i like to implement in my life from now on?
- what habits do i need to remove from my life?
- what would my desired routine look like?
- what can i do to achieve this?
- what would be my dream lifestyle?
- what can i do to achieve it?
- what are my goals?
- how can i get closer to them?
- do i feel capable?
- if not, what is stopping me?
- what can i do to change that thinking?
against negative thoughts
- where does this thought come from?
- how does it make me feel?
- how would i like to feel about it?
- what thoughts would i like to have?
- from now on i commit myself to…(list of positive beliefs you will have from now on)
for the evening, to end your day on a high note and prepare for the next day.
- 3 things i am grateful for today
- how did i feel today?
- what can i improve tomorrow?
- what should i focus on more tomorrow? (e.g. goals)
- how would i like to feel today?
these are just a few examples, you can use them if they help you or invent your own, the important thing is that they help you feel better or whatever you want to achieve at that moment.
it is important to write every day, even if you feel good, write how your day was, what you want to improve, what you can do to make it better, anything! but this habit is very powerful and will improve your quality of life a lot.
im a really affectionate person once you get past my 5 layers of shyness, awkwardness, fear, vague dislike, and loneliness
fuck i completely forgot i need to curl up on my couch and scroll my phone for six hours. can we reschedule
It’s a challenging balancing act being a free spirit with expensive taste. Yes, I do desire international travel and financial freedom and luxury high vibe shopping but I also desperately crave peaceful, simple living where I can paint and dance and lay in fields and wake up at noon on Saturday.
This was oddly specific to me.
Live for yourself.
As much having family and friends is important, you are more important so live for yourself and always keep in mind that everybody else is secondary cause you come first. So all the choices you make should be about you, for you and for what's best for you cause you will always be there for you no matter what as you can't escape yourself.
my tiny human body isn’t big enough to hold all the love that’s inside me and that’s why i’m always crying
The "Might as Well" principle for people with ADHD means leaning into your urge to take care of needs immediately when you notice them, and take that task-hopping tendency as an opportunity to "clean as you go".
You were probably raised to think there's only 1 "right" way to be productive. This is false. You don't need to (and honestly you CAN'T) become neurotypical, but you've probably spent a lot of your life striving to achieve success in a neurotypical way. This can be detrimental to your mental health. You have to learn what works best for YOU.
You don't need to feel guilty for not keeping a strict routine and an aesthetically pleasing home. Your goal should be keeping your environment (minimally) livable and safe.
This principle is intended to help with chore struggles, but it can also apply to personal care, and other areas of the ADHD struggle.
- Going to the kitchen? Might as well bring as many dishes/cups as you can carry.
- Going to the bathroom? Might as well wipe down the counter while you're in there (or for me personally, scoop the litter box while I'm there).
- Taking a shower? Might as well scrub the shower walls while you're there (Be safe! I keep a utility sponge nearby for spot cleaning, but I don't use chemicals during my showers).
- Forgot to brush your teeth in the morning? Might as well brush after lunch. No need to wait until the next "designated" teeth brushing time at bedtime (minimally, keep some floss picks, tooth wipes, or mouth wash at work/school).
- Stuck in decision paralysis in front of the fridge? Might as well hydrate. Drink water!
- Mount doom (laundry pile) giving you anxiety? Might as well pick one category, such as shirts, and sort them out. You don't even have to put them all the way away, just separate them so your doom pile looks smaller and less daunting.
Please feel free to add more!!