Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself

Me: I am violently depressed.

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*

Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.

FUCKING THIS.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE

STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS

^This!!!!!

The stigma that therapy isn’t worth it if you don’t feel better after the first couple sessions is such bullshit. It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal but I kept going because I wanted to get better. I thought it was bs too when she kept telling me to think about other things and to distract myself when I have intrusive thoughts (not exact words whatsoever). Now it’s 2 and a half years later and I can successfully switch from thinking about all the ways I could kill myself to the song Slippery by Migos and immediately start laughing. You need to let it help you.

I spent a good two months in therapy acting like my life was a dreamboat, and he patiently put up with my bullshit because therapists are trained to help you get to place where you’re comfortable enough to open up. I wasn’t. And I was so glad that I was in therapy because at the two month mark, pretending like everything was going smoothly, I had a major life event take place that completely upended everything. All of the little things I had been hiding came up with it. 

Changes do happen in therapy. The advice they give you is worth listening to. 

You know what’s not worth listening to?

A bunch of people on Tumblr pretending they’ve got a psychology degree for clout. 

I have been in therapy for literally years and I have just hit the point where when I go “man I hate myself” I go “that’s a shitty thing to say to myself” and I can reframe it to “I don’t like this situation” or whatever, and it has done wonders for my depression and self esteem. But holy fuck I am not kidding when I say it’s been years and medication, and lifestyle changes, and tons and tons of logging of shitty intrusive thoughts, and putting so much work in… but I’ve turned it around. 

You can get there. Therapy helps. It puts tools in your toolbox to teach you the care and feeding of you. Because not all of us learned healthy habits, and we have to unlearn the bad stuff before we can learn the good stuff. That takes time. 

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I was a weird kid and am now a weird adult but I wake up every day and thank god I wasn’t a weird kid in the age of tiktok and putting your face and government name next to dogshit takes

its funny how literally the only thing holding this website together is the fact that its kind of old fashioned and not tiktokky or algorithmy and now staff are trying to fuck that up

Everytime I see tumblr try to pull a "let's make it more like this other social media platform" I think of an experiment where Coke did a blind taste test against Pepsi products and found most people prefer the taste of pepsi so they changed their recipe to taste more like pepsi. The product performed terribly. Shockingly, the people who preferred pepsi were just going to drink pepsi and the people who preferred coke didn't want a drink something that tasted like pepsi. People choose social medias and basically anything for what differentiates them from alternatives

hyperfixating on this is not enough i need to eat it

Christians with jesus christ

why is there a new popular post with a joke about eucharist every week on this website

Mass is on Sundays

there is never too much art. there is never "everyone depicts this scene/character so if I depict it, it won't add anything" yes it will. no two people will do the exact same piece of art even with the same prompt. so paint or draw or sketch or write your favorite character or scene from your favorite movie or TV show. there will always be someone who wants more of your art and more of what you have made and there is never too much art

“ᴡʜʏ ᴄᴀᴛs ᴘᴀɪɴᴛ: ᴀ ᴛʜᴇᴏʀʏ ᴏғ ғᴇʟɪɴᴇ ᴀᴇsᴛʜᴇᴛɪᴄs”, 1994. x

if i was a court jester i’d flirt with the king at any given opportunity. subtle at first but if he was interested and we’d share banter then i’d sit in his lap. then he would say i’m the funniest silliest little man alive and kiss me with tongue

how could he NOT fall in love with me though like i am literally there making him giggle, daily. a grown man covered in gold and he is just laughing at my stupid little jokes. i have that bastard wrapped around my finger. He knows it

all part of the plan

tumblr is a really unique experience because the website is inherently fundamentally broken but depending on if you're on desktop or on your phone its broken in completely different ways

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Thank you for posting a pine cone for reference but I’d like to see what the bird looks like too, please.

beautiful women make me feel like. idk., a startled horse

hi ladies. sorry for giving a sprightly little kick in the air as i ran away earlier when you tried to approach me. I was just overwhelmed

I learned what sun poisoning is recently and now I keep getting scared when I see suspiciously pink white people out and about during the day. Like dude get back inside you're in danger

Take a minute to watch some well-loved and cared for birds eat seeds/nuts and drink orange juice

childhood memories (2021)

i am normal and can be trusted with unrestricted boating access between all of the great lakes

Op is a zebra mussel

Found another idiotic accounting mistake from my predecessor that I have to fix and I was like "WILL THE SPECTER OF THAT MAN'S INCOMPETENCE EVER CEASE TO HAUNT ME" and my coworker was like "Why do you talk like that"