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All Night Daydream

@cozza-frenzy / cozza-frenzy.tumblr.com

OSDD-1b System of 11 - The Magbox! Body is 36 y/o, our host is Terry Autism Enjoyer, Problematic Fave, Actual Cartoon Character, Mixter Dad Guy, Certified Whatchamacallit, Out Here And Out Queer. Be weird, but don't Be Weird About It. Making posts worse in the tags since 2013. TERFS, SWERFS, Gender Exclusionists, Radqueers, TransID, Fascists, Zionists, DID/OSDD "Skeptics", Endogenics/Endo Supporters and Fakeclaimers get blocked on sight
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We're The Magbox System! That means we have a type of Dissociative Identity Disorder (suspected OSDD 1-b), previously known as Multiple Personality Disorder. Our current headcount is 11, but that's liable to change as we recover. We are firmly anti-endogenic! Having alters can't come from anything other than dissociation caused by trauma and abuse. No, we will not debate you on this. Our host is Terry! Sometimes known as Tea, and some people might call them Exi, but that's a throwback to a much older online handle that we no longer use. We're collectively Queer and Polyamorous! Our husband is Lito (not currently active on tumblr) and our partner system is The Panopticon Collective, @rinjak3. Sigyn is Terry's queerplatonic partner; Martin is dating Jon and Jonny, Chaos is dating Len, Thirteen is dating Archivist Grian. Not all our alters are super active on tumblr, but there's a list of all our alters and their personal tags (if they have them) here We like getting asks! If you have questions for us, our askbox is usually open (Anon is currently: ON) Extra/more detailed stuff under the cut. Thanks, and have fun!

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Anonymous asked:

Hey guys!! How y’all doin’ lately?

- TBS

Hi there! I don't recognize your signoff, but it's always good to hear from a friendly face, even if that face is (partially) anonymous. Dissociative identity disorder sure does have symptoms, so sorry if we've met before and I just forgot. But we're doing good, for the most part! Lito unfortunately got sick from some restaurant food, but he's making a speedy recovery. We had no plans for today anyway, due to it being a Sunday and Cinco De Mayo - and the weather was terrible as well with scattered thunderstorms. Not enough wind to break the humidity, and they didn't last long enough to catch Roy's interest. But we had a nice chill day at home; our system made fish and chips for lunch, The Panopticon made gyros for dinner, and between that we mostly just talked. Things have been quieter than normal for us in the front - maybe because being less stressed and having another companion means we switch less frequently? But everyone's getting to spend quality time with their friends and partners, and tomorrow we're headed to the NASA Space Center!

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Anonymous asked:

how's the husband and partner getting along (if you're comfortable asnwering)

Far as I can tell, they're getting along just fine? It can be a little hard for him to keep up with who's fronting in The Panopticon, but they're a much bigger system than we are - and they've also been pretty switchy. Alters with partners want to see their partners when they're in front, and all the exciting things going on means everybody wants their turn. Generally, he just treats whoever's at front with the same respect he would anyone. There are some things about our condition that he can't understand simply because his brain doesn't work the same way; but he really does try his best. And likewise, I think everyone in the Panopticon who's met him thinks he's pretty chill.

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Anonymous asked:

i hope you and your partner have tons of fun!!

Thanks Anon(s) - things are honestly going pretty great! So far we've had a lot of fun; just about everybody in the system has met their respective partners and spent some quality time together. So far we've done a little shopping, eaten at some great restaurants - today, we went to the Butterfly Habitat at the Natural History Museum, and we're baking a loaf of bread to take on a picnic. Over the next couple of days we have a trip to NASA Space Center planned, and I managed to snag some tickets to the monthly free day at the Houston Zoo. Maybe we'll post some photos later, but for now we're just focusing on making some good memories together!

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Terry, top 5 favourite fashion accessories

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Oh boy, I'm gonna need to think on this... 1) My hat (same one as in the picture I use to answer asks, I also have it in our inner world) 2) Purple stripey scarf (forget where we got this, but we still have it) 3) Meow Wolf bracelets (Lito brought them back for us from Meow Wolf Las Vegas - I hope we get to go someday) 4) Glow In The Dark Green Soul Pin (a one-of-a-kind item from the Atlantale convention - the seller only made one because the others didn't turn out like they'd hoped) 5) Our messenger bag I guess?? It has a lot of pockets and a bunch of badges on it. Thanks for asking!

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reblogged

not even a bingo smh

the partner review is in. turns out I have severe amnesia (who'd have thought)

callout under the cut HSHSH

Reblogging because this is so fucking funny and relatable and you got called out, my dude (gender-neutral) /I am laughing so fucking hard omg

-host

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cozza-frenzy

Those two "?" squares are because they're both close but just barely miss the mark. Have written several stories not necessarily relating to suppressed memories, but that did involve characters having prophetic dreams, a "mindscape" that functions similar to an inner world, or superhuman abilities based on emotions or affected by their mental state. And we were never a theater kid - but we used to come out of DJ performances, D&D sessions and other such things, with no memory of what we were just doing and no idea why we were good at it. Dissociative disorders can be pretty wild - Terry

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helloelicia
Anonymous asked:

i know what you mean about these phrases feeling condescending sometimes.

the way I've used "don't borrow grief from the future" in my own mind is to help me when I am having disruptive intrusive thoughts about worst case scenarios.

for example, I do often worry about loved ones dying suddenly, and sometimes that worry can intrude on whatever I'm doing in the moment and take me mentally all the way into a future where that happens and make me feel severe grief despite the fact that what I'm imagining isn't real yet.

and it's certainly possible this worst case scenario could happen, and there is a practical amount of thinking and planning and speculating that can be done, and a reasonable amount of melancholy bittersweetness that i do appreciate a lot from knowing that this can and do go wrong without warning, but for me the intrusive thought takes me far beyond any useful response, and can put me in the acute emotional distress that I would be in in that situation despite that situation not being real at the moment.

and what I've learned from experience is: practicing that acute emotional state does not actually prepare me much for it in future.

I'm not going to control or prevent any aspect of my future emotional grief and distress by also feeling that grief and distress now just in case. I'm mostly making my present moment more difficult. but sometimes i feel like i owe it to future me to feel bad now too, even tho i bet future me doesn't actually want that.

so I guess for me it's explicitly not advice against doing any kind of practical planning or preparation, it's advice i use for giving myself permission to stop engaging with the catastrophic possibility before i go down the emotional rabbit hole that can be very paralyzing.

i mean, I think people often use this phrase in regards to worrying about much less emotionally fraught things, but this is what the phrase helps with for me, privately.

dunno if that helps or just muddies the water further tho!

This is actually a really great perspective that makes a lot of sense to me and offers a sympathetic way of seeing the thing that I probably couldn't have worked out on my own, so thank you for sharing it.

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jonniechill

really surprised i have of yet to see this reading of laios' and toshiro's relationship before tbh

sharing some good tags from folks that elaborate on this well:

and not to put a finer point on it, but the likely reason why we haven't seen this take previously:

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cozza-frenzy

After seeing the latest episode, we've reconsidered things a bit. Just for some context; we have read the manga, but having a Dissociative Disorder means our memories of it are fragmented, and it's harder to grasp it's nuance months after the fact. Honestly I think the fandom did Toshiro dirty, but there's likewise nothing wrong with sympathizing with the autistic-coded Laios. I think, or at least hope, that after their fight they both come away from it understanding each other better. They're both hurting each other, as inherently flawed human being tend to do, by circumstances beyond their control. One of them can't help it because of cultural conditioning, the other can't help it because of (heavy coded) autism. Both readings can be equally correct because Ryoko Kui is Japanese and is more than likely autistic herself. As an autistic system, we see a lot of ourselves in her writing - in ways that allistic people never have to think about, because these issues simply don't affect them. For evidence of this, try checking out of of her "Daydream Hour" sketch pages (feat. Falin having sensory issues with clothes) or her work "Terrarium In Drawer", which has a short story about a young man trying to navigate an ordinary conversation like it's a rhythm game. But anyway; it's been an interesting insight into how the specific experience of being autistic in Japanese society must feel. Twitter OP is correct; you are expected to know a billion different social cues, and it does punish both sides, but knowing Kui is (more than likely) autistic adds another layer to this. Through Toshiro, Kui-san seems to aim to try and understand the frustrations of her peers. This, I think, is less representative of the interactions between the Well-Meaning Foreigner and the Dignified Japanese Noble - and more how a friendly autistic person acts when they don't bother to mask, running head-first into the rigid, highly conformist expectations of Japanese society.

Whatever your personal conclusion, though? The fact that an interaction between two characters - one of whom actually doesn't get much overall screentime - can say so much and have so many ways to interpret subtext is a testament to Kui's writing skills.

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aimlesspoet

a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints

I have so much trauma about this, that all those friendly like "your friends don't hate you, they're just busy!" posts honestly grate on my nerves at this point.

Because like, yeah, sometimes they do hate you. Sometimes you're fighting for your fucking life, masking so hard so you have no fuckin' clue who you even are, and the dissociated shell of a copied personality you're remotely piloting manages to make some friends.

But then they start seeing all the cracks in your facade. You're not really like them. You're just several raccoons in an extremely ill fitting skin suit and they find your chittering off putting.

But our society has no script for that. So they just pretend to like you. And you just pretend to be the person they could like. And on some level everyone knows we're all pretending and everyone hates it, but no one says anything.

And then school ends and you drift apart and that happens at least two or three times while your brain is still solidifying shit, and at some point you just start to believe that You're bad at making friends.

When in reality, you were never given a chance to be who you are to attract the kinda folks who would actually enjoy being your friend in the first place.

So yeah, what OP said, bottom fucking tier.