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The Caffeinated Counselor

@darnitjack

He/him / likes include Star Wars, Studio Ghibli, & French lit / Catholic / therapist, generally friendly+down to talk/ Profile pic is my 13th age Wizard drawn by theoasiswinds.
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I think Illya is a widely-misunderstood character [crowd starts clapping politely] I'm a big fan of sakura [crowd begins to cheer] and also gilgamesh is one of my favourite characters [crowd begins beating me to death with hammers]

I think one of our biggest failings as Christians is that they know us by our rules and not by our love

Sometimes I think about those quirks of history that seem to exemplify the 1%-ers of the past, and how they are are in fact vestiges of a time when people were, due to necessity, ok with being more co-dependent on each other in general, often regardless of class.

  • Extra room in your house? That's for being able to put up guests for days on end, as travel was difficult and hospitality was important.
  • Clothing laces and buttons in the back, hairstyles are difficult? You might not have servants but you would have siblings and spouses to help you get ready.
  • Endless frivolous parties and calling cards? An important way to stay connected with friends in a world without phone and video.
  • Elaborately decorated clothing? Not only did you need beauty in your life, but needlework goes faster with a friend, and quilting can be a group bonding activity.

Things are easier now, yes, but I think that's also a reason why we're all lonely and touch-starved.

someone please help me find that quote about how someone was overwhelmed with the weight of the world and their problems when they were physically alone, but that weight felt like nothing in the presence of a friend and good conversation

is it this one?

YES!!! THANK YOU!!!

I came to a realization recently that I still struggle to properly articulate but: online leftists who have extremely socialist progressive politics but still think its okay to partake in like doxxing and harassment and other toxic practices are eerily similar to conservative Christians who piously go to church every Sunday but still verbally abuse service workers and leave 50 cent tips

Its that same. I guess. Cognitive dissonance between beliefs and actual behavior. That idea that you are a good person because you believe the correct things which conveniently absolves you of having to be conscious of your own behavior and how you treat people. Its okay that you called your Olive Garden waitress a dumb bitch because she brought you bleu cheese instead of ranch with your salad because you can just pray your sins away to Jesus and still get into heaven. Its okay that you told someone who you didnt like on Tumblr to kill themselves because you have "trans rights are human rights" and ACAB in your bio. Its that same kind of Performance of being a Good Person TM while still deciding its okay to treat the people you consider to be "beneath you" like garbage.

Your beliefs are simply step one in determining your personal character, frankly one of the easier steps. The next and more important step is *how* you, personally, treat the people around you. And frankly, you could have the most progressive politics known to mankind but if you still act like a middle school bully at the most minor percieved infraction then you are not a good person. Full stop.