I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

Genuinely asking if you are comfortable sharing, but what are some examples of "casual intersexism"? I'm honestly less read up on it than I should as someone who is intersex. Feel free to ignore this though should you not feel like it or anything.

A painting process.

This is by the same guy who draws horses in his funky style (videos here and here)

[eng by me]

The vibe

They did it again

The silence was LOUD

My husband and me in the supermarket check out line.

A cashier in Lowes literally asked me and my partner if we were best friends 🥲

If you’re in or near Philly, the (vegan) bakery responsible for this mermaid Gritty cake is reopening their kitchen soon and will have cookies and bars available for pickup! If you are not in or near Philly, please enjoy this mermaid Gritty cake.

(I know the owners, am not vegan but still miss their incredible brownies desperately since they left DC, and have been super enjoying the increasingly weird Gritty cakes they post to Instagram.)

seriously though, they keep getting weirder

this post has been popping up on my activity feed again lately, so I thought I’d update it with a current link to their website and the latest in Gritty-themed cake design

also these are not Gritty-themed but I need you all to see them

i haven't seen this here yet so heads up

Here’s the link with instructions on how to opt out of arbitration.

very silly sequel to my leia dreams of luke comic

(ko-fi requests are open!)

And possibly the most important one that explains the rest

Happy July 5th

im always thinkjng about that one time i was on register for like 4 hours straight and said over mic "someone blease take over register i am about to become the joker." and they came to relieve me faster thab ive ever seen anyone relieve me before

this has become a Thing at my place of work. I described this post to @ziracona and we started to look out for signs of one another “turning into the joker” and then started checking on everyone else we work with. The procedure is, if you notice that your coworker is turning into the Joker, you send them to the back to drink water/sit down/ take meds for a little while.

This not only spread to the rest of the staff, but the staff developed a complex sliding scale of jokerficiation to gauge how well one’s coworkers are and how likely they are to lose it on a member of the public. Possibilities include Alfred, Gordon, Catwoman, Harvey Dent, Big Bad Harv, Harley Quinn, etc with The Joker being the worst spot you’re gonna get in.

On one memorable day, @ziracona asked a coworker where she was on the jokerfication scale, and was told: ‘I’m in Ace chemical plant, looking down at the vats’ which naturally caused Zira to send this girl to the back to rest. Later, when this girl reappeared, Zira asked where they were now and the girl responded ‘now I’m swimming around in the chemicals’ Chilling

Anyway, I hope OP gets to know that they’ve affected a whole nonprofit workplace ecosystem and contributes to people trying to take care of their coworkers and having shorthand for it

If you send someone to rest you tell them to go to Arkham. I’ve told someone before “I’m sending you to Arkham because you’re the Joker right now and I don’t want to work with him.” 10/10.

The sliding scale helps to know how to deal w it. Because there are two factors: evil, and stress. If either reaches 100, you become the Joker, and if both reach 70 or above, you also become the Joker. Stress is physical pressure, and can be fixed by rest only, but had a faster recoup time. Evil is hatred of people you’re forced to interact with and can be fixed by taking a task that gets you away from them, but has a longer cooldown. So if someone says they’re at a Harvey Dent they need stress relieved immediately, or he’s turning into Two-Face, but a Mr. Freeze needs to get away from The Enemies immediately or he’s going to straight up become the Joker.

Hey, could you do me a favor?

Could you just RB this?

The little RB statistics chart is so pleasant and stimmy to look at and I want to see what it looks like when it gets really REALLY huge because it makes me think of some deep sea lifeform

here lemme help

*ahem*

reblog this post to kiss the person you reblogged it from

hope that works :)

THANK YOU THIS IS MAKING MY BRAIN SO HAPPY AAAAAAAAA

THIS IS SO SATISFYING ITS LIKE A GROUP OF PLANKTON OR A RAILWAY CHART...

I was gunna put this in the tags but it’s a lot. When i first started going through the process of getting a diagnosis, i was labelled with ODD. I immediately took issue with this, it seemed like an unfair diagnosis based entirely on the session the psychiatrist had with my parents (which mostly consisted of “my child is being really difficult on purpose”), and Hoo Boy when i tell you ODD immediately strips you of your ability to call out anyone on anything, that would be an understatement. I couldn’t even disagree or bring up my concerns about the validity of MY OWN DIAGNOSIS without it being labelled as oppositional defiance. Whenever i displayed any negative emotion the “treatments” did so much more harm than good. When you label someone as ‘defiant’ (ugh), when that word is put on their medical record, that person is never allowed to complain about anything again. Knowing that POC are disproportionately affected with this diagnosis makes me feel sick, i can only imagine what’s being swept under the rug as someone just being “defiant to authority”, not even just in the medical field but as justification for police brutality and mass incarceration. When i say medical racism kills people, this is what i mean.

this is so fucking important. reblog.

Happy Disability Pride Month

I have said it before and I will shout it from the mountaintops — ODD is a bullshit diagnosis.

I am a therapist who works with kids/teens and I have seen some genuinely really annoying and even dangerously oppositional kids in my time. The correct diagnosis in these cases is almost always;

(1) trauma (either untreated recent trauma or complex developmental trauma);

2) unaddressed or under-addressed ADHD and/or autism spectrum disorder;

(3) por que no los dos? Trauma and developmental disorders are often friends;

4) parents who are themselves so poorly dysregulated, or so anxiously controlling, that after 10 minutes or so I’m also feeling pretty damned oppositional.

Either the kid doesn’t trust authority for very good reasons, or they require such a high level of emotional arousal (due to developmental trauma or ADHD) that they feel called upon to start poking things and testing boundaries. And it’s a cinch they aren’t getting positive reinforcement when they DO do well.

Horribly, the original tweet and post above are far too correct: ODD is vastly overdiagnosed among poor/under-resourced children, and especially children of color. Like, the numbers are ludicrous. It is a very crucial tool of the school-to-prison pipeline.

If you are a practitioner and are ever tempted to diagnose ODD, FIRST look at the family system. Look at attachment wounds, look at familial boundaries, look at systemic and academic supports… You might want to take the kid outside to run around in green space and look at some ducks or weird bugs, because I suspect there is not enough enrichment in their enclosure. And it is a easy bet that they are almost certainly not getting enough movement to regulate themselves organically.

Reblog to help forward the cause of science or something, honestly I'm just curious to know how old everyone is.

oh. Oh no. You're all babies.

Come on fellow middle-agers

sits on the floor and thinks about how the twins' extreme force sensitivity probably connected them before they even knew each other

(support me on kofi!)

Can all the tumblr homosexuals agree to stop buying chick fil a. It's so depressing that across the board lgbt people and supporters are indifferent to chick fil a and feel fine buying it. Can we at least stigmatize it here

For those who actually like chick fil a sauce and refuse to boycott because of that:

It's ranch dressing, honey mustard, and barbecue sauce. Now free yourself

Fuck Chick-fil-A. That homophobic chicken isn't even that good, y'all are literally simping over chicken that tastes like it was made at a White cookout

The sauce:

The chicken (deep fried):

Air fryer version:

Fresh lemonade:

Lemonade milkshake:

Whatever thing you love at chikfila you can make yourself fairly trivially (if! you are able to cook! which I know not everyone can).

Simply look for a "copycat recipe" for the item, eg, "chikfila copycat chicken recipe."

There are literally thousands of extremely dedicated food bloggers out there who have long ago perfected there at home versions of stuff.

Listen I am not going to name anyone specifically, but pattern makers need to talk to one (1) fat person before they can post their patterns online.

I am so sick of finding a cute pattern, getting all the supplies, checking my gage, and starting to knit, only to find that my sleeves are a foot longer than a normal human because the pattern maker just multiplied all their numbers by 10 when they sized it up. I can't believe I have to say this but, just because my ass is fat does not mean my arms go down to my knees???

If you are a fat knitter, please check out Lydia Morrow on Ravelry!

Her design focus first and foremost on the fit and comfort of plus size people, most offering optional bust AND hip shaping. She’s a neuro divergent and disabled creator and really relies on the sales of her patterns, which very generously offer a sliding pay scale for people who can’t afford the full price. Her pattern sales have dipped these last few months which is a terrible shame because she is doing so much great work to make accessible patterns for all.

I was raised agnostic and tend to remain ambiguous on theological matters.

-but my house has a porch on the second story that affords me a terrific view of my neighborhood and the Colorado Front Range and I was partaking of some peace before the 4th Of July Finger-Loss Festivities begin, and I have had a

I just watched my neighbor try to unload an actual wooden pallet that had to have been forklifted into the back of his insecurity pickup worth of fireworks.

Except that he does not have a forklift in his garage.

He does have so much sports memorabilia and cardboard boxes of unsold MLM Merchandise and patriotically themed camping gear and posters of women in bikinis and flags of suspect political organizations in his garage that there is only BARELY enough space for the fireworks and certainly none for his truck.

So he had to unload the individual boxes of recreational explosives from the back of his truck and stack them in the minimal space he had cleared by hand. This is a tedious and time-consuming process as this neighbor has purchased a wide variety of recreational and locally illegal explosives instead of many of just a few types, so the individual boxes are rather small.

He begins, and this is crucial to what happens next, by cutting apart the industrial-grade saran wrap his explosives dealer had so carefully wrapped his merchandise in, and discarded it unsecured on his lawn.

Where Outdoor Conditions sometimes happen.

The most beautiful footage of strangers dancing in public… https://twitter.com/Thorayaaa/status/1660180658646568967

its like a real life version of that children’s song with the magic bridge that you had to dance across

Highlights: --all the old people --one dude who starts doing the Cotton-Eye Joe and has the steps on lock --quinceañera girl with a dress bigger than the circle --lots of kids but particularly the dude who's doing the helicopter with his little girl --an entire section of Millennials doing dance moves I recognize, oh the nostalgia

amazing

Why were they empty?

they’re meant to be investment properties, bought, left empty, and then sold a year or few later for huge profit as housing values continue to rise. it’s a massive part of the bc housing bubble, and why despite so much new construction it’s still so difficult to find rental housing

the fact that these landlords are panicking because they might have to actually use their housing properties as housing rather than finance capital is deeply funny

It should be more than a 1% tax rate though. I want it to be 100%. Torture them.

So this article is from 2017. Wanna know how it worked?

So, fuck yeah it helps! Reduced empty homes, they’re raising the tax, AND using it to help fund affordable housing.

It’s a start.

otw july 2 board meeting: what the hell was that

so the otw (@transformativeworks) board had their Q2 meeting yesterday, which was highly anticipated given everything that's gone down in the past months:

and probably more that i've missed, honestly. so! this is my summary of the meeting, focusing mostly on the issues related to racism; i have screenshots of the whole meeting but will at this point only share those i find most relevant/interesting! alt text will be included for every screenshot in the image, not below it.

and hold on, because this is going to be LONG!