I think the greatest thing about secretly hating someone for something that no one knows about is the fact that every time they come up in conversation I get to go 'oh how has *redacted* been? Not well, oh how sad. 😟' knowing that if I truly wanted to I could completely negatively alter other view of them and they have no idea. I hold the stability of their relationships in my hands and they have no clue.
The only downsides are the trauma and inability to be in the same room as them without having a panic attack.
