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Triggers CAN make you angry.
I’ve seen a lot of posts saying what triggers do and do not do, and many times, I’ve seen it written that triggers do not make you angry, that they’re more likely to cause strong anxiety, panic, numbness, etc.
But coming from someone whose triggers invoke a gut-wrenching fury: Triggers CAN make you angry. They can remind you of the unfairness, trauma, and hurt of the past, and a normal human reaction to things like that is anger.
It’s not wrong for triggers to make you angry, and you’re not in the wrong for feeling it. Anger is an emotion that rarely gets addressed in relation to trauma, and I think that needs to change.
Your anger in response to triggers is valid.
-Parsifal
I have degrees in costume design and textiles so I got mending through advanced mending as part of my higher education, but there were both aesthetics and techniques that I found fresh in Katrina Rodabaugh’s MENDING MATTERS. Make slow fashion one of your things in 2019.
Whether you are brand-new or an old-hand at mending, this book has simple instructions for practical fixes that make clothing more interesting and will help you get more mileage out of your most-favorite shirts and pants. Great guides for patching differently depending on what part of the garment you are trying to fix and whether you want a visible repair or an invisible one. It’s all drawn from the Japanese technique known as sashiko, get down the basics and then adapt and apply in all the little ways that work for you.
I have some beloved jeans where I have completely burned through the upper inner thighs and they are about to get some mending love….
[Image description: a photograph of the cover of ‘Mending Matters’ by Katrina Rodabaugh. Under the title says ‘stitch, patch and repair your favourite denim & more’. Below the title and text is a large pile of 7 folded denim jeans which have been visibly repaired in decorative ways with white thread. Below them says ‘a slow fashion guide for a well-loved wardrobe.’]
My advice to people, but especially kids, who are invested in celebrities, be they actors, musicians, bloggers, youtubers, authors, whatever, is to keep your distance. No matter how happy their content makes you, no matter how strong the pull of a special interest/hyperfixation/obsession might be, it’s important to step back every so often.
Do you find yourself following them on all forms of social media? Do you follow their friends and family, who might not even make content themselves? Do you research their lives? Step back. Just because they are famous doesn’t mean it’s okay to engage in stalking behavior.
Do you find yourself getting anxious if you miss a video, or they upload off schedule? Step back. I know they can help you through dark times but you can’t rely on them all the time.
Would you be devastated if they turned out to be a not-so-nice person? Step back. You can only trust them as much as you trust any stranger. Don’t see yourself up to be shattered if they fall off that pedestal you put them on.
No matter how much somebody interacts with their audience, the relationship is still parasocial. Just keep that in mind. Don’t put all your trust in a stranger. It’s okay to enjoy these people and their content, but keep your distance and step back.
To my fellow d&d/rpg/high fantasy nerds, please be so careful not to be antisemitic when you’re worldbuilding, especially with dwarves and goblins. It’s so easy to slip up into some antisemitic bullshit
As much as I love LOTR, the way dwarves are written is so antisemitic and it makes me so uncomfortable and because of that many of the fantasy works that have come after LOTR and been inspired by it (which is a pretty huge chunk of fantasy) have massive antisemitism problems. I’m gonna talk about specifically the problem with LOTR dwarves because honestly most fantasy media with dwarves falls into the same trap that LOTR does because of how heavily inspired off of LOTR most fantasy worlds are.
Dwarves in LOTR are written to be analagous to jews, especially the way jews were seen at the time of JRR Tolkien’s life. They are a diaspora, their homeland was stolen from them and they long to return to it. Keep in mind that Tolkien wrote LOTR pre Israel. This in and of itself is not so bad, because jews are a diasporic people and at the time we did not have a “homeland,” or a place that accepted us and allowed us to live safely. It’s pretty clear that the dwarves are a reference to jews. Again, keep in mind that the political issues surrounding Israel did not exist at the time and therefore Tolkien was NOT calling jews loyal to Israel. That’s not my problem with LOTR dwarves. My problem is the fact that they’re short, hairy, money hungry, greedy, stinky little inhuman creatures often used as comedic relief. I love The Hobbit and Thorin Oakensheild as much as the next nerd, but the fact that some of the dwarves are heroic does not erase the fact that they as a fantasy race are an antisemitic caricature of jews. And this paired against the tall, fair skinned, blonde elves who are pretty much the embodiment of perfection is just… ugh. It’s just ugh. Please don’t write dwarves like this.
Disclaimer: this is in no way the only bigotry issue in LOTR, it’s just the only one I feel justified in talking about as I am a Jewish person.
Goyische nerds are sleepin on this post
Sims 4 is free on Origin on both PC and MAC right now if anyone wants it lol
Post may 21 2019
the deal ends may 28th
also if anyone who wants this is fretting about not having computer access so that they can use origin I have good news for you. you can log onto origin from your phone’s web browser and redeem codes//buy games for later use without having to download them
What the Hell, Jupiter
Suppose that Jupiter collides with another, identical Jupiter. To a first approximation, Jupiter and Jupiter are just big balls of hydrogen. So after a short period of chaos, it’ll settle down in to a new gas planet with double the hydrogen. Here’s a fun trick question: how big is Mega-Jupiter? The obvious-but-wrong answer is: the volume of a sphere changes according to the cube of its radius. Jupiter has a volume of about 1.5 * 10^15 cubic kilometers, and a radius of about 70,000 km. Mega-Jupiter would have a doubled volume of 3 * 10^15 cubic kilometers, which I think would come out to a bit less than 90,000 km if I didn’t screw up the calculator buttons. What makes this wrong? Well, we just assumed invariant density, and the density of a ball of hydrogen gas depends on the strength of gravity. Mega-Jupiter has also developed a much stronger gravitational field. So, it turns out that Mega-Jupiter is actually the exact same size as Jupiter! And the same size as Mega-Mega-Jupiter, Mega-Mega-Mega-Jupiter, and so on. Or to put it another way, Jupiter is pretty much at the upper limit for how big a pure hydrogen-gas planet can be. At a certain point it would even start to get smaller.
I have a vague but probably correct sense that you could increase this limit by adding lots of impurities. The other way to get larger than that is of course to add lots of hydrogen, so that the pressure ignites fusion and make it a star. Mega^13-Jupiter starts to approach some interesting thresholds. Anyway, that’s your slightly unsettling science fact for the day.
Ngl I’m big autistic and I love stim blogs but I literally hate paint stimming I hate it it’s messy and I hate when people post it
If you’re autistic, have ADD, ADHD or just stim in general… rb this and add your least favorite “common” stim
Springtime in the pineforest.
How many of spouses must be present at wedding for marriage to be valid.
@ mutuals we have all just gotten legally married in montana
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Let’s fight.
What’s the worst household chore? Clearly it’s doing laundry.
After 150 days off flooding, Noah released all the animals from his ark and commanded then to go forth and multiply.
After some time, he saw that the flocks and herds were regaining their numbers, but he came across a pair of snakes who had laid no eggs, and were just laying about.
“Why have you not multiplied?” he asked.
To which the snakes responded, “we can’t, we’re adders.”
Noah being a quick thinker went off into the woods to fell some trees, and fastened them together into a platform. He then placed the snakes on the platform and lo and behold the snakes immediately laid a clutch of eggs
Because you see, even adders can multiply on a log table