been catching up on mbmbam
we justifiably give Biden a lot of shit but I think "at least 3" is the funniest possible response to some right wing dipshit asking you how many genders there are
wait it gets better
first 5 faceless emojis are how your summers gonna go
Magnus Archives fan I see
THIS IS SO FUNNY I'M SORRY
lesbian sleepover porn movie pillow fight scene but it has the same fight choreography as a john wick movie
Holy fucking shit
yeah Iโd carry that one over too
Stuff like this hit's really close to home with me because I had an abusive paternal figure growing up. It's easy for you to assume that this is an outrageously extreme example that someone's prolly just blowing out of proportion; don't. Abusers often use tactics like this. It's about control and taking control away from their victims. This also means controlling the narrative, and controlling who the victim can talk to about their issues. The thing is, over issues like this, the best response is to assume the victim is being legit. Even if they're not, wishing them well won't have anywhere close to the same repercussions as assuming a legitimate victim of abuse is lying. I'm only saying this bit here because there are people in the notes of this post trying to play this entire post off as a hoax. I am talking to them personally now. You are not helping anyone except the abuser. The best-case scenario here is that you are a child who's never had to live with abuse. Because the worst-case scenario is that you yourself are an abuser. Either way, the best thing for you is to stop.
this this thiiiiis AND adding to clarify, one of the biggest signs of abuse is that it sounds fake. which is bizarre, i know, but itโs part of the control.
itโs hard to take abuse seriously even when itโs happening to you. abuse is terrifying, itโs seriously fucked up, so victims donโt want to think itโs real. this happens to everyone. itโs how the brain protects itself.
OP wants to believe that of course their husband is a rational good hearted person who just needs to understand tha water and lights cost money, theyโre not hurting the OP on purpose, this is a misunderstanding. no one would do anything so bizarre deliberately, right? itโs unbelieveable. sounds fake.
and it sounds fake to other people, too. OP canโt tell the story without sounding like a crazy lying bitch. i guarantee you if she brought it up in front of a third party, her husband would deny that itโs happening.
that is the abuse. that is gaslighting. he is changing her perception of reality to one that he controls. he is saying, Bizarre and crazy bullshit will happen to you and you have to fucking accept it as normal, and if you dare to talk about it no one is gonna believe your story.
The only thing I can imagine that could explain this is that he's deliberately trying to make her think she's crazy. And it's working.
She needs to get out.
This is sometimes referred to as the โTrunchbull Methodโ, yes, like the horrifically abusive principal in Matilda.
She does it on purpose, and actually explains why in the book.
Essentially, if you are going to be abusive, she says you should go 150%. Really commit, be as wildly over the top as you canโฆ that way, if your victim ever does get the courage to tell someone about it, what you did will sound so outlandish that no one will believe them.
โOur principal doesnโt like pigtails, so she picked a girl up by her hair and threw her over the fence.โ
No parent would believe thatโฆ itโs too far. Surely no one would do that. (But if you know the story, you know it happened.)
โMy husband leaves every light in the house on and every faucet running all day, and says that itโs literally impossible not toโฆ and when Iโve tried to explain why itโs a problem, his excuse is that Iโm not a mechanic, so he doesnโt have to.โ
It sounds unbelievableโฆ no one would be that stubborn and off-base, right? And most people who hear that wonโt believe it. Which is how her husband wants it.
If he can break her down and make her doubt her own sense of reality and logic over something as trivial as a lightbulb, that leaves her wide open to manipulation on major issues like money, pregnancy, property.
The Trunchbull Method is insidious, especially when thereโs no physical abuse and itโs just emotional/verbal. With the right conditioning, most of the victims donโt even see it as abuse.
Notice how sheโs the sole member of the household with a job, that heโs mooching off her and has been for some time, and has been gaslighting her (while wasting hundreds of dollars, if not thousands) for months, to the point where she is genuinely wondering if she is insaneโฆ
โฆand even when people point out the abuse, she still firmly believes that itโs not? She wants to reach out for help, but she still feels guilty, because he tells her itโs her faultโฆ and a part of her believes it.
This is exactly how this method of abuse works. When someone tells you whatโs going on, and it sounds like abuse, calling them a liar or saying you donโt believe it will only ever help their abuser.
Believe them. Help them. Make sure they know you support them. Help to ground them in reality if you can, assure them that they arenโt crazy. That their thought process is rational.
example: โYouโre right- turning off lights when you leave a room is very easy. And small children learn to turn off faucets when theyโre done with them. Youโre correct. His behavior doesnโt make sense, and neither does his excuse.โ
Make sure they know youโre in their corner and will stand by them.
On average, it takes seven tries to leave an abusive relationship. Seven.
The more support a victim has, the faster that number goes down.
"OP why are you mad that your words are being misinterpreted you're on the piss on the poor website" actually i think it's very reasonable to demand people pay attention to the words they use, the choices they make, the things they believe, and their capacity for empathy and comprehension and that it's sort of weird that you're finding humor in making excuses to just believe that there simply is no possible way to improve your actions
itโs difficult to be a dom with anarchist leanings.
my sub will be like โi have to tell you somethingโฆ i broke a rule. iโll accept whatever punishment you see fit.โ and iโm like. rise up comrade you have nothing to lose but your padded restraints. no doms no masters. oh you want me to spank you. yeah i can do that.
So Iโve spoken before about how I used to be staff on a fairly popular discord server specifically for kink and specifically specifically for gay man kink.
It was a puppy server. And puppies are largely cis men, though we had a strict โall puppies are good puppiesโ rule and refused to gender-lock or sex-lock people out of enjoying themselves.
Now. Iโm not really into this particular kink. I was hired to do art, and because a good friend of mine was good friends with the server owner/admin. But I still hung out with the users and got to make some mod choices because I was staff.
Do you know how many times I did effectively this? Just immediately start a puppy riot? One of the more toxic doms would be trying to flex or be bugging one of the younger members and Iโd post something like โ rise up comrades it is time!!! Power to the pups!!! No treats no tail wags!!! โ and immediately the server would be an explosion of horny men in dog masks barking in text at the Asshole Dom who Did Not Realize that I was online and would do that.
Anyway the server owner thought it was hysterical and would participate in the Puppy Riots and deliberately kept me on staff because, and I quote, he liked that I would throw the server into literal anarchy mode in order to shut up the assholes and thus all the assholes would be quiet if they knew I was around.
#395. In Pokรฉmon FireRed and LeafGreen, Kanto Elite Four member Lorelie has a house on Four Island in the Sevii Islands.
Inside the house contains 6 Pokรฉmon Dolls, but every time the Player defeats the Elite Four and enters the Hall of Fame 25 times, an extra Pokรฉmon Doll will appear in the house. This continues until the Player has entered the Hall of Fame 200 times and a total of 14 Pokรฉmon Dolls reside in Lorelieโs house. (X)
Lorelieโs house with all 14 Pokรฉ Dolls
local woman buys plushies to cope with child beating her ass 200 times consecutively
Pov you are Lorelie after being defeated for the 200th time in a row
not knowing the name of a meme and having to describe it in google like a fucking animal
Google watching me type โpocket pussy popping rigorously in car exhaust gifโ
Helloโฆ you. I didnโt do the reading.ย On the table in front of you are a series of tools for inflicting pain and injury. You probably did something bad, but I donโt know what. You have an hour to do something poetic to yourself for it. Iโll be back to check after class. Good luck.ย
Soda Pop: A highly carbonated soda drink. It can be used to restore 50 HP to a single Pokรฉmon.
I'm a professor at the University of Texas. My students CLAIM to write their papers themselves, but I know that many students in fact let those AI things write papers for them. So I'll ask you directly: have any of my students asked you to write a paper for them?
Iโve never heard of the University of Texas and wouldnโt know a single student there if they bit me.
Frankโs no snitch. Snitches get stitches.
We donโt use stitches anymore
Well then WHAT do we do to SNITCHES?