“Every night her thoughts weighed heavily on her soul, but every morning she would get up to fight another day. Every night she survived.”

— r.h.sin

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Depression Is My Closest Friend

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It’s a Wonderful Life (Frank Capra, 1946)

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“I pray that someone would hold your hand in times of anxiety and depression and remind you of all the beautiful progress you’ve been making.”

— Juansen Dizon

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Exactly what I said to my psychologist

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Everything is fine, though I’m still not happy.

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You ever feel like you’ve been through so much and your friends have been there for you this whole time, but then something terrible happens again and you need support, but you don’t want to go to them with more pain, because you feel like you’ve put too much on them already?

— Marley C. // On My Own…

Anyone else have this problem?

It feels like time is unreal to me, if that makes sense. Like maybe everything is compressed into one tiny moment, or that things really didn’t happen. Time goes by way too fast for me. It feels like my life is passing me by and like I never really experienced it, even though I know I did. Days, weeks, and even months and years blend together and seem to form one moment that might not have even existed.

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I’m not sure if I’m alone in this, but as an aromantic person, I wish my romantic friends understood the emotional labor it takes for me to lend an ear to their dating woes and to provide sound romantic relationship advice when I have no solid basis for understanding said relationships in the first place.

I tend to approach dating advice from a humanistic point of view, rather than a romantic one. That is, I’m more concerned with relationship outcomes and the physical and emotional impact of relationships than the romantic value and excitement of a relationship. That’s mostly because I am aromantic.

I appreciate that people think of me when they’re in need, but at the same time nothing makes me want to tune out more than issues related to romance. It takes tremendous effort for me to stay engaged in a conversation involving the needs of romantic people, which might make me sound like a bad person.

At the same time, I don’t think romantic people really consider the impact this has on aromantic people. I cannot speak for every aromantic person. However, we all have our own boundaries and needs. For aromantics, that could mean that discussing romance is an exhausting activity with little to no pay off.

I do care about the well-being and safety of my friends, but I don’t often care about their romantic pursuits. I am genuinely happy for them finding fulfilling relationships, but I am not emotionally invested in the details of their romances. I do want to support my friend, but not at the expense of my own well-being.

The most difficult part comes down to giving relationship advice to friends whose partners or potentially partners present aromantic behavior. I want to gently remind them that not everyone experiences romantic feelings the same way that they do, but then amatonormativity rears its ugly head from said friends.

The amount of times I’ve heard a friend describe a partner or potential partner as emotionally constipated is distressing, along with friends describing said persons as a potentially abusive because they wont open up to them or engage in romantic behavior … all the while ignoring their own impact on others…

All of this being said, I think it’s okay as an aromantic person – or any person really – to step back and say that you’re not comfortable or you’re not the right person to talk to about romance. It’s not your job to empathize with romantic feelings for your friends’ sakes when you can’t feel it in the first place.

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Friend:

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And boy howdy, lana did get coned.

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So I went to my therapist the other day, and later in the appointment I mentioned that I like to write self-insert fiction to cope. I also said that I generally hide it and felt embarrassed mentioning it due to the way people treat the concept online.

She said that self-inserting yourself into art and writing is an incredibly healthy way to feel good about yourself, and that she was appalled when I told her about the way it’s mocked on the internet.

So never feel bad about self-inserting or enjoying reader insert fanfiction, 1/1 professionals agree that it’s good for you and that the jerks who say you’re doing something wrong are just uneducated and don’t understand. Never listen to the anons who try to make you feel bad <3

Have a really nice day!