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@darwinwithadifference

Mishka. 22. She/they. Queer. Autistic and mentally ill. I love writing, history, languages. Pokemon and Genshin Impact are special interests

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[Image description: Eight screencaps of the Genshin Impact characters from the Perilous Trail quest. Each character is paired with a screencap from the "All found families have" Tumblr post.

Xiao: Asshole with a heart of gold and self esteem issues

Aether: Really sweet character who’s capable of murder and also has self esteem issues

Yanfei: Incredibly cool character who is the only one with a brain cell

Paimon: Sassy and hiding pain

Yelan: Milf

Kuki Shinobu: Furious bisexual

Ushi: Only one capable of keeping a plant alive

and finally

Arataki Itto: Emotional support himbo /End image description.]

Me as a writer: It must be perfect, or they will all know I am a fraud, and no one will love me.

Me as a reader: Give us your tired verses, your poor prose, your half formed 2am conceptions yearning to be realised-

Me, writing: stop with the clichés. nobody wants to read about how there was only one bed

Me, reading: THERE’S ONLY ONE BEDRLKFNDWKRÖDDWWLNCFMCXÖDLWMXDCMXMLMDCMXBED

This is very reassuring

VENT - TW for abuse, s*xual assault, disordered eating, mental disorders

It's been a hot minute since i've posted anything. This year has been so rough. There hasn't been much time or energy for me to write or even just scroll mindlessly here.

I ended my first (and long-term) relationship at the beginning of the year. My physical health was still very bad then and even though i've recovered since, my body still doesn't feel like it's fully mine. My mental health was bad too.

It got a bit better after i went back to uni, and then the workload started to overwhelm me. A psychologist confirmed i'm autistic. That helped but also didn't because my mom and her husband still don't have the patience to accommodate my neurodiversity so i'm stuck in the same loop of shame and sadness and those things making my triggers even worse that i've always been in.

I made a new friend who i developed feelings for. They returned them, and we've been together for around 4 months now. They're my spark of joy and my match in every way and i love them dearly. But they're also autistic. Also mentally ill. Also traumatised after a lifetime of abuse. And we help each other the best that we can but we're both just students trying to survive.

It's so hard. I'm in a world that doesn't appreciate my differences and punishes me for them. It sounds stupidly clichéd. I probably have an eating disorder again, my depression is worse again, and i realised that i've been s*xually assaulted more times than i initially thought (or can now count). I'm exhausted.

I just need a break. I need someone to tell me that they'll fix things and i don't have to be strong anymore. But instead i have to keep going and feel everything weighing on me more each day.

good afternoon to :

  • unemployed autistic adults
  • single autistic adults
  • autistic adult virgins
  • autistic adults who don't have many or even any friends
  • autistic adults who can't live independently
  • autistic adults who need support with everyday activities
  • autistic adults who don't have the support they need
  • autistic adults with interests considered "childish"

none of these things make you less of an adult

as an autistic kid I got criticized for not making eye contact. so as an adult I trained myself to make very consistent eye contact (easier said than done). this in turn has led to some people telling me it's "kinda weird" that I "stare so much." the moral of this story is there is actually no pleasing neurotypicals

tags: fuck it I'm just gonna be weird then. I would rather live a comfortable life openly displaying harmless autistic traits than constantly work to suppress normal behaviors, just to avoid the casual judgement of strangers who don't appreciate me anyway. 

obviously this isn't an option for everyone all of the time, some schools, workplaces, etc will be more hostile than others. and of course everyone monitors their behavior different in private vs public. but my life has gotten much easier since i decided to stop caring about whether random people think there's something odd about me. I no longer care if the receptionist at the doctor's office thinks I talk funny. I don't care if people on the sidewalk think my hand gestures are weird. I don't care if the random dude I'm making small talk with thinks that my conversation style is strange. I'm not hurting anyone, and autistic people are allowed to be visibly autistic and still exist in public. 

this goes for all types of neurodiversity. when people label neurodiverse behaviors as 'weird' that is just plain ignorance. And I am tired of catering to ignorance

THINGS I CAN DO

- enjoy words and images

- love friends

THINGS I CANNOT DO

- zoom call

- assignmence

I nearly started crying in my faculty's computer lab yesterday because of both these things. Can i not just study languages and Greek art and be gay in peace

I love the generational gap between emoji usage. Anyone over 50 sees 🙃 and thinks "silly time! whee 🙃", whereas the rest of us immediately hear, verbatim, "they ask you how you are, and you just have to say that you're fine, when you're not really fine, but you just can't get into it because they would ne--"

Flying the flag upside down is a distress signal

One of those fandom things that I love is when there’s new characters around and, with the unwavering confidence of an old farmer appraising cattle, fanfic authors take one good look at them, tilt their imaginary hat, and go “Aye. Praise kink, that one. Mighty case of praise kink if I ever saw one.” And everyone else just “aye.”

Not to mention the plot tropes.

“I don’t think the Highschool AU is going to come in too strong this year. Fandoms a touch jaded for that. But the hurt/comfort is growin’ thick as weeds and twice as fast. It’ll be a good harvest, fer sure.”

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“I hear over at [neighbouring fandom] they’re putting the top field into fix-it fics.”

“Yes, ‘twould be.  They had a hard season last year, a right hard season.” 

“You think I ought to plant a little Sailor Moon Wild West AU? Don’t know if anything would come of it. Might not make it to harvest.”

“Won’t know until you plant it, will you?”

“Ah, a heritage crop.”

The shipping forecast.

The Fandom Almanac

somehow I would like fewer "Here's How Introverts Can Be More Social!" articles and more "How To Shut Up And Include Other People In The Conversation" articles

less "How To Be Less Introverted" and more "How To Stop Alienating Your Peers With Different Social Needs"

*7 Fun Ways to be Less Socially Draining on Your Neurodivergent Friends*

"10 Tips for Learning How to Spend Time Alone: A Guide for Extroverts"

"Body Language: How to Tell When Your Friends are Emotionally Drained but too Polite or Anxious to Tell You"

"10 Ways to be More Inclusive With Your Friend Group"

hearing from a lot of extroverts in the notes who sound genuinely interested in reading these things, so DON'T tell me there's not a market

I remember reading this article that was like "Surprising New Discovery About Autism!" and then they just talked about a completely normal and common autistic experience that me or any of my friends could have easily told them about

anyway, we need more neurodivegent researchers & psychiatrists & counselors.

We need people who experience these conditions firsthand to be intimately involved in the medical research and treatment development.

We need neurodivegent people to be consulted and heard at every level of research.

And it is incredibly insulting that so many neurodivergent students enter these fields because of their neurodivergencies, only to find that their own medical history--history which gives them firsthand insight and expertise--gets used by the system to discredit and discount them.

Recruit more neurodivegent researchers to neurodivergency research.