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Bury my Heart deep in your Chest

@diamondorloj / diamondorloj.tumblr.com

"All shall be well and all shall be well and all manner of things shall be well." Marina, in her 30s. Lesbian, Historian, Feminist, Runner. She/they.

The Conversation about mental health posts goes in waves - from "it's ok to just do nothing for a while" and "self care is lying in bed with a cup of tea" to a hard backlash against that ("those posts were so damaging to me") and posts like "acually self care is cleaning your apartment," and there's lots of reasons for that --

  1. those posts are for different people. the person who believes that there's nothing wrong with them, they just need to keep going, or the person who believes that not washing dishes means there's something unfixably wrong with them needs to hear that that's unsustainable & a break will help, but the person who feels that everything's already ruined so there's no point in doing anything needs to hear that small steps are still steps.
  2. those posts are for the same person at different times, because people need to hear different things at different times in their lives.
  3. when you post on the internet you can't limit a post to only the people it will benefit - like when broad spectrum antibiotics take out beneficial bacteria. and people don't always know which one will help them, so the audience doesn't even self-select. "it's ok if you do nothing" will help some people and hurt others!
  4. honestly the thing is that it's "you can't push yourself all the time, but keeping your space in a state that doesn't cause anxiety or discomfort is probably better for you," but hitting the right balance requires a lot of self-knowledge, which you can't get from a text post on tumblr.

i don't have a good conclusion here - just "nothing in excess," I suppose.

the next time someone asks what this country is like i’ll just send them this

-  Velký noční hlídač / Watchman

- author of the videomaping Milan Cais 

-photography ©ČTK,  ©David Peltán, MAFRA.

how do we get them to stop doing that

This is rad as fuck more people should do stuff like that

i think every tumblr user deserves a free trip to visit one of their mutuals

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okay so while we were moving into the new house we left the door propped open and a fat, peaceable raccoon moseyed in, looked around, climbed the water heater, curled up on the laundry room shelf and fell asleep. what do I do now

-he is asleep. he literally sat down and washed his tummy like a kitty cat and then tucked his nose into his tail and fell asleep. he is sleeping like a little angel on my laundry shelf

-the room he is in has a door to the outside but there's no way to close the room off from the rest of the house

-animal control opens 8am monday. for out of hours emergencies it says to call the cops. I'm not calling the cops on a sleepy raccoon

-I am also very sleepy

Okay I made a little trail of pieces of bread leading along the shelf and onto the water heater and onto a chair next to the water heater and across the floor and out the door and turned off the lights and made myself a nice cup of cocoa and waited and waited and waited and waited and FINALLY he peaceably ate his way out the door. sadly in my excitement I knocked over my nice cup of cocoa all over the floor but at least now there's no raccoon in my house so 🎉

I love this raccoon so much. What a good and sweet beast.

i know it probably wont happen for another 50 years but i sure do wish the discussion of disability rights was more ‘popular’. i dunno if it’s people’s inherent fear of mortality or aging or what but ableism is so fucking out of control. people have conversations about bodily autonomy and accessibility when it comes to stuff like classism, feminism, trans rights, etc then look at you like youre fucking bonkers if you say something like everywhere should be wheelchair accessible by default. and no not some back/side entrance with freight elevators or some shit. it’s not a special request to allow someone to use the fuckin front door

If you're a decade or so younger than me and don't remember a time without GPS directions everywhere and maps on your phone, and you've ever wondered "How did they used to find places?", I'm here to tell you: We didn't. We got lost. A lot. When you went somewhere new, it was polite to factor the time you'd inevitably spend lost into your schedule getting there. You wrote down the directions on a piece of paper, hoped you could remember what the big tree next to the Family Dollar was supposed to look like, and put your fate in God's hands. It sucked so bad. I'm like a kooky survivalist who does map-and-compass land navigation stuff for fun and it sucked so bad.

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here’s my one whole discourse post for pride month. you fucks will never ever ever wean off the radfem shit if you keep trying to give “cis men are evil” nuance. no, it’s not bad because they could be closeted or questioning, it’s bad because gender essentialism is a fucking brain poison and it makes you stupid

this is “not all men” cloaked in progressive-sounding vocabulary

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harry potter blog.

Harry Potter blog is a whole TERF btw

they should invent shorts that fit people who have bodies

everyone saying "just shop the men's section" is completely missing the point first of all I have tried that and it's worse secondly I shouldn't have to go out of my way to find clothing that fits comfortably. There should be clothes in styles i like to wear that are targeted at my gender that fit diverse sizes and proportions.

my thigh to ass ratio is not that of a preteen, I want shorts that fucking fit!

hedonism is good actually rich people just suck at it

i think not only do we have a moral obligation to preserve human life but also a moral obligation to maximize the pleasure of others and ourselves (provided it doesn’t hurt anyone)

people don’t just deserve to eat food, they deserve to eat good food that tastes good without worrying about nutritional content

people don’t just deserve clothes, they deserve nice clothes that are well made and fit their personal style

people don’t just deserve the bare minimum, they don’t just deserve to be alive, they deserve to live and have nice things for no other reason than making that particular person happy

I hate the weaponization of disability language to advocate against public transit and pro cars. So so much.

Without going into the merit of how much cars actually benefit disabled people and especially ashtmatics… Cars. Notoriously safe in wildfires.

Wait I’m gonna go deeper into it

- Cars worsen asthma and do not protect you from pollution

- Disabled people are the biggest demographic in the US who’s less likely to drive and own cars (either because they can’t drive or because they can’t afford it)

- Cars are absolutely the worst place to find yourself while running from a wildfire

And chop the fuckin greens into bite sized pieces!! Nothing worse than eating salads where the greens look like they were just plucked and thrown on the plate. I’m not eating pasta, so why the fuck are the greens still so long that I gotta ‘Lady and The Tramp pasta chew’ this mfkr and hope I don’t get salad dressing and toppings all over my face and shirt?! Chop the goddamn greens!

[Image description: a tweet by @/KevinFarzad “Kevin Farzad” which says “The most important thing I’ve learned in life, and I can’t stress this enough: you gotta make a salad in a bigger bowl that you think”.]