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not an island.

@desire444soil

or a rock.
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solradguy

Illustration for the fantasy graphic novel series Sandman by Neil Gaiman.  Scan from Yoshitaka Amano: The Illustrated Biography

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reblogged

when Florence Welsh said "What a thing to admit that when someone looks at me with real love I don't like it very much / Kinda makes me feel like I'm being crushed"

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soracities

“What the dying too often realize too late, what the dead try to speak back to us from across the river, is that a bowl of cherries passed and received, scrambled eggs cooked for and eaten with someone we love “is everything,” is sacramental, is holy communion, is the touch of love. We don’t go to a church and gather around The Table of New Life because that table alone is holy, nor because that exchange of life and love in the form of bread and wine can only happen there. We go to be reminded that all tables are holy if we pay attention and consecrate them with love and humanity and reverence. All the tables around which we gather with partners, families, friends, classmates, work colleagues, and strangers are potentially sacred meals if we are present and grateful and aware. The Jewish philosopher Martin Buber said “One eats in holiness and the table becomes an altar.”

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julykings

i want to be loved but not like that. peer into my small indoor life and ask for the bits you want to keep like a garage sale or a free sofa in the street. i miss all the storms i’ve slept through. i want to be loved the way the thunder surprises us, fast and possible like a reminder. yes i need a lot of reminding. of wrapping up, cleaning, showering in the dark so i don’t have to look at myself. peer into my life. my envelopes opened with small knives, my closet with its mostly stained clothes. peer into my envelope. ask that i fold neatly around you and divulge…

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It truly does not matter how many boundaries you claim to have if you are not willing to enforce them. Boundaries require momentary discomfort and unavoidable confrontation, you can't show others the limits you possess if they are not exposed to your non-negotiables and the things you will not tolerate in tangible ways.

You must become comfortable with having difficult conversations, leaving people and places behind, and asking challenging questions in scenarios where you may be disrespected/being laughed at. Be willing to ignore and keep yourself from things that may appear pleasurable at the moment but that go against the standards and goals you have set for yourself (i.e. drinking alcohol or breaking your celibacy).

Boundaries are more than just words, when used correctly they become an intrinsic part of the lifestyle of individuals committed to only entertaining those things which are in alignment with the values, standards, and life path they have set for themselves.