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Been slowly scrolling back through my inbox and queuing up answers. Finally got back to two weeks ago when I mentioned the hospital gave me fentanyl, and the number of "alarmed" messages I got from non-followers lecturing me about taking such a "dangerous drug" has me rolling.

Like c'mon. First of all, it was a one-time dosage to knock me out for a procedure that didn't even knock me out, and second of all, I'm not a fucking cop <3

Just so we're clear, anyone can get addicted to drugs, and it can be devastating. This post is not making fun of addicts.

It's taking a knife-swipe at people who swallow copaganda and spout all kinds of anti-medication rhetoric at me and people like me any time we mention managing our pain with anything other than "positive vibes" and exercise.

I've lost so many friends to the opioid crisis -- not from opioid use, but because the response to the opioid crisis was to start denying people (like me) adequate pain management, and they ended up seeking out other means to manage their pain. Non-legal means that killed them.

Me talking about being given fentanyl in a medical setting in an OR should NOT have resulted in as many people as it did, telling me I'm a bad person for "using drugs." (I kept scrolling and found even more, just like wtf)

And also, people who misuse substances are not bad people. They're sick. Usually in immense amounts of pain, be it physical or mental, and they deserve compassion and help.

Do not believe copaganda. Do not send people these kinds of weird moralizing messages about their healthcare because you've swallowed the copaganda. Use your heads.

A BEAR ATE MY BEST HUMMINGBIRD FEEDER.

Rude.

Someone tell that bear he's not supposed to eat that with the skin on.

I live in South Africa. And if you live in South Africa and you have any contact with people from the US or Canada you might have run into a question about wildlife like lions and elephants roaming our streets. Most South Africans get pretty offended by questions like this. We are a civilized country, our large and dangerous wildlife gets contained in properly fenced parks. 

I use to get offended by this until I visited a few places in Canada and realized that the reason why you ask is that some of your large and dangerous wildlife does simply roam the countryside and sometimes make excursions into town.

This honestly blew my mind. What do you mean, you have bears just walking around? What the hell? 

north americans don't all encounter deadly megafauna on our porches and front lawns but it happens often enough that we all think this is a reasonable amount of gigantic animal to happen to your house. so when we think of africa we kinda imagine it like this:

like. if we had elephants here. this is what we would be putting up with on the regular. what do you mean you guys are more sensible than us.

Few weeks ago there was a black bear casually roaming the suburbs with local news casually reporting on it, while surrounding cities were like "Hang on, there's bears that close to DC?" Bear was caught and relocated. Casually.

The ones that really freak me out isn’t listed above: alligators and crocodiles.

There’s tons of them along significant stretches of the US and they just kinda... wander around sometimes.  And I mean, what are you going to do to stop them?  Put up a fence?

Good luck!

i love you sober friendly spaces i love you restaurants w mocktails on the menu i love you social events not hosted at bars i love you bringing non-alcoholic drinks to parties i love you shamelessly being sober so people know it’s accepted i love you not making fun of ppl who don’t drink i love you still inviting people who don’t drink to social events where ppl are drinking if u know they’re comfortable w it i love you normalizing not drinking

So in the past few years I’ve seen so many videos / posts that are like:

“Actually wolves don’t have hierarchies!  They live in family groups where the ‘alphas’ are mom and dad and the other wolves are their CHILDREN and offer their respect willingly! :D”

and I just have to say

how dare you try to make normative nuclear families out of wolves

Yes, a lot of the old “nature red in tooth and claw” stuff about wolves is nonsense. (Like anything from Jack London.) And anything ‘alpha’ you see sleazy men trying to relate to dating (yikes!) is especially nonsense.

But wolves are complex social creatures and they create complex social structures. Just as you can’t say “THIS is the way human society is structured. Just THIS single way and no other”, so too there is no single form for a wolf pack.  

Some packs are a mom wolf and a dad wolf and their wolf children.  Others are two small ragged packs that combine to form a large pack.  Others are packs where a lone wolf joins and eventually becomes a leader. Others are packs where a grown child-wolf has pushed their parent out of the leadership role.

Speaking of the latter, let’s look at the tale of Wolf 40 and Wolf 42.

Wolf 40, Wolf 41, and Wolf 42 were wild Yellowstone wolves, daughters of the alphas. Their father was illegally killed by hunters and shortly after ambitious Wolf 40 ousted her mother, driving her out of the pack.  Wolf 21 became the new alpha male, and 40′s mate.

Wolves have personalities, and Wolf 40′s personality was “volatile”.  Imagine Scar from The Lion King combined with the boss from Office Space, and you have Wolf 40.  She habitually bullied the other female wolves, attacking them until they expressed abject submission.  And the wolves that got the worst of it were her sisters, Wolves 41 and 42.

Wolf 41 got tired of the bullying and left.  Wolf 42 remained, perhaps because she was close to Wolf 21, the alpha male.  Despite that, Wolf 21 did not interfere when his mate harassed Wolf 42.

Unlike 40, Wolf 42 got along well with the other female wolves, spending time grooming them and relaxing with them. Wolf 40 could have followed her sister’s example and built up positive social bonds. But she didn’t.

One day, Wolf 40 went out on an important task.  She was going to kill another litter of her sister’s pups–having done the same in two previous years.  This isn’t uncommon wolf behavior (but is not universal, as we will see.)  Typically only the alphas breed.

However, Wolf 40 never returned from her important task because Wolf 42–who previously had submitted to her alpha and sister, who had allowed the killing of two previous litters of pups–had had enough.  She fought back.

And the other female wolves jumped to aid her.

Collectively, they killed Wolf 40. Because “alpha” isn’t a magic cloak of protection, it doesn’t even mean “strongest wolf”, it’s just a job title.

The next day Wolf 42 carried her pups, one by one, to her sister’s den.  She set her children among the pups of her dead sister and raised both litters together. And when another wolf in the pack had pups, Wolf 42 carried them to the den to be communally raised as well.  She was the alpha female now and she made the rules, and the first rule was “we don’t hurt pups here.”

As for Wolf 21, he became the mate of Wolf 42.  Maybe he understood that Wolf 40 had been riding for a fall. 

As alpha female, Wolf 42 continued to be supportive and kind towards the other pack members.  Wolves who had been nervous wrecks under Wolf 40 began to relax and come into their own; one of the former omega wolves gained self-confidence and became one of the best hunters.

“Alpha”, for wolves, just means leader.  They might be good leaders, whom you respect, or they might be bad leaders, who fill you with dread.  They might be your parents, or they might not.  Even if they are your mother or father, wolves don’t contextualize those relationships the same way humans do.

But one thing wolves have in common with humans is that they have individual personalities and experiences, and their actions derive from those.  There is no “typical wolf pack.” And I think that’s beautiful.

If you want to learn more about wild wolf dynamics, I recommend reading the annual Yellowstone Wolf Project Reports.  Which are FASCINATING.  There are also some good wildlife specials out there.

Wolves are my favorite animal. <3  It pains me to see them misunderstood as crazed bloodthirsty brutes, but it also pains me to see them woobified.  They deserve better than that.

really fun how so much of film discourse has regressed to “well some movies are boy movies and some movies are girl movies and if you’re a girl you can’t like boy movies because girls are too stupid to even understand boy movies and if you’re a boy who enjoys girl movies you’re gay (derogatory)” but in progressive language

Anonymous asked:

What's your opinion on the heat death of the universe?

Ah, entropy...that bitch.

Ok, quick science lesson for everyone. Entropy is basically the measurement of energy available that can do "work". It's random and based off of lots of variables for different mass.

Or, to simplify it even more: ordered things will always become disordered at an atomic level.

It is not an easy topic to understand at all, so don't worry if your brain just stopped.

The universe is a closed system.. This means as far as we know, no further energy is coming in. With no further energy, the atoms of the universe are inexorably moving to a state of disorder. Meaning, a state where they no longer interact with each other.

The heat death of the universe is one of the theories of how the universe will eventually end: everything so spread out that atoms no longer interact, leading to the universe to slowly disappear into nothing.

However, it is not something that is certain (and there are plenty of other not so miserable theories) and not happening anytime soon.

Earth is an open system, by the way. We get energy in from the Sun. Which is one of the reasons life could evolve here.

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Janet does have a thing she can say that does make me realize she is really not her. I called Janet "girl," but she didn't say, "Not a girl. " The real Janet always says, "Not a girl. "

Good Omens (2019 -) // The Good Place (2016-2020) // Nimona (2023)

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I am compelled to note that the Uhura line was an ad-lib. I love it so much more for that.

I cannot stress this enough, write it poorly. Write the shittiest draft you possibly can, stick 'ah fuck something happens here and now they're fighting' to get over

Write the worst fucking version you possibly can and stick it in a folder and forget it for a month or two before you look at it again. You know what you have now?

A first draft. And with enough time to think some new thoughts about it, you'll soon end up with a better, second draft! And eventually, you'll end up with something you'd be perfectly okay with letting other people read!

You'll never believe this process works no matter how many times you do it, but it totally does. You just have to drag your brain kicking and screaming to that blank page and get the bones down first.

Write the shit out of that shit.

I've seen a few people talk about it, so I wanted to say - if your character uses they/them in Baldur's Gate 3 and an NPC uses a gendered term for you, please submit a bug report! That is a flag that is being misapplied, and it can be fixed. There are thousands of pronoun cases in every playthrough, and a few are bound to be incorrect, so let Larian know.

But also be polite to QA in your form. They're busting their ass 24/7 to provide fixes.

I don’t know what data BG3 sends/Larian QA receives with a bug report, but if you’re wondering how you can word things to help in a bug report in general (this goes for this bug & any others you may encounter), solid info you can add includes:

- Your character’s race, pronouns & class

- Location in which the bug occurred

- The NPC you were speaking to & the dialogue option selected (if you remember!)

- What quest you were on/progressing, if relevant

- Steps to Recreate/Step-by-Step of what happened, if possible (ie “NB Tiefling Paladin on Quest QUESTNAMEHERE -> talked to QUESTNPC -> Chose [PALADIN] PALADINDIALOG -> Received binary gendered response”)

The more detail you can provide, the easier it is for QA to narrow down where the bug, incorrect flag, etc is. Always be kind in your reports! Probably goes without saying, but QA is hard and stuff falls thru the cracks.

Someone in an autism facebook group I'm in just asked "How am I supposed to earn enough to make a living without burning out?"

Someone replied: "You're not. Even neurotypicals can't right now in the system designed for them. We're the canaries in the coalmine. When we start failing, they know something is wrong."

People keep saying, "Oh, everyone thinks they're neurodivergent now!" or they'll say it's the foods or chemicals or whatever other nonsense they've fallen for, but to me the answer is so obvious?

We've gotten to a point that more and more people are being left behind by the system, making it so that neurodivergent parents who could get by fine *enough* in decades/centuries past are bringing children into a world that cannot and will not attempt to accommodate them. There's nothing in the water and people aren't faking, it's just that this is no longer sustainable or livable and of course people with disabilities will be hit first and hit the hardest. There aren't more people with it, it's just harder to go through life without being aware that you're not functioning the way your peers seem to be able to.

Why do right-wingers crackpots believe the most boring conspiracy theories?

Oh they’re putting things in the water/food/vaccines? Elites are sexual predators? How unimaginative.

How about something more creative like the government feeding radioactive isotopes to the mentally disabled?

Or giving black men fake syphilis treatments to study the disease?

Or kidnapping people and subjecting them to LSD and sensual depravation to try and develop mind control?

Or secretly hiring Nazi scientists to work in NASA?

To quote the YouTuber miniminuteman773:

“You don’t actually have to make up an evil shadow government to be mad at. You can just be mad at the actual government.”

Anonymous asked:

Ok so this is a kind of weird ask but results day is coming up in the UK next week and while waiting for grades is stressful I actually think the thing I'm most stressed about is how I'm supposed to react to my grades when I open them. I've been trying to work out how I'm going to react for different sets of grades but it's really hard to do and I was wondering if you/any of your followers had any advice?

Thank you for running this blog!!

My honest opinion is: react like yourself.

Many autistic people take time to process input, and this includes emotions and information.

It may help to start off by thinking logically only (ie "this grade is most important, and this one is least etc) so that you can gather the information.

But emotionally, just be honest. It may not hit you until several days later. It may disrupt your sleep. You may need to talk about it with others, or bunker down in your sensory/safety nest to cope.

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i actually want to expand on this point for a second: conservatives very often don’t perceive their beliefs as hypocritical because they don’t believe in equality. they don’t believe that black people are the same as white people, or that women are the same as men, or that foreigners are the same as their neighbors, or that rich people are the same as poor people, or that THEY are the same as YOU.

‘isn’t it hypocritical to say a woman should cover up her legs when you, a man, are wearing shorts?’ not if you think men and women have fundamentally different bodies and that their exposed skin serves completely different purposes.

‘isn’t it hypocritical to complain about homeless people on welfare but not bat an eye at all the government subsidies your farm rakes in?’ no! hardworking farmers are the backbone of america, no matter how much tax payer money they blow through to toodle their fuckin tractors around the cornfield, and bums are vermin.

‘isn’t it hypocritical to freak out at the idea of trans women invading bathrooms to creep on children when you keep voting for politicians that are repeatedly accused of sexually abusing underage girls?’ not if you refuse to believe that any of the politicians actually did that, OR that any of the trans women never actually did that.

‘isn’t it hypocritical’-- look. it’s like this. if a good guy and a bad guy do the exact same thing, it’s good when the good guy does it and bad when the bad guy does it. this is a collection of christian notions gone very wrong--that the devil can do things that look good just to trick people, and that sometimes doing the right thing hurts and has sad consequences--but it feels great to believe, so people are just going to keep doing it.

it’s fine that so many republican politicians have raped so many girls that don’t count and aren’t real. it’s fine that cops use our money to kill the poor people we deny the money to be safe and healthy. it’s fine that women are paid less, that blacks are policed more, that refugees are shot for approaching our borders. it’s fine. it’s right. 

they do not want a world in which everyone is equal. they do not perceive that as fair. they want this world, in which everyone is respected according to how human they are, and the measuring stick starts at their feet. 

sorry don’t usually rb politics but this^^

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Saw a video explaining how simplistic arguments sound more correct such that a simple lie has more sway than a complex truth. Because understanding a simple lie is more comforting than acknowledging that you aren't amongst the most knowledgeable people on a given topic.

If real world issues like climate change or school shootings or giving rights to oppressed groups means acknowledging that parts of the status quo are flawed, it's much easier to convince yourself the issues aren't real and choose not to believe in it.

And it isn't just comfort with the status quo and this superiority complex either. Some, mostly the hardcore Christian sort, actively want the world to end. That pain and suffering for those they don't see as equal is normal and moral, and when it reaches those that they DO give a shit about, it's turned into "before the end days there will be much suffering" or "the Bible says before the second coming there will be a lot of this sort of things". And change nothing, and find it correct, because they're more concerned about speedrunning their eternal reward than giving a shit about their fellow man- even the ones they acknowledge as their peers. Any change for the better is slowing down the coming of the end of days, and therefore is a sin.

Its this dual pronged situation of them genuinely believing these other people are lesser, anyone who isn't them, and believing they're such special goodboys that they should be allowed to destroy the world at everyone else's expense to get their award for being such special goodboys faster.