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update: despite the visual evidence, billy is still SLIGHTLY smaller than georgie
I was a weird kid and am now a weird adult but I wake up every day and thank god I wasn’t a weird kid in the age of tiktok and putting your face and government name next to dogshit takes
what they dont tell you about growing up in the early 2010s is that fun.’s “we are young” will make your heart ache a frankly embarrassing amount
humanity can be so beautiful actually
sorry for thinking top surgery scars are the hottest thing a guy can have fortunately im very smart
drinking a can of soda is better than not drinking anything at all. “junk” food is better than no food at all. just rinsing your mouth out with mouthwash is better than no oral hygiene at all. changing into a different set of pyjamas is better than not changing at all. getting up just to sit down on the chair across the room for a bit is better than not getting up at all. changing just your pillowcase is better than not changing your bedding at all. cracking a window open is better than getting no fresh air at all.
if you don’t have enough spoons for full tasks, smaller adaptations are better than nothing at all. it’s okay if you don’t have the energy to actively fight today. just staying afloat is enough. you are enough.
does anyone actually use the reaper's cudgel in origins, or is it just a free 340 gold?
thanks google that's OBVIOUSLY NOT WHAT IM ASKING
I touch the chair and it starts vibrating violently and smack me in the face and I ragdoll to the other side of the room
Oh my god the way non transsexuals have come to use AFAB and AMAB is unfuckingreal. Just witnessed local queer community discourse cuz someone put up a local ad saying they were looking for a “female AFAB performer” and a “male AMAB performer” and you fucking know they thought they were being sooo progressive there. I’ve seen so many non trans kweers and leftists become SO comfortable resorting to blatant sex based segregation and bioessentialist rhetoric under the guise of progressive trans-friendly activist language with AFAB and AMAB being the very obvious new female and male. The rise of “AFAB-only events” “women and AFAB groups” “no AMABs” shit etc, even saw a trans guy recently complaining about a kink event being “AMAB only,” it’s just fucking awfullllllll like… This anti-trans bioessentialism has always been an issue obviously but man am I tired of it being wrapped up in the current progressive language. Once more y’all found a way to boil us down to our natal genitals but this time you’re allies for it. Super cool. We seriously need to return to the CAFAB/CAMAB/“coercive assignment” language that was largely dropped due to it being too “extreme” and making people uncomfortable again lol. And maybe even start exclusively referring to these terms as past tense to keep y’all remembering that this was genital-based categorization thrust upon us (sometimes physically violently so in the case of intersex folk), a literal tangible action, rather than an active, immutable aspect of current identity. Jesus.
they should've given house heelies. can you imagine. imagine it.
I saw someone make a genuinely innocent mistake about this again, so please take note!
The number "88" is frequently used as neo-nazi flagging. It's a numerical code for "HH," which means "Heil Hitler." You may also see it in combination with the number 14, referencing the infamous "14 Words." If you ever see "1488" tacked onto someone's username, or posted as a comment, or in a tattoo, that person is a neo-nazi. Full stop.
If you were born in 1988, don't put "88" in your social media handle. People are going to think you are a nazi.
If you didn't know, now you know.
I'm now in the age range where the youths are warning me about cultural pitfalls and it makes me feel so...
So goddamn proud of the next generation, good job kids, keep spreading that knowledge and shine a light on the shitty behavior people try to disguise.
#the kids are alright
Look, I'm and getting tired of people calling me a "kid" on this post. I know I'm not old, but I'm also not a child.
I graduated high school in 2011. I have been to college. I am married and have children. I pay taxes. I have a job and I am a dues-paying member of the IWW.
I am not a teenager trying to teach my elders, I am a grown adult who has friends and peers who were born in 1988 and didn't know about this. But for some reason, I keep getting comments that boil down to either, "omg the kids are alright!" or, from jerks, "shut up, fetus."
I'm 29, I've got a Jewish dad and Jewish partners, I'm just trying to do some educating on a common dogwhistle, and I really don't know why this post keeps getting patronizing "awww, look at the little activist child, the kids are alright" responses.
There was a gorgeous dyke/trans bar called "Le Monocle" in 1930s Paris. Monocles were a bit like wearing a pride flag among the queer people assigned female at the time. Although the Nazis shut down the bar during the war, many patrons stayed in touch for years after. 🧐
having a child has taught me that every toddler is completely justified in their frustrations and tantrums because learning how to do something you have literally never encountered or heard of before is insane. and being expected to be completely calm in the face of this constant barrage of overwhelming information is doubly insane.
i got charlie a sticker activity book and it occurred to me i have to TEACH someone how to unpeel stickers. it's SKILL that requires DEXTERITY and FINE MOTOR ABILITY. i thought it was obvious that you have to curl the page a little bit to create a break in the cut so the sticker comes up.
obviously a fucking BABY wouldn't know that because they have no background experience to inform their thought process. OBVIOUSLY. and OBVIOUSLY the LITERAL BABY wouldn't get it right the first few times. it would OBVIOUSLY take practice. lots of it.
i hate this feeling. it's so obvious. why are children treated so badly when they're learning everything for the first fucking time. why do people treat children so horribly and expect so much. they're brand new. why didn't i get the same grace i give to my child? why did no one have patience for me? why, when it's this easy?
it's so easy. it's so fucking easy.
now i dont wanna feel a thing any more
also if you wanna combat the "women in the past only crossdressed because of misogyny!" you have GOTTA read chapter 11 in Transgender Warriors where leslie feinberg does such a good job constructing an argument against this kind of radfem reductionism
""No wonder you've passed as a man! This is such an anti-woman society," a lesbian friend told me. To her, females passing as males are simply trying to escape women's oppression- period. She believes that once true equality is achieved in society, humankind will be genderless. I don't have a crystal ball, so I can't predict human behavior in the distant future. But I know what she's thinking- if we can build a more just society, people like me will cease to exist. She assumes that I am simply a product of oppression. Gee, thanks so much."
"First, let's talk about who can pass as another sex. My same friend reminds me periodically that she too might have passed as a men a century ago to escape women's oppression. She stares right past my gender expression as she speaks. [...] I don't want to burst her bubble. Everyone deserves untrammeled dreams. But I want to tell her that, in the dead of winter, if she was bundled up against the cold, with a hood or hat covering her head, some man in a deli might call her "sir." But could she pass as male on a board ship, sleeping with and sharing common facilities with her fellow sailors for decades and not be discovered? Of course, hundreds of thousands of women have dreamed of escaping the economic and social inequities of their lives, but how many could live as a man for a decade or a lifetime? While a woman could throw on men's clothing and pass as a man for safety on dark roadways, could she pass as a man at an inn where men slept together in the same beds? Could she maintain her identity in daylight? Pass the scrutiny of co-workers? Would she really feel safer and more free? How could females have lived and been accepted as men without hormones or surgery? They must have been masculine; they must have been trans-gendered. If they were not, how could they pass? We don't know how each of the thousands who passed from female to male over the centuries would define themselves today- whether as transgender or transsexual or drag or any other modern definition. The point is that their gender expression allowed them to transition. I just don't believe that the debate about why "women pass as men" can be understood only in the light of women's, or of lesbian and gay, oppression. It has to be viewed in the context of trans history in order to make sense."
"Look at George Sand, the nineteenth-century novelist. It's true that she could not have published without a male nom de plume at that time. But if that's all there was to her identity, why did she wear men's clothing? Why was she attacked for masculine behavior? And if it was just a question of lesbian oppression, what was she doing in bed with Chopin? If passing from female to male is simply motivated by the need to escape lesbian oppression, then why have females who have passed as males chosen other men as lovers?"
"Finally, if so many females have passed as men only to escape women's oppression, then why have so many males passed as women? While it is biologically easier for a female to pass as a young boy than for a male to pass as a woman, there are many, many examples in the modern era of those who passed from male to female."
"We have not always been forced to pass, to go underground, in order to work and live. We have a right to live openly and proudly. When we are denied those rights, we are the ones who suffer that oppression. But when our lives are suppressed, everyone is denied an understanding of the rich diversity of sex and gender expression and experience that exist in human society. I have lived as a man because I could not survive openly as a transgendered person. Yes, I am oppressed in this society, but I am not merely product of oppression. That is a phrase that renders all our trans identities meaningless. Passing means having to hide your identity in fear, in order to live. Being forced to pass is a recent historical development. It is passing that is a product of oppression."
