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Anti-Shippers being shitty part 2: Electric Boogaloo

So, my first Anti-Shippers being Pieces of Shit is getting too laggy to add anything onto, so here we go again.

"I'd rather hurt a real child than look at fictional characters"

A 25 year old caught trying to groom a 12 year old and having inappropriate conversations with said minor, now trying to send other people to harass said minor.

"I expect everyone to respect my boundaries, but it's okay for me to break other peoples boundaries and leave hate comments because I don't like them uwu"

Calling for violence towards innocent people!

And well, this is disgusting enough behavior in itself.

HOLY SHIT, DUDE, AN ANTI ADMITTED TO BEING A FUCKING PΔ’DŌ

"I'm going to sexually exploit a real persons real child because someone likes something I find icky."

A popular anti-ship, fictive stimblog (animefictives) came under fire for a mod who happened to be a fictive condoning incest in their source.

They didn't say or do anything until it was 100%, absolutely undeniable. Literally, it took a whole call-out post (Archived here) for them to finally leave the blog and/or condemn these actions.

I don't care if a fictive condones things in fiction, obviously, but the fact they tried to gaslight people into thinking the story was stretched and exaggerated while defending exactly what they think a predator is... Well, it's pretty telling.

Sharing their DNI just in case they decide to delete the blog.

Oh look, suicide baiting. How nice.

"Yeah, antis have killed people, but they're not as bad as incels because it's not their GOAL to kill people!"

As if people encouraging suicide DON'T have the goal for people to die.

Which, btw, if you encourage someone to commit suicide and they do it, you legally counts as a murderer, fun fact.

Not really BAD, but very amusing that they don't want people who think it's okay to shit on people for their interests, but don't want Proshippers interacting... Even though that's exactly a proship belief.

it's ADD ON TIME!

"I'm so proud I might've caused someone to commit sΕ«icΔ«de"

"Fictional children should be treated like real children."

"I learned that someone kΔ«lled themselves and I'm happy about it, but I wish it would've been even worse."

"I'm going to blackmail and dox someone who could probably get killed, I hope someone makes CSAM of them."

"Im going to falsely clog the FBI mentions and NCMEC because people like a completely fictional ship I think is gross."

"A 14 year old would be better off being a child spouse to a pΔ“dōphile than liking certain ships"

Some big name antis turning out to be sΔ“xΕ«al predators towards minors and/or siblings.

AYO UPDATE TIME I HAVEN'T UPDATED THIS IN A WHILE, THIS TIME RACISM FROM THE GENSHIN FANDOM TOWARDS CHINESE KAELUC SHIPPERS

Why do antis constantly use pictures of real children to compare them to fictional characters??? It's fucking creepy.

Oh, cool, advocating for genocide over a cartoon

Literally wishing someone gets raped over fiction. Ew.

Fantasies that include real people! Creepy.

Who likes updates?!

β€œunalive myself” β€œgrippy socks visit to the hospital” β€œcorn addicts” talk like a fucking grown up. seriously.

Picking out "Grippy Sock Vacation" and "Grippy Sock Visit to the Hospital" primarily because I like those phrases for the simple fact of, I don't know, I'm mentally ill and don't want to sound like I'm being hospitalized for a suicide attempt when I really need a mental health break to the point that I need to go to a mental ward because that's the only way I can cope with life?

Like how dare mentally ill people try to make light of their situations with jokes about their mental health.

"I need a grippy sock vacation" has a light hearted vibe, whereas "I needed to stay in a psych ward" causes a lot of fucking worry for friends.

Let people cope in silly ways, they're not fucking hurting anyone.

after a suicide attempt in 2016

β€œWhen Daddy comes in, he carries you to bed. Is there anything you feel like you could eat, Pokey? Anything at all? All you can imagine putting in your mouth is a cold plum, one with really tight skin on the outside but gum-shocking sweetness inside. And he and your mother discuss where he might find some this late in the season. Mother says hell I don’t know. Further north, I’d guess. The next morning, you wake up in your bed and sit up. Mother says, Pete, I think she’s up. He hollers in, You ready for breakfast, Pokey. Then he comes in grinning, still in his work clothes from the night before. He’s holding a farm bushel. The plums he empties onto the bed river toward you through folds in the quilt. If you stacked them up, they’d fill the deepest bin at the Piggly Wiggly. Damned if I didn’t get the urge to drive to Arkansas last night, he says. Your mother stands behind him saying he’s pure USDA crazy. Fort Smith, Arkansas. Found a roadside stand out there with a feller selling plums. And I says, Buddy, I got a little girl sick back in Texas. She’s got a hanker for plums and ain’t nothing else gonna do. It’s when you sink your teeth into the plum that you make a promise. The skin is still warm from riding in the sun in Daddy’s truck, and the nectar runs down your chin. And you snap out of it. Or are snapped out of it. Never again will you lay a hand against yourself, not so long as there are plums to eat and somebody-anybody-who gives enough of a damn to haul them to you. So long as you bear the least nibblet of love for any other creature in this dark world, though in love portions are never stingy. There are no smidgens or pinches, only rolling abundance. That’s how you acquire the resolution for survival that the coming years are about to demand. You don’t earn it. It’s given.”

excerpt from Cherry by Mary Karr, context being after a suicide attempt at age 13

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Some context: Texas and Arkansas share a corner border. Now, Texas is FECKING HUGE and there are many, many parts of Texas that cannot visit Arkansas overnight, but there are parts where it’s no trouble at all.

However, those places of Texas that are close to Arkansas, do not include β€œclose to Fort Smith, Arkansas.”

The closest Texas gets to Fort Smith is about 185 miles (about 300km), at β€œa little closer than Texarkana.” (Dallas, fwiw, is about 275 miles/450km from Fort Smith.)

So the dad in this story drove at least SEVEN HOURS round trip, to pick up a bushel of plums for his little girl, in the hope that some almost-out-of-season fruit would convince her to go on living.

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Okay.

It’s bigger than this.

According to Wikipedia, the poet Mary Karr was born in 1955 and grew up in Groves, Texas and β€œlived there until she moved to Los Angeles in 1972.” So she would have been there when she was 13 and attempted suicide.

According to Google Maps, the shortest driving distance between Groves, TX and Fort Smith, AR is 439 miles (or 706 km for metric using folks).

That’s almost 8 hours of driving.

Almost 16 hours roundtrip.

(I assume he broke every speed limit he could.)

That’s how much this man loved his daughter.

May we all be worthy of such love.

May we all be capable of giving such love.

May we all have people in our lives with which we can share this love.

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So it can't get lost in reblog tags:

This article pulls zero punches. Incomplete list of potential triggers: miscarriage, medical neglect, loss of fertility, infant death, vomit, maternal trauma, mention of genetic and birth defects, and forced pregnancy.

The women named in this article have suffered, terribly, unnecessarily, because state law makers meddled in matters they didn't understand.

article published July 21, 2023

People don't like to admit it bcs cringe or w/e but Homestuck really did revolutionize the webcomic as a storytelling medium and I am endlessly frustrated that before webcomic artists could really stretch our legs fucking webtoonz swooped in, set a new, more restrictive standard, and then monetized and monopolized the ever living fuck out of the concept of The Webcomic until it drove away anyone who couldn't be a professional quality manga artist for free, and now the only webcomics that actually feel like spiritual successors to Homestuck are so obscure they're basically cult classics that you have to beg people to read.

Like it's just so wild to be in high school and see Homestuck be like "we're using like fifteen different artistic mediums to tell this story bcs we can" and be really fucking inspired by that, only to grow up and see basically every webcomic ever have to conform to One Single Standard or fucking perish.

Actually, I realized my real point here: we all need to make our art weirder. Please make weird art. I want more stuff like Prequel Adventure and 17776 and MyHouse.wad and I want it now. Capitalism thrives on conformity. We must be weird at all costs.

"Oh, Dubbed animes are the same as the dubbed animes! You can watch either one, you'll be watching the same thing!"

Newer anime MIGHT BE MORE ACCURATE in the dub, sure! But older anime? No. Some hot localized and mistranslated so bad, they are completely different.

Newer anime fans, I beg of you, WATCH YU-GI-OH. WATCH BOTH THE ENGLISH DUB AND THE ORIGINAL JAPANESE. OH, HOW ABOUT YOU WATCH THE SEASON THAT NEVER GOT AN ENGLISH DUB! SEASON 0! In which we see some pretty gruesome shit, especially those last few episodes with Bakura, where Yami Bakura literally stabs the sharper parts of the millennium ring into Bakura's chest! Oh, and stabs his hand on a DND castle.

I'm so serious, the dub of Yu-Gi-Oh took out SO MUCH. They cut at least 40 Episodes! The Shadow Realm wasn't even a fucking thing in the original! You just straight up died! Never forget that Marik developed DID from extreme trauma because his father carved a tattoo into his back with a burning knife! Amongst so much more.

How about Yu-Gi-Oh GX! Where 4!Kids literally took out the LGBT+ rep! And 40+ episodes to boot, an entire season that gave context to Yubel and Jaden's relationship! How about the fact the protag is bi or pan, is poly, and has a NONBINARY LOVE INTEREST AND A MALE LOVE INTEREST! Oh, don't forget, they made the nonbinary Duel Monster spirit a female in the English dub.

I'm begging you, PLEASE, if you're going to watch older anime, especially those dubbed by 4!Kids, just watch the original Japanese instead. It is NOT the same thing.

Yeah, sure, the Toei anime is (only somewhat) irrelevant to the Duel Monsters anime. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hold some context (aka how Jounouchi and YΕ«gi became friends, which gets only half-ass explained in the anime), and is what Yu-Gi-Oh was originally meant to be (Aka the King of Games, not the King of Card Games).

Even then, you suggesting to read the manga... As if it doesn't have a lot of the stuff from Season 0? I've read the first few volumes, and it's Season 0, but even darker. Like, literally, first episode with Ushio? Where the shadow game is them dangling off of a building using cards to count their steps to the top of the building before he cheats, tries to shove Yami YΕ«gi off, realizes he was duped and he ends up falling off into a pool full of hallucinated monsters? Yeah, the manga still has Ushio, but the shadow game is literally them stabbing money from the tops of their hands before Ushio tries to stab Yami YΕ«gi. The manga literally does still hold the elements of Season 0, not just the first episode, either.

The Season 0 Anime may be somewhat irrelevant, but it's still a good watch and holds a lot of the elements that the manga held. It's not 100% actually irrelevant to the Duel Monster series. There are a lot of things that were retconned, but there are still a lot of elements that were kept, yet were never fully elaborated on (like Jounouchi and YΕ«gi's relationship).

I definitely recommend the manga, and both the Toei and Duel Monster animes. I think it's important to see both what we got and the origins of it. I love both of the animes dearly. (I'm also probably one of the few anymore that love Bakura and Kaiba's original designs more than their current designs.)

This is primarily in reference to many younger and newer anime fans saying that the dub and sub are the same and tell the same story, when that's not the case, especially for older anime (Sailor Moon included in this, because FUCK Sailor Moon actually got dark).

No you cannot fix your entire life at 2am. Go to bed.

You can fix some of it though! By going to bed.

Ever since I read a post saying "don't trust yourself after 9pm" whenever I find myself spiralling at 2am I check the time, see it's after 9pm, and remember not to trust myself and just go to sleep. Works wonders. The problems are never as bad in the morning.

Friendly reminder to ship whatever you want without giving a shit about what anyone else says.

"They're family!" yeah, I sure hope they are.

"They have a toxic relationship!" I make it even worse in my head.

"This ship doesn't make sense!" I'll gladly keep shipping them even if they have never met each other.

Pride month vest project, a patch a day #14: All Pride is Kink to Bigots

image description: a black rectangle of fabric on a brown surface. the phrase 'ALL PRIDE IS KINK TO BIGOTS' is neatly embroidered. the text is white with the exception of 'PRIDE' which is rainbow and 'BIGOTS' which is red. end ID

stop saying "gen z brought back bush-era purity politics" i grew up in the bush era and even then people weren't saying that you're a sex addict for having boring marital sexual congress in the same house as your children. this is just plain unhinged

Literally almost every millennial I know has a memory of accidentally walking in on their parents or hearing their parents having sex. It's fucking normal. Human beings have sex. Your parents fuck. Get over it. Being weird about it isn't healthy.

I really loved Robert Evans’s response to this

I walked in on my parents fucking once, I quietly closed the door got some water and watched cartoon network till I fell back asleep. Yall are pussies.

My parents used to β€œtake naps” every Sunday after church, from the time I was very small, onward.

When I was younger their bedroom was on the ground floor of the house and me and my sister slept upstairs. But when I was about 9 we moved to a house where all the bedrooms were on the second floor. It was one of those Reagan-era colonials that filled the Midwest like so much mulch in a playground.

So as it happened, their bedroom was directly above the kitchen. I mean their bed, had it fallen through the floor for whatever reason, would have landed more-or-less perfectly in the space between the counters and the fridge.

And so every Sunday we’d come home and id hang out in the family room (behind the garage, across the house from the kitchen) and my sister would go to her bedroom and my parents would β€œtake a nap”.

And that was how it was for a couple of years. Around the time I was 12 or 13 I started getting more of an actual understanding of how sex worked, mechanically speaking, vs the sort of broad-strokes version that preteen me got from my fairly liberal parents. Anyway, one day I’m making myself some pasta in the kitchen, and I hear this rhythmic squeaking from above me.

See, my parents had this really, really rickety and fragile ikea-style bed that they’d had for years and years. And I’d heard these noises for literal years. But suddenly it clicked what was happening. And so many giggles were had by me.

A couple of months after that I was talking to my mom in her room, I’m sitting on the bed and she’s standing around doing something it other. Maybe putting away laundry. And I’m just kinda sitting there, rocking back and forth, stimming.

And mom goes β€œoh don’t do that, the bed squeaks a lot” and I just look at her and without missing a beat go β€œoh yeah, I know.”

Anyway that’s the story of how I mortified my mother into buying a new bed.

also, I would argue that treating sex like some disgusting morally disgusting thing is MORE LIKELY to make it traumatizing!

children are capable of understanding at least the basic gist of sex and reproduction, and are able to understand that it's something adults do alone together sometimes. turning it into this fucked up disgusting hidden act that only addicts and sex offenders do is just how you makes people repressed and traumatized, and prevent them from understanding what a healthy relationship with sex and sexuality looks like.

"Oh, Dubbed animes are the same as the dubbed animes! You can watch either one, you'll be watching the same thing!"

Newer anime MIGHT BE MORE ACCURATE in the dub, sure! But older anime? No. Some hot localized and mistranslated so bad, they are completely different.

Newer anime fans, I beg of you, WATCH YU-GI-OH. WATCH BOTH THE ENGLISH DUB AND THE ORIGINAL JAPANESE. OH, HOW ABOUT YOU WATCH THE SEASON THAT NEVER GOT AN ENGLISH DUB! SEASON 0! In which we see some pretty gruesome shit, especially those last few episodes with Bakura, where Yami Bakura literally stabs the sharper parts of the millennium ring into Bakura's chest! Oh, and stabs his hand on a DND castle.

I'm so serious, the dub of Yu-Gi-Oh took out SO MUCH. They cut at least 40 Episodes! The Shadow Realm wasn't even a fucking thing in the original! You just straight up died! Never forget that Marik developed DID from extreme trauma because his father carved a tattoo into his back with a burning knife! Amongst so much more.

How about Yu-Gi-Oh GX! Where 4!Kids literally took out the LGBT+ rep! And 40+ episodes to boot, an entire season that gave context to Yubel and Jaden's relationship! How about the fact the protag is bi or pan, is poly, and has a NONBINARY LOVE INTEREST AND A MALE LOVE INTEREST! Oh, don't forget, they made the nonbinary Duel Monster spirit a female in the English dub.

I'm begging you, PLEASE, if you're going to watch older anime, especially those dubbed by 4!Kids, just watch the original Japanese instead. It is NOT the same thing.

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But what if it was all a dream

This is more unsettling. I know it's there. I know it should be there. I know this pristine landscape is hiding its horrors like teeth.

[I.D. an edited version of the "children's hospital" meme photo where the splattering red pattern on the hall floor has been removed. End I.D.]

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Well duh. It’s just color theory

Do not forget about White Room Torture! Being in strictly a white room can drive you a bit crazy.