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Leak College textbooks, not nudes…

UPDATE

I noticed a renewed interest in this post. I originally posted this when I was still in undergrad and found these helpful. Since that time some of these sites have either become defunct or the domains have been taken over by spam and malware. There is a need for new links. If you find them, post them.

Continuing the work of Christopher Rice,

Please don’t just ❤, reblog for the masses. Add on to the list if you find useful links

look. i don’t think my stretch marks are beautiful. i don’t think they’re tiger stripes or natural tattooos. i don’t think my acne is beautiful. i don’t think the bags under my eyes are beautiful. i just think they’re human. and i don’t think i have to be beautiful all of the time in order to be accepted and loved and sucessful. i don’t think every small detail of my outer appearence needs to be translated into prettiness.

fun fact: this POV is actually called “body neutrality” and it’s SO MUCH more accessible/realistic for a lot of people. it’s based on the idea that the way we look is the least interesting/important thing about who we are, and that our bodies are worthy of respect regardless if they fit the mold of the current beauty ideals.

drinking a can of soda is better than not drinking anything at all. “junk” food is better than no food at all. just rinsing your mouth out with mouthwash is better than no oral hygiene at all. changing into a different set of pyjamas is better than not changing at all. getting up just to sit down on the chair across the room for a bit is better than not getting up at all. changing just your pillowcase is better than not changing your bedding at all. cracking a window open is better than getting no fresh air at all.

if you don’t have enough spoons for full tasks, smaller adaptations are better than nothing at all. it’s okay if you don’t have the energy to actively fight today. just staying afloat is enough. you are enough.

it ok to not be ready

Please spread this shit like wildfire. People go on and sit through the whole experience and they’re uncomfortable because they just want to please their partner and they don’t tell them that they want to stop because they are not ready. It’s okay not to be ready. 

notice here that consent is revoked without ever saying no and consent goes so far beyond yes/no!!!!!!

It is ok to say no

apparently i lost followers for speaking up, so i'm gonna say it again.

racists are not welcome on my blog. anyone discriminating other human beings for their race, gender, disability or sexuality is not welcome. anyone thinking they are superior to other humans are not welcome.

thanks for unfollowing.

honestly man i just want someone to want me. to text me. to use a simple situation as an excuse to touch me. i want someone to think about me when they go to sleep and to tell me exactly that. i want someone to flirt with me, to ask me out. to hold my hand. i want someone to call me in the middle of the day, if for no other reason, because they felt like it. i just want someone i want to want me back.

imagine having a little garden where you grow strawberries for your cakes and cucumbers for your sandwiches and you have tea with your partner every midmorning.  you plant each other’s favorite flowers and give each other bouquets. thats the life.