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Dragon Mom's Musings

@dovewithscales / dovewithscales.tumblr.com

Dove | Dragon Mom | Otherkin | Servant of Hekate | Teacher of Witchcraft | Editor at Studio Prey|

Where To Find Me

So. Tumblr nuked my blog. They say it was a glitch and have restored it, but I've lost my patience with them. This website is falling apart and it's inexcusable that this shit keeps happening.

Also, the way these social media sites operate with their endless scroll is actually super toxic and unhealthy for all of us. On top of which, I'm tired of whoever has enough money to buy a social media platform being able to cut a check and then control my entire social media experience and ban whoever they want. How long until Tumblr gets sold to someone like Elon Musk? I'm not letting any more of my content get taken from me. I already copied all my essays worth keeping and I'm updating them to go on my website.

So with all that in mind, I'm moving away from Tumblr.

I have a website, which I own, hosted on a server which is owned by a friend of mine. We also have a forum on that server. So we are beholden to no one and no one but us will ever have any say in anything.

I'll be reblogging (so Tumblr doesn't hide this from the tags) with the link for the website and the forum. I'm on CoHost as well but haven't been very active, but I'm DoveWithScales everywhere.

I'll also still be accessible on Discord and try to at least occasionally show up on servers.

I welcome everyone to join the forum or contact me through my website, where I will be posting both new and old essays.

I just noticed something weird.

You said that all the angels and demons in Good Omens are the same age, but in the book there’s a bit about the younger demons going skating down the road to Hell. Did you mean demons with younger-looking corporations, or is this just another small difference between the book and the show?

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I don't know. (I was never entirely satisfied with "younger" but never could come up with a better adjective in that sentence.)

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The struggle is real. This post got shared in my writing group and we all relate.

If I may once again dip my toe into the discourse surrounding Greek Mythology, a lot of people like to rewrite or reframe the story of Medusa, and that’s great! Highly encourage it. But, DON’T YOU DARE GO AND DEMONIZE MY BOY PERSEUS!

Perseus isn’t some vile misogynist who hunts down and murders Medusa for the hell of it. He’s a scared kid who’s trying to save his mom from a forced marriage (whom herself has been a victim of terrible abuse from her father) to a creepy evil king and gets duped by the Gods into cleaning up their mess for them. He’s not the villain, he’s just another pawn. So if I see one more motherfucker trying to make him out to be the “real monster” I will throw hands.

You know what would be way more interesting?! Medusa sees Perseus rolling up to her crib and freaks out cause ‘holy shit this is a fucking kid. a fucking toddler with a sword and shield.’ and they hash it out and then TEAM UP to kill the evil kind trying to force marry Perseus’ mother! Think of the dynamics that you could write! The interactions that could occur. I mean, one of ‘em is gonna have to wear a blindfold but hey, minor problems.

What I’m saying is, gimme a buddy cop movie where Perseus and Medusa team up to fight evil in Ancient Greece.

I’m just picturing Perseus as this fairly well built sixteen year old kid, who looks a little underfed, and he’s like ‘ma’am I’m so sorry, I have to bring your head back to save my mom’ and medusa is like ‘okay, start over. We can work with this’ and compare trauma over some watered wine.

Danae and Medusa can get married and Perseus can have TWO Badass Moms

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kyraneko

Okay but consider: Perseus regretfully tells Medusa he has to bring back her head to save his mother from a forced marriage and Medusa cocks her head and says “did the bastard say the rest of me couldn’t be attached?” and long story short Perseus rocks up with a Lady-Gaga-esque entourage of men carrying this gigantic silver platter with a giant metal cloche on top of it and announces it to his mother’s tormentor as the head of Medusa, and dude lifts it up and Perseus finishes, “and also the rest of her” and fucker turns to stone.

On the one hand: the actual historical event that inspired the story of Perseus was the Mycenaean invasion of the region which is now Libya, in which they sacked the temple of Medusa. Perseus slaying Medusa is a metaphor for the conquest of her worshipers. So historically speaking he was an invader.

On the other hand: I want to read this retelling of his story because it sounds amazing and honestly who really cares about the historical inspiration? The characters have out grown it.

Nice to meet you! Tarot is a fine way to communicate with spirits if it works for you. But I do want to mention something in the way you say that. "Your dragon" as if you have a dragon connected to you. It's an idea I see a lot. That dragons are like so-called spirit guides. That anyone can just ask to talk to a dragon and the dragon will answer. That is not the case.

There is a misconception among beginners in draconic witchcraft, that the witch can have dragons in some way dedicated to them. But it's more like the witch is an interesting human who's enjoyable enough to make a good pet for a dragon.

Humans aren't special, and the spirits do not have any obligation to you. Especially dragons.

If a spirit wants to talk to you, they can do it through tarot. But if you want to talk to a dragon, you're gonna have to give them a reason to want to talk to you.

I've drawn most of D&D's races in isotype pictogram / bathroom and safety sign style, for all your fantasy signage needs. You can use these however you like, but credit me if you can and don't claim the unedited images as your own.

First row: kobold, goblin, aarakocra/kenku, tabaxi, tiefling, satyr, dragonborn, yuan-ti, firbolg, werewolf

Second row: harengon, ratfolk, halfling/gnome, dwarf, humanoid, elf, goliath, orc/bugbear, skeleton, lich, minotaur

Third row: loxodon, lizardfolk, gelatinous cube

Options on the page to cancel your subscription to Shudder, which I'm pointing out because you can observe this same phenomenon on basically any subscription-based website:

  1. Doing the opposite of what you came here for - Written in bold on a red button, 18 pt font, 700 weight
  2. Doing what you came here for - Hidden beneath the red button, 12 pt font, 400 weight

Make this illegal

“You got it Jack” - Joe Biden

“The Federal Trade Commission today proposed a “click to cancel” provision requiring sellers to make it as easy for consumers to cancel their enrollment as it was to sign up. That is just one of several significant updates the Commission is proposing to its rules regarding subscriptions and recurring payments. The new click to cancel provision, along with other proposals, would go a long way to rescuing consumers from seemingly never-ending struggles to cancel unwanted subscription payment plans for everything from cosmetics to newspapers to gym memberships.”

FTC Chairwoman Lina Khan once again illustrating that she's one of the best people in the Biden administration

Fun facts of the day!

- State charges cannot be pardoned by the President of the United States. They have to be pardoned by the governor of the state in which the crime was committed

- the governor of Georgia does not have pardon power, that power was stripped in 1943 by the Georgia state legislature

- TV cameras are forbidden in federal court. TV cameras are permitted in state court. It’s already been stated that Donald Trump’s Georgia trial will be televised

- Donald Trump will be booked, processed, fingerprinted, and have his mug shot taken just like any other person who enters the Fulton country jail. They don’t believe in special treatment down there

- the Georgia RICO statue carries a 5 year mandatory minimum sentence which cannot be revoked by a judge

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balou200

Comment of the year

“it’s weird for queer minors to be friends with queer adults” oh my god. ohhh my god.

intergenerational community support, especially in a community that is split so much age wise as the queer community, is immensely fucking important. get to know older queers and younger queers. this is how communities frazzle out and die to infighting.

the hypothetical queer adult that people are mad over in the post this is refrencing is 35 years old. only 35.

its weird for any minors to be friends with any adults, queer or not. There should be no reason why unrelated adults or minors should be making close relationships in any sense outside of professional ones. I understand wanting education, but they can be taught when they are adults as well.

is this a joke.

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gamer-crow

If you believe there is something inherently wrong with adults being friends with teens, you've been brainwashed into believing that every adult sees youth as a form solicitation.

This makes you part of the problem.

What kind of moldy ass take is this

The kind that is dividing our community and causing queer youth to have zero supportive adults in their lives. And the kind that causes elders to be isolated and out of touch.

Yeah as someone who spent my teens with no peers and was only able to make friends with folks that were 50+; what the shit? That take would rather I have been a complete social hermit. Being friends with old ladies exposed me to first-person stories of Nazi occupation; gave me role models for adult behavior and interaction; and let me learn valuable skills and hobbies.

Kids need adults for support, particularly queer ones who might not have family that are safe. Kids need adults to know history, which is especially important for queers, because so much of our history was erased by government-sanctioned death. Let generations interact to share knowledge, and to avoid that stupid 'kids these days' attitude.

Excellent point! Isolating children from non-related adults just means they have no sense of normal behaviour and makes them easier to mislead.

And even kids who aren't queer don't always have healthy relationships with adults in their household. So the implication of this bullshit take is that abused kids should be isolated from everyone but their abusers.

Also. An actual sexual predator is by far more likely to be a blood relative than not. This dumbass reasoning is exactly why that is. The assumption that all relatives are safe and all non-relatives are suspect.

words of power do exist…. i can walk out of my apartment wearing the most fuck shit, e.g. swim trunks as shorts w a zipped up hoodie and no shirt underneath, and just say the words “laundry day” and suddenly it’s way less weird

“laundry day” spell: decreases target’s judgment of outfit by 80%

I picked up a banana print shirt in Vietnam - were talkin LOUD - and the first time someone commented on it I said “It’s banana shirt friday” which stunlocked them and blocked any followup questions.

Turns out that saying “it’s banana shirt friday” enough actually created a holiday at my office where everyone would wear fruit print clothes on fridays! So yes, words of power exist. :)

@cryptotheism relevant to your interests

Spell of Banana Shirt Friday

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lierdumoa

future archaeologist: these people must have done this for ritual purposes the ritual in question: banana shirt friday

I mean, that is a ritual. It's just not a religious ritual. Sometimes humans invent rituals just for fun.

So in the past few years I’ve seen so many videos / posts that are like:

“Actually wolves don’t have hierarchies!  They live in family groups where the ‘alphas’ are mom and dad and the other wolves are their CHILDREN and offer their respect willingly! :D”

and I just have to say

how dare you try to make normative nuclear families out of wolves

Yes, a lot of the old “nature red in tooth and claw” stuff about wolves is nonsense. (Like anything from Jack London.) And anything ‘alpha’ you see sleazy men trying to relate to dating (yikes!) is especially nonsense.

But wolves are complex social creatures and they create complex social structures. Just as you can’t say “THIS is the way human society is structured. Just THIS single way and no other”, so too there is no single form for a wolf pack.  

Some packs are a mom wolf and a dad wolf and their wolf children.  Others are two small ragged packs that combine to form a large pack.  Others are packs where a lone wolf joins and eventually becomes a leader. Others are packs where a grown child-wolf has pushed their parent out of the leadership role.

Speaking of the latter, let’s look at the tale of Wolf 40 and Wolf 42.

Wolf 40, Wolf 41, and Wolf 42 were wild Yellowstone wolves, daughters of the alphas. Their father was illegally killed by hunters and shortly after ambitious Wolf 40 ousted her mother, driving her out of the pack.  Wolf 21 became the new alpha male, and 40′s mate.

Wolves have personalities, and Wolf 40′s personality was “volatile”.  Imagine Scar from The Lion King combined with the boss from Office Space, and you have Wolf 40.  She habitually bullied the other female wolves, attacking them until they expressed abject submission.  And the wolves that got the worst of it were her sisters, Wolves 41 and 42.

Wolf 41 got tired of the bullying and left.  Wolf 42 remained, perhaps because she was close to Wolf 21, the alpha male.  Despite that, Wolf 21 did not interfere when his mate harassed Wolf 42.

Unlike 40, Wolf 42 got along well with the other female wolves, spending time grooming them and relaxing with them. Wolf 40 could have followed her sister’s example and built up positive social bonds. But she didn’t.

One day, Wolf 40 went out on an important task.  She was going to kill another litter of her sister’s pups–having done the same in two previous years.  This isn’t uncommon wolf behavior (but is not universal, as we will see.)  Typically only the alphas breed.

However, Wolf 40 never returned from her important task because Wolf 42–who previously had submitted to her alpha and sister, who had allowed the killing of two previous litters of pups–had had enough.  She fought back.

And the other female wolves jumped to aid her.

Collectively, they killed Wolf 40. Because “alpha” isn’t a magic cloak of protection, it doesn’t even mean “strongest wolf”, it’s just a job title.

The next day Wolf 42 carried her pups, one by one, to her sister’s den.  She set her children among the pups of her dead sister and raised both litters together. And when another wolf in the pack had pups, Wolf 42 carried them to the den to be communally raised as well.  She was the alpha female now and she made the rules, and the first rule was “we don’t hurt pups here.”

As for Wolf 21, he became the mate of Wolf 42.  Maybe he understood that Wolf 40 had been riding for a fall. 

As alpha female, Wolf 42 continued to be supportive and kind towards the other pack members.  Wolves who had been nervous wrecks under Wolf 40 began to relax and come into their own; one of the former omega wolves gained self-confidence and became one of the best hunters.

“Alpha”, for wolves, just means leader.  They might be good leaders, whom you respect, or they might be bad leaders, who fill you with dread.  They might be your parents, or they might not.  Even if they are your mother or father, wolves don’t contextualize those relationships the same way humans do.

But one thing wolves have in common with humans is that they have individual personalities and experiences, and their actions derive from those.  There is no “typical wolf pack.” And I think that’s beautiful.

If you want to learn more about wild wolf dynamics, I recommend reading the annual Yellowstone Wolf Project Reports.  Which are FASCINATING.  There are also some good wildlife specials out there.

Wolves are my favorite animal. <3  It pains me to see them misunderstood as crazed bloodthirsty brutes, but it also pains me to see them woobified.  They deserve better than that.

Wolves are uniquely wolves. They are not monsters, and they are not stupid, but they also are not humans.

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capnsoapy

it's good for your mental health to have mutuals who are wildly horny about kinks which do nothing at all for you

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capnsoapy

this is both as in. sometimes you will realise that actually these kinks do do something for you and that can be very eye-opening and liberating

and also as in. sometimes you will hear someone decry these kinks as indicative of moral failing, and being friends with people like this makes you immune to that sort of knee-jerk outrage

Also primes you for awareness that there are a lot of people who like a lot of things you don’t like or even that make you uncomfortable, and that is okay, has nothing to do with their character, and is also none of your business.

Hey no worries, that's cool. You don't have to know somebody to reblog from them.

“it’s weird for queer minors to be friends with queer adults” oh my god. ohhh my god.

intergenerational community support, especially in a community that is split so much age wise as the queer community, is immensely fucking important. get to know older queers and younger queers. this is how communities frazzle out and die to infighting.

the hypothetical queer adult that people are mad over in the post this is refrencing is 35 years old. only 35.

its weird for any minors to be friends with any adults, queer or not. There should be no reason why unrelated adults or minors should be making close relationships in any sense outside of professional ones. I understand wanting education, but they can be taught when they are adults as well.

is this a joke.

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notemily
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gamer-crow

If you believe there is something inherently wrong with adults being friends with teens, you've been brainwashed into believing that every adult sees youth as a form solicitation.

This makes you part of the problem.

What kind of moldy ass take is this

The kind that is dividing our community and causing queer youth to have zero supportive adults in their lives. And the kind that causes elders to be isolated and out of touch.