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I'm not sorry for having you know this exists XD

Why do they want us dead so badly

stfu this price on food will keep me alive when I’m starving and putting quarters together to maybe stay alive until my next shift.

rich people: why is unhealthy food so cheap? don’t they know we have no self-control and will eat this until it causes health problems?

poor people: oh, thank god, something i can afford.

Five bucks can buy you so much more though if you take more than five minutes to prepare it.

Umm. Idk where you’re buying groceries, but $5 doesn’t get me anything.

Lol they want u to live on salted pasta and nothing else. XDDD God forbid people want something cheap that TASTES good.

Like- if u have more than $5 u can buy lots of things in bulk and per serving it’s cheaper. But for just straight $5??? Fuck outta here. $5 is like the cost of one spice at a grocery store ffs

Yeah for just straight $5 I could maybe buy a bag of rice and a jar of peanut butter, and that’s honestly less complete nutrition than that fast food, which at least has some vegetables in it, some meat, etc.

Rich people don’t get that being poor actually costs money. Terry Pratchett summed it up pretty well in one of the Discworld books: “But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that’d still be keeping his feet dry in ten years’ time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.”

In fact, it’s such a good example that one widely used term to describe this socioeconomic bullshit is literally ‘Vime’s Boots’

wake up babe, new reason to ditch FANDOM/Wikia just dropped

Previosuly

Alternative free wiki hostings (aka wiki farms)

Other free options I'm aware of are either too limited in allowed content or are very outdated/unstable in technical department to recommend here (or in case of Neoseeker - I'm completely unfamiliar with it, and can't say anything about it), but you still can check them out, alongside paid hostings, on this MediaWiki page.

If you (or your community) are brave and dedicated enough you can go with self-hosted MediaWiki instance (aka independent hosting), like JoJo Wiki (who started on Wikia and succeed at overtaking the SEO) or NIWA wikis. This option, of course, requires funding and technical knowledge, but it's still very much possible.

How to find existing alternative/independent wikis

Fuck FANDOM, support real people, support indie wikis

Illustration for Cosmopolitan, June 1974 Detail

it always makes me sad to see the cropped image on my dash cuz like

the original specifically centers bi women’s sexuality & that context just gets cropped out 😔

My plentiful harvest

ID: A picture of four brown seals in the grass, one of them laying on top of two who are right next to each other. The seals look shiny and wet.

I have been a sheep caretaker for like two days and already I'm like. Wow. I get it.

I get why these were some of the earliest mammals to ever be domesticated. They look up to humans with this sort of dumb but all at once innocent and pure and trusting expression. They're happy to see you. They follow you around. They like to be rubbed under their chins. Maybe its just some latent Scottish highland shepherd DNA I still have in me but I look at my sheep charges and suddenly I see why the love of God for humanity is so often described as a shepherd and his sheep. I'd fight a wolf for these guys. I'd go way the Hell out of my way for them. I'd carry their young for miles on my own back.

nearly 80k reblogs and how many of you eat lamb

The ancient shepherds I'm referencing also ate lamb lol

And? Ancient people also did a lot of other morally questionable things that we shouldn’t continue to do. 

But to my point, it’s just a bummer to see so many people agreeing that sheep are trusting animals, that they are individuals with personalities, that they have the capacity to feel love and affection, and so many people seem to agree that they would “go way the hell out of our way” for them... but that compassion and empathy ends when we decide to order lamb chops off a menu. They trust us and we betray them by killing them.

They trust us because people selectively bred them to eat them. If nobody ever ate them they wouldn't trust you at all lol.

"I don't owe anyone my time, I will respond to your messages when I see fit."

that's fine but then you gotta accept that people are going to pick up on your poor communication and either get real clingy about it or distance themselves from you all together

seriously even just a "I can't respond rn but I'll get back to you" does wonders and you don't even have to tell them why

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So, Peer Respites are a not-very-well-known alternative to psychiatric hospitalization. They are 100% voluntary and staffed by peers, AKA individuals with lived experience of mental illness/emotional distress/what-have-you. Generally, they are a homelike environment where you can come and go as you please, and there is lots of voluntary programming like groups, art, yoga, etc. You can bring your own food or cook meals together with staff and other residents. Stays are usually anywhere from five days to two weeks, depending on the respite house and also your own wants and needs. There are no restraints, strip searches, or seclusion.

They're also on the rise!! I know this because I've spent all day today compiling data on peer respites in the US so I could create this fun graph for ya'll.

In the past ten years, at least 38 new peer respites have opened in the US. The data for 2023 is incomplete, but at least one has already opened, and another is scheduled for a soft opening later this year.

Some things about the data:

If you would like to help get a peer respite off the ground, I would recommend donating to Peer Support Space Inc.'s Orlando FL Peer Respite. Their soft launch is November 2023, and they are scheduled to open to the public in January 2024. This is really important, because Florida's only peer respite has recently permanently closed.

If you're interested in starting your own peer respite, the National Empowerment Center has a list of resources here.

If you are interested in seeking help from a peer respite, there is a directory of most of them here. You can also look at the Google Doc I created to compile my data, which has a few more/is slightly more updated - though it's not nearly as nicely put together as the other one!

If anyone would like to add any information, non-US peer respites, etc, feel free to!

If safety in your ideal society is entirely based on care by networks of affinity, and does not provide care for people who are not liked by anybody, then your society is actually even worse than the situation we are in now.

Pissing off people close to you or over-exhausting your social network or isolating yourself is often an inherent part of many mental health problems, addictions, etc. By the time people need care the most, they have often lost all their networks of affinity, and with some bad luck, any of us could find ourselves in that situation.

There has to be unconditional care available for the more unlikable of us, or there isn't really a safety net for any of us.

The thing that concerns me the most is that the people I see arguing for only informal/community support networks are often in communities that have a lot of interpersonal drama and poor conflict resolution skills. So it's like...this should be your primary support network, but also people get excommunicated on a regular basis? That's a terrible idea for everyone involved. People who have caused harm still deserve help, and people who have been harmed deserve the ability to set boundaries and remove people from their lives in ways that aren't sentencing that person to losing all their options for basic support.

Reblogging with tags from @kdhume

the goal should always be a dozen different overlapping support networks, both informal and formal, institutional and interpersonal, distant and close. so if one net fails, there’s half a dozen more below it.

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ID: A white mug that says "There is no 'I" in 'team', but there are 6 'I's in 'dissociative identity disorder'." End of ID.]

Hiiii ^_^ please no blunt damage against me

[ID: A drawing of a sad looking ant holding a spiked mace - a long stick with a spikey metal ball at the end. The original image had the ant holding a bindle - a stick with a cloth wrapped around it meant to carry your belongings while moving away. End of ID.]

I've seen a lot of questions like "if you don't feel what other people are feeling and at the same time you are apathetic about others, what stops you from being a bad person?"

and as much as questions like those usually offend me, that one actually makes me stop and think about it

I guess my reasons are

I would like to hear other narcissists, folks with low/fluctating empathy, or other people who struggle with being "good" about their explanations!

Or narcissists who have dropped trying to be good, friendly, or kind and are just trying to make it through life without causing any problems!

And for egotypicals! I have a question!

Is empathy the only thing that makes you be kindhearted and nice towards someone or do you have other reasons (feel free to go in detail!)? Do you find it difficult to not be mean to someone when you can't empathize with someone? These are genuine btw I am asking with an open mind!

Aa, I always enjoy when we can have these kinds of discussions! I've been enjoying reading the replies!

I've found that ever since I've let go of the stigma I've been holding onto for certain narcissistic traits, it's been really difficult to talk about the concept of general neurodivergant stigma with egotypicals.

We were talking about it during supper and one of the things that came up was "Ugh and therapists always act like it's because we have control issues". I didn't say anything, but the what I thought was "well sometimes you guys do have control issues."

For a lot of people, controlling behavior is based around the need to feel stable. Feeling confused, uninformed, and unfamiliar can be triggering; a very common coping mechanism people reach for is to seek control. This is especially true if you also have trust issues and are completely unsure of how the people around you would treat a situation if they were in control.

Obviously, relying on control as a coping mechanism can be a harmful thing. It can lead to things that both harm yourself (eating disorders, self-harm) and others (a strain on your relationships). But that doesn't mean it's morally wrong to have issues with control or to find comfort in control. A therapist saying "this may have something to do with issues surrounding control" is no more insulting than them saying "this may have something to do with issues surrounding anxiety". My therapist is comfortable enough to point out when an issue I'm having may be linked to my fear about the lack of control over a situation, and I'm honestly relieved to hear that since then it becomes something I can work on (though, some therapists do suck and will use "is this a control issue?" to shut you down or make you feel guilty, I'm definitely not the person who would deny shitty people can become therapists).

Especially because it's completely normal to want control over some things. I remember nonchalantly saying, "I know you like having control over your projects" and the person I was speaking to got a little upset about that. I then said, "sorry, what I meant was that you are very particular and specific on how you like having your projects done" and they agreed with that statement despite it meaning the same thing as the other one. It's fine & normal to want complete control over projects that only involve yourself!

It would be nice if we didn't automatically pair specific actions to certain emotions or mental states. People assume "control seeking" means "is going to harm people in order to stay in control", and then to further distance themselves from control seekers they go on to assume that people who do harm others to stay in control are irredeemable monsters who have no chance in bettering themselves. If people didn't dehumanize the idea of someone who seeks control then it would be easier to:

I feel like there is a big misconception about masking in the community, especially in the younger circles.

When you look up resources on ASPD/NPD, you are mostly hit with people being like "psychopaths ARE PRETENDING TO BE SOMEONE COMPLETELY ELSE but when you are with them THE MONSTER COMES OUT".

I feel like that thing subconsciously went into the minds of people with those disorders, especially if you are self-diagnosed and have to rely on resources you find on the internet and in books.

Masking is not carefully picking out a personality and then acting every time you meet another person. Of course, it could look like that, but those cases are rare and definitely never kept up consistently because it's so exhausting. Can it be fun to do on a night out where you don't plan on keeping in contact with anyone? Sure. But constantly, you just won't manage that, especially if you are more extroverted than introverted or if you have many social interactions for other reasons.

It's also not masking if you are acting different at work, around children, around your friends or around your closest people. That's completely natural, everyone does this, even people who do not have a cluster B disorder.

Masking looks more like covering up negative symptoms of your disorder. If I really don't give a shit about that persons relative dying, then I will obviously not tell them that. Masking is covering up the lack of empathy, sympathy, impulsive thoughts, violent thoughts, anything people might consider as "immoral". It's more knowing what to keep to yourself than actually making up being another person.

I feel like some people feel some sort of pressure on them to make their masking game perfect, even though it's really not that deep. You can show people who you are. You can show them your passions, what you love, what your dreams are. Maybe don't tell them if your passion is seeing people's guts falling out, but you have so many positive attributes too, you don't need to hide that. I'm not talking about masking of autistic people, just about masking in cluster B personality disorders, as I am not autistic and can't talk about that.