I just know this movie is going to destroy me, especially Sejanus.
You’re not struggling alone. It’s unfortunately pretty normal to be a mess right now.
Just a friendly reminder that you do not have to justify your identity to anyone
#lgbtqia#aromantic#aroace#aromaticism#aro positivity#ace positivity#asexual#aroace positivity#ace#lesbian#lesbian pride#lesbian positivity#gay positivity#gay#gay pride#bisexual positivity#bisexaul#bi#transgender#trans positivity#queer#queer positivity#intersectional pride#intersex#demiromantic#demiboy#demi pride#demigirl#polysexual
How do you deal with casual aphobic comments?Like when you come out as aroace and someone says “well have you actually tried romance/sex” or “maybe you just haven’t found the right person yet”. Like I know they’re not trying to be offensive but it hurts. And I always feel horrible pointing it out because like even though they made the comments, they still accepted me, even if they think it’s just a phase, and that’s more than a lot of queer people get. So I just feel like I’m complaining about a first world problem but like it really does hurt.
Ok straight of the bat; if they say it’s “just a phase” they are not accepting. If they say “well have you tried it?” They are not accepting. If they say “maybe you haven’t met the right person yet” they, and say it with me now, they are not accepting
Acceptance isn’t “I like you as a person but I don’t like what you are” acceptance isn’t “I think this is fake but your my friend and I ‘accept’ you”
Acceptance is “oh wow I don’t know what that is but cool!” Or “I don’t understand that but I support you!” Or “What’s that can you explain it to me?” Or maybe even “oh that’s cool I have a third cousin who is also xyz” (grey area but)
Dealing with ace phobia is something no one should deal with ever but unfortunately so many people don’t recognise some signs that someone isn’t supportive. I really feel for you here, it took me a while to realise that some people didn’t understand because they chose not to and they made comments like the above because they choose to.
The only true way through this @dragonsarecool123 is to educate people or ignore them. It is not your job to educate people, don’t feel the need to in anyway! Unfortunately cutting people out is sometimes the only pathway.
I’m so sorry asker, I was kind of harsh here but I think this was needed. We’re always here for you and I’m sure most of you irls support and love you!
You are incredible, amazing and deserve true friends asker, I wish you the best in life and goals. You are always valid <3
Thanks for the help, honestly your blog has helped me alot and I’m also trying to spread positivity on mine. Anyway I’m going to go block a bunch of people who said that stuff :)
Queer kids deserve to become queer adults. To grow up supported. To go through adolescence finding themselves, instead of going through their 20s grieving the years they weren’t safe and had to pretend to be someone else. To be safely queer before financial independence. Wanting queer youngsters to not have a lifetime of conditioning and trauma to unpack isn’t child abuse, it is literally the opposite. Queer kids deserve to be safe.
It's so freaking annoying that hair supplies for curly hair are so expensive compared to the stuff for straight hair
I just had a moment where, out of nowhere, remembered almost everytime someone (family members, teachers, classmates, friends, ...) touched or started playing with my hair without even freaking asking just because my hair is "so curly and beautiful" or whatever (and yes I do have voluminous curly hair with a lot of small curls).
And like, ya you can compliment my hair and all that but I don't remember, at least with people that used to or that did this to me at least once, doing the same to someone with straight hair (or at least not as much).
And like that shit happened to me basically all my life, even now in college I had some people do that, and everytime someone touches my hair even after asking (like my mum when she does my hair or at the hair salon where I know they are gonna touch my hair ofc) I get this almost dreading anxiety and I just wanna hide somewhere so they stop messing with my hair. And the fact that I was always a very shy and reserved person didn't help either with making them stop doing this... And some people even had the brilliant idea of touching my hair after coming or appearing from behind my back, like wtf do you wanna give me an heart attack or something??
I mean my hair being "super" curly it's not a ducking open to all invitation to play with it!!! People have a mouth, they can use it to ask before they do it, dammit... like it's not hard.
(Sorry, I just really remembered this out of nowhere and I had to vent somewhere)
Ok so I got my hair dyed yesterday and they had to straighten it in order to put the in properly, so my hairs been straight for like a day and a half now and HOLY FUCK! Is this how people with straight hair feel every day?! Like, on the way home I leaned my head against the car seat, and when I got up it wasn’t tangled?! And then I took a nap, and it looked the same and didn’t need to be brushed when I got up?! And when I woke up this morning it only took me a minute to brush, as opposed to the normal 15 minutes of pain?! And I didn’t even need to put any detangler in it?! Like what is this magic?!
“I wish I had curly hair like yours” No you don’t! I’ve seen how you straight haired people live your lives! My hair has not been this detangled since ever! And I didn’t even need to spend forever on it! I am a changed person and I’m never going back!
STRAIGHT HAIRED PEOPLE! VALUE YOUR HAIR PLEASE, ITS AWESOME AND AMAZING AND MY LIFE HAD BEEN SIGNIFICANTLY IMPROVED SINCE I GOT MY HAIR STRAIGHTENED! AND YOU GUYS NEED TO STOP HATING YOUR HAIR BECAUSE ITS A GIFT!
#Also please stop bugging naturally curly-haired people about how you want their hair#Like it’s ok to say “I like your hair”#But please stop going on long rants about how easy I must have it because my hair is curly and I don’t have to work for it#LIKE BITCH#I WAKE UP AND SPEND 15 TO 20 MINUTES IN PAIN BRUSHING MY HAIR#AND THAT DOESN’T EVEN INCLUDE STYLING IT#CURLY HAIR HAD MADE MY LIFE HARDER NOT EASIER#NOT TO MENTION THE FACT THAT I’VE HEARD YOUR RANT BEFORE#I HEAR IT FROM ABOUT 4 DIFFERENT PEOPLE A WEEK#PLEASE STOP BUGGING ME ABOUT MY HAIR#I GET THAT ITS CURLY AND RED#BUT IM JUST TRYING TO GO ABOUT MY DAY#And I’m not saying every curly haired person has these problems#But I sure do#just needed to rant#rant#rant post#hair#curly hair#curly hair problems#straight hair#straight hair is superior#my life has been a lie#my life has improved drastically#Stop hating your straight hair#Your straight hair is a gift
If y'all could read this fic in my brain you would be so impressed.
good afternoon to all the mean, angry, fed up aros, aces, and agender folks. your anger is completely warranted in this era of late stage capitalism and you deserve to fucking rage and scream and tear apart the system that does not make space for you.
we will make one for ourselves.
characters in kids media who should be allowed to say fuck:
- candace flynn
- toph beifong
- jack from magic tree house
- firestar
- percy jackson
I can hear this post
- luz noceda
- max mayfield
- will byers
I would like to add Katniss Everdeen and Haymich Abernathy to this list
Katniss:
“Peeta that’s nightlock! You’d be dead in a fucking minute!”
“You don’t talk to me and then you say you have a fucking crush on me?!”
“Then you can find another fucking mockingjay.”
Haymich:
“What the fuck sweetheart!”
“Ask you to wake me up without giving me fucking pneumonia.”
“Can he do that?” “No, but he just fucking did.”
“Baby bomb was fucking genius, but unfortunately it didn’t work.”
Just encase you haven’t been told this recently: you are valid, you are not alone, and there are people all over the world who will support you; and anyone who makes you feel like these things aren’t true does not belong in your life.
Does anyone else hate eating at tables of actual eating like it’s a meal. Like my diet is fine I definitely eat enough I just prefer not to eat it at a table and have it right infront of me, I’d rather slowly eat my meal while I do something else, which is what I do most of the time. Is there a like scientific reason for this or am I just weird?
Yknow aromantic and asexual need to start being shown as two different labels more often. Cuz like we aroace people are cool and we have the power to destroy god right, but like aroallo people and alloace people are just as fucking cool.
What is this whole "one cannot exist without the other" bullshit. That kinda shit is only supposed to happen with like life and death. light and dark. peace and chaos. we don't need that, cuz we're all just pure chaos. you want peace look elsewhere, bc aro without the ace and ace without the aro is very welcome into our aro and ace spaces of madness and maniacal plotting to take over the world.
Aro and ace spec people need more representation. They need to be taught about in schools and they need to be shown in media.
Because my 12 year old self should not have had to feel broken, or worthless, or like I failed or was alone.
Because I should not have felt like me being aroace was something to be ashamed of.
Because I should not have been called a plant or a robot.
Because I should not have been told that I was broken and needed to see a doctor cause I had a hormone imbalance or that I needed therapy.
I should not have felt excluded by queer spaces cause they’ed never heard of my identity.
I should not have had to feel hurt when I came out to people and every single time I had to explain what my identity meant.
I should not have been told after explaining that I was too young to make this decision or that I should put myself in an uncomfortable situation by trying it before I decide on my identity.
I should not have been scared to tell my parents because they might send me to therapy (they didn’t they’re supportive and I love them).
AND AFTER ALL THIS SOME PEOPLE STILL HAVE THE NERVE TO SAY THAT ARO AND ACE SPEC PEOPLE AREN’T PART OF THE LGBTQIA+ BECAUSE WE’RE NOT DISCRIMINATED ENOUGH.
I AM NOT BROKEN, OR CONFUSED, OR JUST TRYING TO BE DIFFERENT, I DO NOT NEED TO BE FIXED OR TO SEE A DOCTOR. I AM AROACE AND NEITHER YOUR OPINION NOR YOUR RELIGION CAN CHANGE THAT.
AND IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT YOU CAN LEAVE ME ALONE BUT IF YOU COME UP AND ATTEMPT TO HATE ON ME I WILL PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE BECAUSE I AM D.O.N.E WITH APHOBIA.
Because my younger self didn’t deserve it, and I still don’t.
#lgbtqia#aromantic#aroace#aromaticism#asexual#ace#Aro#i’m so fucking pissed#I’m so done#I’m so glad that my school and my friends and family are supportive cause if they weren’t I don’t know what I’d do#I encountered some aphobes while playing a game online and now I wanna cry#I won’t though#I’m simply going to move on with my life and be as aroace as I can#rant#rant post#you’re valid#I’m so sorry if you went those any of the things I’ve listed above#aspec pride#aspec#aspec people need representation#I really could have used some representation#But unfortunately I didn’t get it#Our school system is broken
good evening to every single asexual who has been pressured into doing things they weren't comfortable for them because of fear of rejection or harm if their asexual identity wasn't 'taken well', and every single asexual who had someone say they could 'fix' them, and every single asexual whose identity has been disrespected and trampled on in the LGBTQ community, and every single asexual who didn't have the courage to say no, and every single asexual who thought it just wasn't worth it to explain being ace to someone so instead just put up with uncomfortable things, and every single asexual who has been made to feel like their identity is simply 'innocent' and 'pure', and every single asexual who is sick and fucking tired of it all.
I believe you.