May I add something, because I will never shut up about this book (Writing Tools by Roy Peter Clark):
Finally, some good fucking advice
No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.
It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.
Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.
I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.
Flawless positivity.
Listen.
I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.
This applies to your relationship with yourself.
If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.
You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.
All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.
So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.
I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.
You can’t hate yourself into being happy.
I don’t remember where I read this but it literally changed my life and how I approach growth and personal development. It can be hard to keep in mind sometimes, but it puts it in a way that’s hard to argue with.
roommates of tumblr, stop using metal utensils on your roommates nonstick pans and stop soaking their cast iron pans in soap thank you and god bless
roommates of the world: it doesn’t actually matter if you use metal on nonstick every once in a while
their pans:
for those wondering, those scratches are where the non-stick coating has been scraped off (usually by metal utensils or cleaning utilities like steel wool), which means that food will stick more in those spots. plus, there runs the risk of more bits of that coating coming off into your food as you cook.
Non-stick pans and skillets are best for medium heat as they don't conduct heat as well, and for wetter foods like eggs and fish and pancakes.
On the other hand, cast iron pans and skillets don't have a built in protective coating. The metal will absorb grease and fats as they cook, building up an equally efficient non-stick coating of its own. And without the chemical coating that non-stick pans come with, there's no risk of any of it flaking off or melting into your food. They can handle higher temperatures without damage, and they get hot faster on the burner. Beef, pork, and chicken are best cooked on cast iron.
You don't want to let them soak in soap because it will remove that grease coating that makes the cast iron pan's non-stickiness, plus absorb soap that might melt back off into your food. A soap and sponge rub down is all it needs.
watching phantom of the opera for the millionth time like
y’know, for someone who seems to really like jeannie may crawford, cliff briscoe sure takes the news of her death in stride
yeah thats fair
edit:
From the smooth flow of water to the jagged, crackle of lightning, this gorgeous fan art showcases the artist’s incredible range.
“Identical Opposites” by ZedEdge: http://bit.ly/2IHvZ6G
I follow this Road to El Dorado fan group on facebook and the admins recently banned a meme template due overuse. So naturally the community got creative and started working around ways to post it.
The Internet is a beautiful place.
i’m absolutely dying over the fact that ellen page played such an unconvincing straight person in season 1 that they literally just said “nevermind” and made her a lesbian
A little update <3
I still read all of your lovely replies! I have not given up on art my friends! I have even started my own webcomic on webtoon! It’s called Seth In Space and it would mean a lot to me if you would support me there! Love you all and happy halloween!!
I’m so happy to tell you all that I’ve made great progress with my mental health!! To genuinely be able to say that I feel happy is so liberating and free! I know a lot of you are still in that dark place. I’m here to say that it does get better. Much better! I still have some tough days but progress is progress! Be kind and gentle to yourselves. I love you all and thank you to everyone who’s supported me over the years!
Here’s links to my commissions and projects! Commissions Animal Crossing Commissions Animal Crossing Tarot Cards Tarot Readings Seth In Space
I’m so proud of you! Also, can I say how chilling it is to physically see the growth in your art, its magical.
This post cheers me up every time I see it. It’s so motivational to me, and also happy Halloween!!!
Arizona Followers Squad.
(Cass is off making some phat caps, somewhere…)
Trans-inclusive language in religious texts is SO IMPORTANT. There is nothing in some young people’s lives that can either validate or dehumanize them so quickly as how they see themselves represented in the words of their religion.
May all who need to see these words find them.
This was such a blessing for me to see today! Thank you Adonai for having this come across my timeline.
is any woman ever truly immune to the “virgin mary reflex” where you know it’s not possible but your brain still says “but what if tho”
It literally only happened once in all of recorded history but that was enough to cast a doubt
ideal man
This is how I talk after gargling a cup of playground sand
Disability Pride Month 07-19-20: two types
hint…always be #2. we like #2.
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